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What does it mean to be a good "friend"? Has  someone shown you the true meaning of friendship? Share your story here.

 
toronto99
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November 13, 2005, 5:00 pm PST

any advice?

I would like some feedback from fellow members... 

  

I have been friends with a woman who I know is interested in me.  We have flirted gently for the past year and a half and recently it has gotten a little flirtier (is that a word?).   

  

The problem is that she has a boyfriend of 4 years (who I have never met) and is a little frustrated with that situation however she is still in the relationship.  She says he isn't the problem but that things are perfect with him but its his family.  So thats her quick background. 

  

I know she is interested in me and lately we have been talking on the phone until 2 in the morning, going for lunch each day and meeting for coffees at night.  Nothing of a physical nature has happened, not even close however the feelings are there for both of us.  I am not sure how to handle this because I am very interested and friends who know her say the same about her. 

  

I don't know what to do...on the surface I know I shouldn't get involved and respect that relationship however the instinctual feelings I have are telling me to pursue it and thus far I have been, mildly anyways.  Any advice would be appreciated. 
 
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November 13, 2005, 9:06 pm PST

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Hi I'm Shorty. I just read your post. My question too you is. Do you feel strong enough too go for this? And do you feel your friendship is strong enough too go through this? Because once you tell eachother u want too persure theys feelings and act on them there is no turning back. So my advice too you is too think long and hard before you and her move foward. Maybe you should continue too have coffee and talk on the phone for a while then if you both still feel the same then talk and see how you both feel and go from there. Well hope it works out and its allways best too remain freinds then too do something too ruin it. Take care Shorty,....
 
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November 16, 2005, 11:52 am PST

Being a Good Friend

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   I am a female in my 30's and my very best friend is a male in his 40's. We have been very close best friends for almost ten yrs now. I have been there for him through thick and thin no matter what the problem is I have always been there and vice versa. Within the last  year all we have done is argue about anything and everything. We can not talk without having an arguement. I am soooo scared that i'm on the verge of losing my very best friend and I don't know what I can do to keep that from happening. If anybody has any suggestions on what it is I could do to keep this from happening, I would be very much appreciated.
MAYBE YOU AND YOUR BEST FRIEND ARE MORE THAN FRIENDS??? DID YOU CROSS THAT FRIENDSHIP LINE????
 
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November 16, 2005, 12:19 pm PST

Being a Good Friend

A GOOD FRIEND IS THERE FOR YOU FOR ANYTHING. YOU CAN NOT CALL A GOOD FRIEND FOR A MONTH AND WHEN YOU DO CALL, IT'S LIKE YOU JUST CALLED YESTERDAY.
 
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November 16, 2005, 12:39 pm PST

Being a Good Friend

Quote From: toronto99

I would like some feedback from fellow members... 

  

I have been friends with a woman who I know is interested in me.  We have flirted gently for the past year and a half and recently it has gotten a little flirtier (is that a word?).   

  

The problem is that she has a boyfriend of 4 years (who I have never met) and is a little frustrated with that situation however she is still in the relationship.  She says he isn't the problem but that things are perfect with him but its his family.  So thats her quick background. 

  

I know she is interested in me and lately we have been talking on the phone until 2 in the morning, going for lunch each day and meeting for coffees at night.  Nothing of a physical nature has happened, not even close however the feelings are there for both of us.  I am not sure how to handle this because I am very interested and friends who know her say the same about her. 

  

I don't know what to do...on the surface I know I shouldn't get involved and respect that relationship however the instinctual feelings I have are telling me to pursue it and thus far I have been, mildly anyways.  Any advice would be appreciated. 

I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT SOMEONE SHOULD INVADE ON SOMEONE ELSES TERRITORY. SHE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP. UNTIL SHE TERMINATES THAT RELATIONSHIP...YOU SHOULD JUST BE HER FRIEND. DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO DO TO YOU. AND WHAT MAKES YOU THINK IF SHE GETS INTO A RELAYIONSHIP WITH YOU THAT AFTER FOUR YEARS SHE WON'T DO THE SAME TO YOU?????
 
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November 21, 2005, 4:26 pm PST

don't regret it

a good friend is when a person is there for you no matter what threw everything that you go threw that person is there. just don't take it for granted, because then one day they will leave and you will have nothing. and it's lonly not having that good friend there to help you threw things. 
 
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November 21, 2005, 4:29 pm PST

point

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I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT SOMEONE SHOULD INVADE ON SOMEONE ELSES TERRITORY. SHE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP. UNTIL SHE TERMINATES THAT RELATIONSHIP...YOU SHOULD JUST BE HER FRIEND. DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO DO TO YOU. AND WHAT MAKES YOU THINK IF SHE GETS INTO A RELAYIONSHIP WITH YOU THAT AFTER FOUR YEARS SHE WON'T DO THE SAME TO YOU?????
you have a point with this quote, if someone was doing that with my boyfriend i would be pissed let her do things the right way if she really wants to have a relationship with you she will do the right thing and leave her boyfriend
 
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November 21, 2005, 6:41 pm PST

Insecure Friend

I have a friend that I have known for a little while.  She is a good person, and I believe that she means well.  However, she tends to dominate all of our conversations.  Not only does she say a lot about herself, but she interrupts when other people are speaking.  She also tends to talk herself up a great deal.  She makes comments such as, "My husband worships the ground I walk on."  I try not to react to those types of remarks, but it is hard not to.  I just feel that she's insecure, and I am curious to know if there is a word to describe what she does.  I want to remain a friend of hers, but it's very hard to deal with her, and I feel that she puts people off with the things she says.  What should I say to her?
 
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November 22, 2005, 4:52 am PST

BEING A GOOD FRIEND

Being a good friend is being there for the other person. No matter if it is inconvenient or difficult, being a good friend is like being a safe haven from the storm.

Being a good friend is also letting your friend know they are cared about.

 
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November 22, 2005, 7:06 pm PST

on being a goodfriend

friends should be there for you in good as well as bad. they should not be interested in every aspect of your life and vice versa. and not be so judgemental. it should be someone who listens to your problems as well as happy things. I get tired of people claiming to be freinds but it is one sided.
 
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