Topic : Being a Good Friend

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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 09:18:38 am
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What does it mean to be a good "friend"? Has  someone shown you the true meaning of friendship? Share your story here.

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February 26, 2007, 6:29 am PST

i need help

okay me and this girl were bestfriends for a very long time. we had been through so much and now she just RANDOMLY decided to not be my friend. it hurts bc i think about all that ive done to her and all the times we have shared. HOW COULD SHE JUST THROW IT AWAY? but now i think about it and she has done NOTHING for me in our friendship. It was completly one sided on my part. I gave her everything and she coodnt manage to call me. Lately she has been being a real--jerk since this has happend on Saturday and i cant help but be mad upset sad enraged depressed. Tonight i have dance class with her and honestly if she disrespects me i mite explode. i really dont need an arrest for assault. but anyways she got rid of me and her other best friend with no good explanation besides "she hates us" we havent changed. I dont no what to do. ohh and her mom is taking her side and totally disrespecting me and my friend. her mom has no right to jugde us bc she is not a good mom i no from being bestfriends with her daughter. PLEASE HELP ME!

 

 

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February 26, 2007, 7:14 am PST

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okay me and this girl were bestfriends for a very long time. we had been through so much and now she just RANDOMLY decided to not be my friend. it hurts bc i think about all that ive done to her and all the times we have shared. HOW COULD SHE JUST THROW IT AWAY? but now i think about it and she has done NOTHING for me in our friendship. It was completly one sided on my part. I gave her everything and she coodnt manage to call me. Lately she has been being a real--jerk since this has happend on Saturday and i cant help but be mad upset sad enraged depressed. Tonight i have dance class with her and honestly if she disrespects me i mite explode. i really dont need an arrest for assault. but anyways she got rid of me and her other best friend with no good explanation besides "she hates us" we havent changed. I dont no what to do. ohh and her mom is taking her side and totally disrespecting me and my friend. her mom has no right to jugde us bc she is not a good mom i no from being bestfriends with her daughter. PLEASE HELP ME!

 

 

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Ok, I am still in middle school, but I think I can help you. This friend that says she hates you, maybe you offended her in some way. Try talking to her, and maybe she'll talk. Maybe she is angry about something, and she is taking it out on you. You said that she doesn't have a good mom. Maybe she just wants some space. I don't know. I think you should just talk to her. Pray to the lord for help. Give the situation to him. He will take care of it.

 
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February 26, 2007, 2:27 pm PST

when to let go

i've been friends with someone for about 5 years. well she was having trouble with her family so i moved her in with me and my fiance and daughter. well she basicly disrespected my rules and my house hold and in the end she got pregnant, not knowing the babies father. well she moved back in with her family after they made her promises and basicly lied to her about everything. now her family knows shes pregnant and are extremely upset about the situation. she hinted to me that she might be getting kicked out and i'm not sure what to do i don't really want her to move back with me she was messy and disrespectful the last time she was here but i'm her friend and i feel bad about the situation she's in right now and i feel like a bad friend just "abandoning" her but at the same time i have a family of my own that i have to take care of and her living here is toxic to my family enviorment. I just don't know what to do at this point. if anyone has any oppionion on what to do i'm all ears. Thank you.
 
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February 27, 2007, 9:10 pm PST

Being a good freind

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i've been friends with someone for about 5 years. well she was having trouble with her family so i moved her in with me and my fiance and daughter. well she basicly disrespected my rules and my house hold and in the end she got pregnant, not knowing the babies father. well she moved back in with her family after they made her promises and basicly lied to her about everything. now her family knows shes pregnant and are extremely upset about the situation. she hinted to me that she might be getting kicked out and i'm not sure what to do i don't really want her to move back with me she was messy and disrespectful the last time she was here but i'm her friend and i feel bad about the situation she's in right now and i feel like a bad friend just "abandoning" her but at the same time i have a family of my own that i have to take care of and her living here is toxic to my family enviorment. I just don't know what to do at this point. if anyone has any oppionion on what to do i'm all ears. Thank you.

I know that you want to be a great friend and help her out but, you have to think about the added stress your friend is going to add to your own family environment. Your friend has to want to get her life straightened out and you can't do that for her. If she is truly a good friend she will understand your situation as well. The best thing is to be honest with her and let her know how you feel. I hope that helped a little. Hope all goes well.

 

 
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February 28, 2007, 3:15 pm PST

Being a Good Friend

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okay me and this girl were bestfriends for a very long time. we had been through so much and now she just RANDOMLY decided to not be my friend. it hurts bc i think about all that ive done to her and all the times we have shared. HOW COULD SHE JUST THROW IT AWAY? but now i think about it and she has done NOTHING for me in our friendship. It was completly one sided on my part. I gave her everything and she coodnt manage to call me. Lately she has been being a real--jerk since this has happend on Saturday and i cant help but be mad upset sad enraged depressed. Tonight i have dance class with her and honestly if she disrespects me i mite explode. i really dont need an arrest for assault. but anyways she got rid of me and her other best friend with no good explanation besides "she hates us" we havent changed. I dont no what to do. ohh and her mom is taking her side and totally disrespecting me and my friend. her mom has no right to jugde us bc she is not a good mom i no from being bestfriends with her daughter. PLEASE HELP ME!

