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Topic : 03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

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Created on : Friday, September 14, 2007, 03:47:34 pm
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(Original Air Date: 09/20/07) Most everyone has thought about removing imperfections -- a nip here, a tuck there. But some people want plastic surgery to erase their ethnic identity! First up is James. He says he doesn’t want to change anything about himself because Asians are intellectually superior, and women should obey men. His wife, Roseanna, says he’s a controlling racist who demeans women, and she says she needs help before he corrupts their 11-year-old son. James says he’s ready to serve Roseanna her walking papers if she doesn’t become more obedient. Is James a controlling bigot or simply misunderstood? Then, Dr. Phil explores the pros and cons of eyelid surgery -- one of the most common cosmetic procedures for Asian women … and one of the most controversial! He talks to a woman who had a fold added to her upper eyelid, a plastic surgeon who performs these procedures and two guests who believe the surgery erases Asian heritage. Plus, Brad says he hates his nose, and he wants plastic surgery to look less Italian. His mother, Debbie, says she loves the way he looks -- big schnoz and all! Brad’s surgery is only a month away. Can Debbie convince him he's perfect just the way he is before he goes under the knife? Talk about the show here.

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March 26, 2008, 5:07 pm PDT

Bradley

Go for it.  My parents never had my teeth straightened when I was a child.  When I was 21, I had it done.  My parents told me that God would punish me for doing it.  They don't live inside your body and dont understand what it means to you.  If you feel better about yourself, go for it.  God will love you whether you do the surgery so not!
 
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March 26, 2008, 5:11 pm PDT

James 1/2 a person

 Okay James we know you are smart, now see if you can loosen up and develop the emotional side and maybe a personality would surface.  OMG---he would then be human and a great guy.
James, on your death bed would you rather have people say "I'll miss him, always remember him and he was a great guy." or "Too bad about James he was really intelligent."? Good luck to all.
 
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March 26, 2008, 5:35 pm PDT

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Whats the dirrerence in getting a boob job or a tummy tuck and changing your face?
There IS no difference...it's all irrelevant to who we are.  Our bodies are merely a vehicle, we carry our true selves within.  How shallow are we that we care so much about the outer and so little of the inner.  If you THINK you're ugly, then you're UGLY, if you THINK you're beautiful, then you're beautiful.  If we can create a society with our thoughts first, then by our actions-- then surely we can create an inner sense of self-worth, first by our thoughts, then how we choose to express our lives in the world.  This is evident when you travel to other countries where there is not so much emphasis on physical appearance and more on character and results.  We obviously have too much time on our hands to be placing so much thought on our looks, we need to spend more time being productive members of society and helping others.
 
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March 26, 2008, 5:38 pm PDT

Go ahead, get the surgery

As long as the surgery is not going to harm the individual psychologically in a negative way; go ahead get the surgery.  You will not be changing your ethnicity or race, just your looks and self confidence.  You are only changing what your outer shell looks like not what is inside your soul. If you are a good person before the surgery, you will continue being good afterwards.  We must admit there are cruel people out there who will make fun of people's looks.  Do what makes you happy, it is your life and if your family and friends really love you they will not hold it against you. 
 
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March 26, 2008, 6:09 pm PDT

Dr. Name?

Todays show was quite interesting.. I have noticed that many asian woman are doing the nose and eyelift

thing lately. Its sad that they dont like who they are and want to be like caucasian woman so desperately.

The Doc. that was on the show  today seems to be really ashamed to be Asian. Did anyone notice his Name?

COme on now.. There arent any Asians with Newen as a last name. He must have changed it from

Nguyen to Newen.. SO Sad So Sad

 
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March 26, 2008, 6:49 pm PDT

Brad's surgery

The vast majority of elective cosmetic surgery is changing what is genetically inherited and since genetics are our heritage, then any of it rejects one's heritage and it would all be "racially controversial."   I don't have a problem with any one type verses another.  Beauty will always be influenced by the culture of the day.  As far as Brad is concerned-  and I hope he reads this-  Go for it- but try to get it done for free!  With your deviated septum, insurance covers such thing since it can cause breathing trouble!  Good luck.

 
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March 26, 2008, 7:01 pm PDT

James & Roseanna

It would surprise me if James ever "get's it".  He probably won't have to give Roseanna her "walking papers", because she'll probably take them herself.  No woman deserves to be treated like a child in her marriage.  James does not understand what a "partnership" marriage is & probably never will.   I think with James, it's all about James.

 

Brad....I think you should ignore your relatives & especially the "friend" you call "Aunt".....it's simply none of her business, or anyone's actually.  If you want to have your nose fixed, go for it.  My niece wanted to have her nose fixed when she was about 12 yrs old.  Of course, she had to wait till she was in her 20's, working & had her own money to have it done.  Her parents were upset with her, but they got over it quickly, especially when they say how happy she was with her new nose.  It really should not be such a big deal to your family.  They will get over it. 

 
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March 26, 2008, 7:21 pm PDT

Go ahead, get the surgery

As long as the surgery is not going to harm the individual psychologically in a negative way; go ahead get the surgery.  You will not be changing your ethnicity or race, just your looks and self confidence.  You are only changing what your outer shell looks like not what is inside your soul. If you are a good person before the surgery, you will continue being good afterwards.  We must admit there are cruel people out there who will make fun of people's looks.  Do what makes you happy, it is your life and if your family and friends really love you they will not hold it against you. 
 
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March 26, 2008, 7:39 pm PDT

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Go for it.  My parents never had my teeth straightened when I was a child.  When I was 21, I had it done.  My parents told me that God would punish me for doing it.  They don't live inside your body and dont understand what it means to you.  If you feel better about yourself, go for it.  God will love you whether you do the surgery so not!

"God will punish you if you have your teeth straightened??" That is such a messed up thing to say to a child! Shame on your parents for using God in that way.......that's the kind of thing that turns people against religion.

 

I am a Christian, and am always dismayed when people use God or the Bible to hammer someone into doing what they want you to do, rather than what is Biblical.

 
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March 26, 2008, 8:05 pm PDT

Sexy Nose

This is for Brad.

Brad,

I LOVE YOUR NOSE!  I think that your nose and facial features are sexy. To be honest with you, I didn't even notice your nose until you mentioned it.  I was however, fascinated by the way you talk.  It reminded me of a very close friend of mine.  Good luck with your surgery, if you think that that is the best thing to do. 

 

Caterina_Baby

 
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