Topic : 09/21 Does Age Matter?

Can you point to any studies or statistics which say any of your classifications are correct and there is something "wrong" with people who don't live within your boundries?

I was just shy of 37 and my husband 23 when we met. We are married now, raising my 2 teen sons, his 6 year old daughter and our 11 month old daughter. We both have good jobs. We live in a nice community, a nice house and our children attend excellent schools. We eat dinner together. We do things as a family. We take vacations together.

We are happy, healthy and well adjusted. Our families-in-law get along fabulously. WE get along great.

Can you give me ANY good reason why we should not be together other than it being your made up "rules?"

I was totally shocked when Dr. Phil told the older woman that her relationship with the young man was

"demented"!!

The Dr. shot her self esteem to hello. I really feel that was a very rude and unprofessional

remark for anyone to make to someone.

If the Dr. is going to "pussyfoot" with the "stars",then let up on common people.

As far as I am concerned, I see nothing wrong with the age difference.

Think about it: what if the male was 38, and the female was 18.  NO PROBLEM!!!!! Every situation in life is a learing process, so let them proceed on.

 What in the world is that woman thinking?? Please someone tell her what she is doing is not cool. I am currently seperated from my husband who is 21 years older then me, I realized it was wrong.   Shelly,please leave your son's friends alone, there is a reason why men and women shouldn't date someone whose their children's age. YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER! My soon to be ex husband should have known better but he didn't. Shelly, please think about it, date someone who your own age. 

Dr. Phil has said, on more than one occasion, that the human brain does not mature fully until sometime in the early-to-mid-20s. In fact, the age of "majority" was 21 up until just a couple of generations ago, when somehow 18 became the legal measure of "adulthood", ie, able to enter into contractual relationships (including marriage), hold a full-time job, be tried as an adult if s/he commits a crime, and serve in the military.

The age period between 18 and 22 seems to be a gray area - are they really adults or not? Adolescence seems to be extending well past the age of 18. If this is truly due to brain development issues, why not eliminate the ambiguity, period. Just make the age of majority 21 for all of the activities I mentioned (let's throw in getting a driver's license while we're at it), and call anyone under 21 a minor for all adult activities, not merely the consumption of alcoholic beverages in public.

Then, yes, Shelly's relationship with Mark (and Sanjaya's with Jacqueline ["sugardaddy"]) would probably be considered child molestation, as well as mutually exploitative.