 

 

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I suggest you try to talk to her. If she does not want that. I guess she's not worth the trouble. You say yourself that she acts like a jerk lately. I would not want to be friends with a jerk.

 

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March 2, 2007, 1:39 pm PST

Being a Good Friend

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there is a sales saying i heard when a customer is angry do not tell them to calm down the same goes for depression you cant tell them to be optimistic i would say your friend would feel more alive if they took antidepressants tell your friend it is not instinct to give in depression is like acid in your brain and only the right meds can balance the chemicals

The problem with antidepressants is they cost money and he can't spare any at this moment. We both work from paycheck to paycheck and there is no government help in this area

 
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March 4, 2007, 3:59 am PST

believe in ur self

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okay me and this girl were bestfriends for a very long time. we had been through so much and now she just RANDOMLY decided to not be my friend. it hurts bc i think about all that ive done to her and all the times we have shared. HOW COULD SHE JUST THROW IT AWAY? but now i think about it and she has done NOTHING for me in our friendship. It was completly one sided on my part. I gave her everything and she coodnt manage to call me. Lately she has been being a real--jerk since this has happend on Saturday and i cant help but be mad upset sad enraged depressed. Tonight i have dance class with her and honestly if she disrespects me i mite explode. i really dont need an arrest for assault. but anyways she got rid of me and her other best friend with no good explanation besides "she hates us" we havent changed. I dont no what to do. ohh and her mom is taking her side and totally disrespecting me and my friend. her mom has no right to jugde us bc she is not a good mom i no from being bestfriends with her daughter. PLEASE HELP ME!

 

 

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hey, i know how much hurt and sadness ya feelin, but this is life doesnt give what ppl deserve a bout ur friend just leave her a lone some day she gonna cry to hear ur voice,ya have to believe in ur self that ya not less than her ,ya are so cute and friendly and there are big number of friends waiting to get to know ya and be part of ya.

 

likely ur friend make it obvious and in such situation ya pray for god to keep ya save and sound and give ya the best friends ever. all ya have to do is to value ur self ya are a talkin dimon ya not the person who deserve such stupid friends to be a round ya ,what ya need is very open minded friends that can take care of ya, understand ya when ya talk and when ya dont ya need sensitive friends not like one that ya had, ya should thanks god a lot for what is happenin coz god knows what is good for ya and what is bad so as long as god put ur friend away this is ur good.

 

time goes up and what is goin on now will be just a memory so be strong and i believe ya are, god bless ya and dont forget believe in ur self that sit

 
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March 6, 2007, 9:17 am PST

i lost my best friend

i was best friends with this girl. we meet i second grade. every weekend i we stayed at each others house and every school vacation we stayed at each others house. then she started dateing my brother. our friendship went down hill from there.  it was so hard for me as i was slowly loseing my best friend to my younger brother who didnt treat her very well. when she called the house she would call for him, and when she came over she came over to see him and it was so hard and a very depressing time for me because she was my only friend.  now the two of them are living together and i still dont have a best friend. i try to still be her friend but for some reason she acts like she doesnt want to be my friend.

 
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March 9, 2007, 9:45 am PST

What can I say to a friend who uses sympathy in his relationships to get what he wants without coming off like a jerk?

I've had this friend for about 5 yrs. he's not a bad guy but he manipulates people into believing he's this poor pathetic guy and nothing goes right for him. He's been seperated for about 1yr. from his ex and now talking about marrying this other girl wich is another story within itself. Any how I've listened to him say things to people so that they will feel sorry for him. Soon they feel so sorry for him that they do almost whatever he asks. His latest feet was he had an anxiety attack wich caused an influctuation to his heart so he went to the hospital for a night. When he got home his fiance upset him so he went on a drinking benge for the day. Used my wifes myspace account pretended to be her and told his fiance that my wife couldn't find him, so he had her all worried. The one thing he tells her is he gotta get right with the power greater then self and told her that he went to a preacher in ohio a couple of hundred miles from the house.Needless to say she kissed his behind. But that's not all he now tells everyone he had a heartattack. It's getting to the point where I don't want a damn thing to do with him cause I don't know what is true and what isn't. He's even lied about my wife and me to make himself look better. I don't know I just need help plz.

 
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March 9, 2007, 11:37 am PST

you must leave her

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i was best friends with this girl. we meet i second grade. every weekend i we stayed at each others house and every school vacation we stayed at each others house. then she started dateing my brother. our friendship went down hill from there.  it was so hard for me as i was slowly loseing my best friend to my younger brother who didnt treat her very well. when she called the house she would call for him, and when she came over she came over to see him and it was so hard and a very depressing time for me because she was my only friend.  now the two of them are living together and i still dont have a best friend. i try to still be her friend but for some reason she acts like she doesnt want to be my friend.

as long as she started dating ur brother you must leave her if she did not explain any thing to u that means she dosnt love u i know it is hard to believe this but may be it is the truth go over this problem and some one else
 

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