Topic : 03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

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Created on : Friday, September 14, 2007, 03:47:34 pm
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(Original Air Date: 09/20/07) Most everyone has thought about removing imperfections -- a nip here, a tuck there. But some people want plastic surgery to erase their ethnic identity! First up is James. He says he doesn’t want to change anything about himself because Asians are intellectually superior, and women should obey men. His wife, Roseanna, says he’s a controlling racist who demeans women, and she says she needs help before he corrupts their 11-year-old son. James says he’s ready to serve Roseanna her walking papers if she doesn’t become more obedient. Is James a controlling bigot or simply misunderstood? Then, Dr. Phil explores the pros and cons of eyelid surgery -- one of the most common cosmetic procedures for Asian women … and one of the most controversial! He talks to a woman who had a fold added to her upper eyelid, a plastic surgeon who performs these procedures and two guests who believe the surgery erases Asian heritage. Plus, Brad says he hates his nose, and he wants plastic surgery to look less Italian. His mother, Debbie, says she loves the way he looks -- big schnoz and all! Brad’s surgery is only a month away. Can Debbie convince him he's perfect just the way he is before he goes under the knife? Talk about the show here.

Find out what happened on the show.


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March 27, 2008, 10:40 pm PDT

03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

Quote From: kaysquare

It would surprise me if James ever "get's it".  He probably won't have to give Roseanna her "walking papers", because she'll probably take them herself.  No woman deserves to be treated like a child in her marriage.  James does not understand what a "partnership" marriage is & probably never will.   I think with James, it's all about James.

 

Brad....I think you should ignore your relatives & especially the "friend" you call "Aunt".....it's simply none of her business, or anyone's actually.  If you want to have your nose fixed, go for it.  My niece wanted to have her nose fixed when she was about 12 yrs old.  Of course, she had to wait till she was in her 20's, working & had her own money to have it done.  Her parents were upset with her, but they got over it quickly, especially when they say how happy she was with her new nose.  It really should not be such a big deal to your family.  They will get over it. 

I swear James and this guy I just got rid of-are SO much alike!   Rosanna LEAVE him!  He will NEVER ever get it-   This guy I was with treated me so badly-like James treated Rosanna- 

By the way James-You aint all that-  Rosanna -YOU ARE WAY TOO GOOD FOR THIS ARROGANT JERK-

Like me-you deserve WWWWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY  better Rosanna!  (I hope you read the book-SELF MATTERS- I am reading it again-great book)

Like james-this guy- who is aisan-only cated about HIMSELF-  The abuse he inflicted on me was SO bad and it was getting worse-FAST- 

This idiot does not have a CLUE that he HIMSELF destroyed and ruined the relationship-not me-

I know I deserve WAY better-  I gave him several chances hoping he would change-but he just got worse-Ladies-guys like James and my ex-they will NOT change-Even if they do-It won t last long-

 
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March 27, 2008, 10:49 pm PDT

03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

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You are so right! He is really lucky to have her. He seems more like an educated fool to me. LOL.

I SO agree with you!    Like this ex I talked about earlier-he has NO idea how lucky he was to have had me!

This guy-like james-is So insecure and fearlful its unbeleivable-  This ex thought he was SO smart-he felt SO threatened by the fact that Im smart strong and independent- I wished you guys were there and you could have seen and heard how he treated me-  Sigh- 

 
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March 28, 2008, 4:52 am PDT

03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

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How can I reach Dr. Peter Newen?
He's in Huntington Beach, CA. For a fee, you can check him out online.
 
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March 28, 2008, 8:08 am PDT

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"Change your mental state go seek professonal help and if you can't find it there go seek God. "  Wow, thats quite a rash statement to make isn't it?  You must be perfect to give such advice.  Well, this is Brad, who is on the show from which u so rudely comment about and I feel you have misunderstood the point.  Though the title of the show may be harsh, I am VERY proud of my heritage.  I LOVE being an Italian and would NEVER change that.  However, I was born with a very large nose and because of the size, it has been broken several times and looks like a pretzel from some angles.  Do you feel I should have to live like this? Being teased for having a huge twisted nose? If so, wow, u r a great person...thanks so much!  I'm glad u care so little about people.  God would be proud of u right? Personally, I feel that if I will feel better about myself, than I can do what I please.  You are definately entitled to ur own opinion, but please, before telling me to seek professional help or God, examine urself first.
Dear Brad,

