Topic : 03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

I definitely believe people are getting too carried away with surgeries these days.  I, too, found myself, when I was younger, obsessed with my looks and wanted to get breast augmentation.  I went so far as to meet with a surgeon.  I never did it and am SOOOOOOO glad I didn't.    After children, while I was breastfeeding, my breasts grew so large, I realized how uncomfortable I was.  I couldn't find a comfortable position to sleep in and couldn't find "cute" bras at the store, only the ugly and boring type.  I was so glad to get back to my normal size I have never looked back.

I have since realized my body, and no one else's is perfect and have learned to put all that "thought-energy" I was wasting on how I looked into other people and making a difference in the world.  That is how I choose now to use this time in my head.

Also, my current boyfriend had an "ethnic" nose when he was younger.  He was always told how he looked like Al Pacino (who has a great honker!!!!).  He did have a nose job done and immediately regretted it.  He had someone who was considered the best in the business and "screwed" it up.  He had two more surgeries to fix it, but never got his same nose back.  Now 20 years later, appreciates better the nose he had been born with and wishes he had never had it done.

The lesson here I think is that our children are buying into thoughts and ideas that are not realistic, nor even really important or pertinent to their lives and are making a lot more out of how they look than who they are.  The young man today stated he wants people to pay attention to him not his nose, then HE needs to stop putting so much energy into thinking about his nose and what others are thinking and start paying more attention to what he actually wants to DO with his life and how HE WANTS to be perceived.  He has control over that, no one apparently has taught him.

The one quote that gets me through so many of my days:  YOU DON"T HAVE TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK.

Todays show was quite interesting.. I have noticed that many asian woman are doing the nose and eyelift

thing lately. Its sad that they dont like who they are and want to be like caucasian woman so desperately.

The Doc. that was on the show  today seems to be really ashamed to be Asian. Did anyone notice his Name?

COme on now.. There arent any Asians with Newen as a last name. He must have changed it from

Nguyen to Newen.. SO Sad So Sad

The vast majority of elective cosmetic surgery is changing what is genetically inherited and since genetics are our heritage, then any of it rejects one's heritage and it would all be "racially controversial."   I don't have a problem with any one type verses another.  Beauty will always be influenced by the culture of the day.  As far as Brad is concerned-  and I hope he reads this-  Go for it- but try to get it done for free!  With your deviated septum, insurance covers such thing since it can cause breathing trouble!  Good luck.

It would surprise me if James ever "get's it".  He probably won't have to give Roseanna her "walking papers", because she'll probably take them herself.  No woman deserves to be treated like a child in her marriage.  James does not understand what a "partnership" marriage is & probably never will.   I think with James, it's all about James.

Brad....I think you should ignore your relatives & especially the "friend" you call "Aunt".....it's simply none of her business, or anyone's actually.  If you want to have your nose fixed, go for it.  My niece wanted to have her nose fixed when she was about 12 yrs old.  Of course, she had to wait till she was in her 20's, working & had her own money to have it done.  Her parents were upset with her, but they got over it quickly, especially when they say how happy she was with her new nose.  It really should not be such a big deal to your family.  They will get over it.