Topic : 03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

You are missing my point. My point is if a person is ashamed of their ethnicity and they get plastic surgery solely for the purpose, then this says don't love who they are. I said another culture meaning some people from another culture. I did not mean to suggest a whole group. My point it I can see where someone from another culture would be offended.

Also I don't look at people that way so I guess maybe I am just different. When I hear and see the word symmetry and view from an artistic perspective, I think perfectly the same on both side. In art classes the painting and visual pieces that were asymmetrical were always deemed the most interesting when critiqued by my teachers and the students. So maybe artists see things a little differently. There are different ways of seeing.

I was disappointed in the survey taken when random people were shown 3 photos and were asked which person was more attractive. What I found questionable were the differences in the apearances of the three women. The African-American photo and the Asian photo (although beautiful women) seemed like mug shots. The African American's had big hair which seemed unkept and the Asian looked like like a befor photo in an infomercial.

I think you could have done a better job. Would that have changed the results? Perhaps not. But it didn't seem fair.

Kat

Also, since we were talking about symmetry, I'd like to add this. I am considered very attractive and get hit on all the time by men of all different races, and my face is in no way symmetrical. So the symmetry studies may be true in most instances but the findings haven't applied in my case.

Though harder to spot, emotional abuse is easier to deny.  But just as physical abuse has signposts to mark its presence, emotional abuse, being a systematic attack on one's sense of self, has common traits.  Physical abuse comes in degrees of severity - emotional abuse also runs the gamut of intensity and damage.  Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight are:

School Mobbing and Emotional Abuse:  See It, Stop It, Prevent It by Gail Pursell Elliott

Mobbing:  Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace by Noa Davenport, Ruth Schwartz and Gail Pursell Elliot   

Rules for Office Politics: 

www.cyberpsych.com/politics1.html 

The First 90 Days:  Critical Success Strategies... by Michael Watkins

How To Journal For Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm

Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help:  The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood

Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward AND Why It Is Always About You?  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss OR Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger

The brain is involved in everything we do.  How we think, how we feel, how we act, and how well we get along with other people is related to the moment-by-moment functioning of the brain. When the brain works right, people tend to work right. When the brain is troubled, people tend to struggle being their best selves.   

Hope it helps!

It is not good for us to think that many Asians are somehow inherently more intelligent than non-Asians

when the truth is that if the majority of  people put the same amount of time in learning studying in as many Asians have been taught to do, then the majority of non-Asian people would be just as intelligent too.

This also works in a harmful way too. I heard an Asian-American female say that she hated growing up with the stigma that somehow Asians were smarter. She said in her math class at school, the teachers always expected her to have the correct answers and always looked for her to be the first to solve the math problems. The irony of it all, was that she hated math and wasn't good at math so this really annoyed her. It also made the other students begin to resent her because the teachers immediately assumed when she first came to class that she was smarter just because she was Asian.

I can also remember in a college class that I was taking where we were given an math assignment that would be due at the end of class and one of the Asian students as well as a 2 other students copied my friend's answers. When we all got our grades back my friend ended up being livid. My friend asked everyone what grade they received. The other 2 students who copied her answers received a grade of C just as she had because some of her answers were wrong. The Asian student received an A.  My friend and the rest of the students in class then assumed that the teacher didn't even bother to look at the Asian student's answers and just assumed that they were correct. I really don't know if this is what the teacher's thinking was but this is what the rest of the class thought.

I wanted to jump through the TV. Suppose that young man was a girl? He ---is not his nose, for petes sake.  He is still going to be his mother's pride and joy and love her like a good italian boy should!

His grandfather probably hated his nose too. Why not make yourself feel good? Its hard enough in todays world with out having a feeling if inferiorty. If that is what makes him feel better than go for it.

He'll just have to explain to his son some day where his nose came from!!! 

I know that the show on 3- 26 was a re-run but it was the first time I got to see it and I pray that Brad did not get the surgery done. I too have a large nose everyone in my family does and were not Italian. I too use to want a nose job very much so and even saw a counselor when I was younger who told me to do it! There still is a part of me who wants it sometimes but then I am not my family. I got everything wrong with my family or so I say haha. I got the brown eyes my brother got the blue ( I did get blue contacts at one point) I got the brown hair my brother got the sandy blond, I got no butt my brother has a bubble butt, I am 5’7 and wanted to be taller the men in my family are above 6 ft. You have to be happy with what God gave you, I have learned. I wanted my boobs back after I lost them when I had my daughter so I had them done and I HATE THEM!! I think they are to big and don’t fit my flat butt and no hips haha. You try to spend money to change what you look like but then is that what is really wrong? Cause no matter what you change you are going to pick out another and another but what is the real problem? Brad you’re a good looking guy PLEASE say you didn’t get a new nose cause you are good looking and the one God has picked for you will love you for everything!! My brother did get a bigger nose then me yet mine is big but he has a gorgeous wife and a very happy life, you can too…