I think everyone missed the whole point. You are not trying to change your ethnicity, you want to change some physical feature that you are not happy with. If your nose doesn't define who you are, as so many people are shouting, then what difference does it make if you change it? I think it's very selfish of your relatives to give you so much grief about it. If they had stepped up and protected you from excessive teasing, then they might have something to say now. Didn't say it then, then don't say it now. Good luck on your surgery and do what you want. Take care,

CR
 
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March 28, 2008, 8:36 am PDT

to brad with the nose

Dear Brad, I LOVE your nose! You are a very handsome young man as you are, but I understand that if you feel changing your nose will make your life better - then that is what you need to do.

 

However, if I were a young woman watching the show I would probably cry to think you were going to destroy your wonderful good looks! After watching the show I talked with my husband (age 57) about his nose. His nose is so big you could rest in the shade of it! And, I LOVE his nose. It makes his handsome face more handsome. He is not a boring, normal hollywood kind of handsome man - he is uniquely handsome. He said no one has ever made fun of his nose and considering how big and distinctive it is that's kind of interesting.

 

I keep thinking if you could see your nose with MY eyes, you'd fall in love with it, hopelessly in love and you could save yourself a lot of money and surgical risk and pain too. Have you read Cyrano de Bergerac? There's a Steve Martin movie which is a remake of Cyrano, it's called Roxanne. It's a wonderful movie and my favorite part is the big nose speech.

 

Anyway Brad, if you're really going to have the surgery maybe you could have fun with the "departing" of your nose, have a mock funeral for it or something and if your family can all laugh at that, then maybe you'll all feel better. Either way, my husband and I wish you the best.

 

Thrustlebum

 

 

 
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April 2, 2008, 11:17 am PDT

James

James is ignorant, that is all there is to it.  He is confused and can't even find words to explain himself.  He is an embarassment to his race and he should not have the priviledge to reside in the United States with his degrading opinions.  Maybe he should just move back Asia to live with his own "intelligent" race!
 
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July 6, 2008, 11:48 am PDT

Race issue

 I am a Hispanic female who has dated a caucasian male for more than 10 years. His parents totally disagree of our relationship. They have given him the ultimatum plenty of times to choose either them or me. He's still around. I know he loves me and loves his family. And he doesn't feel like he should have to choose. His parents are constantly on him about us. They tell him that we come from different backgrounds and that our relationship would never work out. I have been frustrated for the last couple of years with this issue. I love him but I think its time he sticks up for me and not let them treat me like this. The reason I am writing this message is because about 5 or 6 years ago I used to wish that I was caucasian just so his parents would accept me. I look back at my thoughts I am disgusted that that thought ever crossed my mind. I am proud to be a Hispanic female and wouldn't change it for anything. I am in awe to see how this society is these days. Be happy with who you are! We are all different and unique!
 
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July 15, 2008, 4:08 am PDT

03/26 "Change My Face, Change My Race"

Quote From: marianparoo

I have an Orthodox Jewish coworker (I'm Jewish myself, but secular), who's even more Orthodox daughter had a nose job - in Israel yet!

 

My snoz is pretty ethnic but I never dreamed of having it done - and here this very religious girl who considers me "not Jewish enough"  and uses the term "chosen people" daily, but isn't satisfied with the "chosen nose" that goes with it.

 

LOL!

I think she's in need of a psychologist instead.

 

"chosen people"?? geeez what a scary person!

 
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October 20, 2008, 9:45 am PDT

my point of view

i just saw the show and i would like to mail something to Brad.

Brad, i think your nose is really cute and i found it sexy. I think that real man should have a real nose.

If you are worry about what the people may think about your look, please dont be, because you are making yourself crazy. there will alwasy be a group of people who would not like it and a group who don't mind it.... those, who judge you about your look and dont want to know you form inside are FULL!

Unfortunately we are so surrenderd by media that we think that we have to look perfect to be perfect...

i just hope that Brad will be happy and realises that it really doesnt metter what 's on the outside.
 

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