Topic : 03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

I am a white American and feel Asian women are beautiful! Do not be ashamed - be proud!

Don't worry about the media.  They want all women to look like 'Barbie'. If a man doesn't love you because of your looks - he's not the right man for you.  A man who truly loves you will stand by you and support you. If you need to reduce weight, etc. he'll be helpful, not condemning.

And you have to love yourself before you will every be truly happy in any relationship

I have had one cosmetic surgery in my 55 years of life, & that was to make my nose smaller.  It was life changing, as I had been terribly self-conscious.   I know that others noticed my nose before they noticed anything else about me.   I am a stable, outgoing, self-confident adult female and have been since age 30.  Not without issues, or problems, but at least I don't even have to think about my looks, which are very average now and that is just fine.  At least I don't feel ugly any more, and  I just wish I had done it sooner.

I am a Filipina and damn proud to be one! But hey, I think people who want to change the way they look have the right to do so. Changing they way you look outside does not necessarily mean changing who you are inside as well. What's wrong with enchancing one's appearance especially when it can boost one's self-confidence?

And oh, with what the Filipina lady said about Filipinos having flat noses...not all! Mine's not! :-)

Brad I don't know how old you are, but you have a youthful exuberance and an adorable smile and wonderful gestures that make you just fabulous. You have an adorable Joel Osteen look.  I honestly think you should wait to see how your face fills out in your later 20's or early 30's before you decide to re-do your nose.   Your face will change shape when some of the youthfulness settles down and then make your decision. 

I heard what you said about when you were born they started saying you are the second coming of your great-grandfather and they haven't let up on you about that.  I think you are really trying to get out from under this smothering family you come from and you are trying to figure out who you are to you.  I think you are also trying to find your independence as a person but also as a man.

A huge number of kids from my high school were Italian, and there were plenty of noses, but I don't remember anyone "teasing" about anyone elses nose.  An Italian face was just Italian looking...duh :)

I hear the "teasing" coming from your own family; from your mother, your cousin,  etc.   They seem to be so insecure about who they are that they try to protect you (strangly but truly) by making fun of your nose before someone else does it.  Funny thing is, to the rest of the world it's a non-issue.  You look good. 

It's not that your nose is problematic; your face has it's own characteristic shape which is very cute and ethnically Italian. So before you go messing with the nose and chin, try living with yourself away from the scrutiny of your mother and extended family.  Go off in the world and find out who you are outside of a big Italian family before you change your face permenantly.  Or else tell them you're gay and give them something else to talk about--take a little pressure off of your nose...unless... your great-grandfather was...no..    Anyway I think you're searching for yourself (your own identity) and changing the face won't  find you.  Finally, Tell them to quit calling you, "Braddy" and get the microscope off of you.