Topic : Being a Good Friend

I have  a friend of  3 years  that I recently  found out  everything this person has  ever told me  are  lies .  and  I am  NOT referring to  LITTLE WHITE   LIES  NO ,  I  an  talking about something  that would of totally devestated   her  whole family ,  had this been  true . 

1st.  she told me  ,  HER  DAUGHTER  ,  4 year old  grand daughter , and 2 month old  baby grand daughter   were involved  in a  head on collision  in Mobile  , Alabama ,  which  she  also said  the only survivor was the 4 year old  .   THE  TRUTH  IS  :  the  2  month old  baby  grand daughter is  the only  one that DID NOT  survive  .

 2nd,   She told me  she  was fighting her  2nd.  cnacer .  1st. was  ovaian  cancer  and  NOW  Stomach  cancer  .  In conversation  between her  husband and Mine  ,  my husband  was told NONE  of  this  was true .       WHY do  people  do this ?   I  feel like  such  a gullable  idiot  for believing  it all .    YOU can  e-mail  me  @   cajunlizz0315@cox.net  ,  or  post reply in here

Hi, I'm brokeninside

I would like to be your friend. Is that okay? I live in Hawaii, and I like to make friends. I have lots of friends here but I could use more. My email is s_kimchoy@yahoo.com. Email me sometime and I'll surely answer. Can't wait to hear from you.

Aloha

brokeninside 

Why do you feel no body wants you? please explain.

I'm sure there are people that want you. You need to want yourself first. Tell us your story and we will try to help you understand why your feeling this way. Everybody has somebody they want. Don't be to hard on yourself. please give us more info so atleast I can try to help you.

Take care

Aloha

brokeninside

If you werent offered money to watch your friends children, would you have watched them anyway? It is understandable that you are pissed because you were offered the money and now you are counting on it, however, what will you do if the money never appears? Will you end the friendship? Your friend might be worried/concerned that you are going to hate her for not coming through with the money. My advice to you is this- if you want to keep this friendship, then you need to call your friend, (if she doesnt answer, then leave this as a message) say to her, I really want to talk to you, I want you to know that if you cant come through with the money, I understand; I know that sometimes these things just happen. Please know that I still love you dearly as a friend, and I really want you to call me back. This way you can at least put an end to this money situation. You will have to accept that you will probably never see the money, but consider it a lesson learned- if you are going to do something for a friend, have it be a favor that they can pay back with favors to you, not money.

My closest friend is engaged. I want to be the best friend I can for her but can't be happy about this marriage. She and her "fiance" have been dating for 3 years. In this 3 years he has cheated on her at least 5 times. Maybe more.  The last time in 02/2008 when he flew his girlfriend from FL (whom he has been seeing for the past 9 years but told my friend that he had broken up with) to MO where he was temporarily working to celebrate his birthday. My friend found out when she has a "suspicion" and checked his airline account and discovered that he had bought the airline ticket.  This is not the only woman he has cheated on her with.  He asked her to marry him a couple of weeks ago and she said yes!!!!  When she told me I was in shock!!!  She is smarter than this. I can't figure out why she is doing this.  I want so badly to tell her to run for the hills, forget she ever knew him. He has treated her so horribly what makes her think he has suddenly changed....   She is so embarrassed/ashamed/reluctant for anyone to know that she has told no one other than me that they are engaged and wears the engagement ring on her right hand.

The only thing I said to her was "Make absolutely sure this is what you want before you make it final."  I don't want to hurt her by saying what I really feel which isn't very nice. On the other hand if I say nothing and she marries the creep I'll feel equally bad. 

Help! Adivce?

I watched my friends 2 sons while she went to a taping for Dr Phil Show recently and have been off work due to a surgery and was offered some money to do this for her. But since she has returned the check  for babysitting from Dr Phil Show is still not here. Surprise surprise!! I keep getting told everyone is playing phone tag with each other and  I really needed this money but I just keep getting the run around. My friend and I used to talk and see each other everyday but for the last few weeks she has blown me off... I'm pissed off by this point and don't know which way to turn... any suggestions?

I have  a friend of  3 years  that I recently  found out  everything this person has  ever told me  are  lies .  and  I am  NOT referring to  LITTLE WHITE   LIES  NO ,  I  an  talking about something  that would of totally devestated   her  whole family ,  had this been  true . 

1st.  she told me  ,  HER  DAUGHTER  ,  4 year old  grand daughter , and 2 month old  baby grand daughter   were involved  in a  head on collision  in Mobile  , Alabama ,  which  she  also said  the only survivor was the 4 year old  .   THE  TRUTH  IS  :  the  2  month old  baby  grand daughter is  the only  one that DID NOT  survive  .

 2nd,   She told me  she  was fighting her  2nd.  cnacer .  1st. was  ovaian  cancer  and  NOW  Stomach  cancer  .  In conversation  between her  husband and Mine  ,  my husband  was told NONE  of  this  was true .       WHY do  people  do this ?   I  feel like  such  a gullable  idiot  for believing  it all .    YOU can  e-mail  me  @   cajunlizz0315@cox.net  ,  or  post reply in here