Topic : Being a Good Friend

Your so right! But when you do find that true friend, don't let them down.

I live in hawaii and I have really good friends. They make me laugh when i need to, they let me cry, they let me vent, and they help me when I need help. They are a dime a dozen kind of friends. One of my firends and I just helped my other friend through a really tough break-up and they just did the same for me this past few months. I can't tell you how much they mean to me. They are sisters that I wish were my own.

Aloha

brokeninside

why??

why??

why??

Why do you feel no body wants you? please explain.

I'm sure there are people that want you. You need to want yourself first. Tell us your story and we will try to help you understand why your feeling this way. Everybody has somebody they want. Don't be to hard on yourself. please give us more info so atleast I can try to help you.

Take care

Aloha

brokeninside

I have  a friend of  3 years  that I recently  found out  everything this person has  ever told me  are  lies .  and  I am  NOT referring to  LITTLE WHITE   LIES  NO ,  I  an  talking about something  that would of totally devestated   her  whole family ,  had this been  true . 

 

1st.  she told me  ,  HER  DAUGHTER  ,  4 year old  grand daughter , and 2 month old  baby grand daughter   were involved  in a  head on collision  in Mobile  , Alabama ,  which  she  also said  the only survivor was the 4 year old  .   THE  TRUTH  IS  :  the  2  month old  baby  grand daughter is  the only  one that DID NOT  survive  .

 

 2nd,   She told me  she  was fighting her  2nd.  cnacer .  1st. was  ovaian  cancer  and  NOW  Stomach  cancer  .  In conversation  between her  husband and Mine  ,  my husband  was told NONE  of  this  was true .       WHY do  people  do this ?   I  feel like  such  a gullable  idiot  for believing  it all .    YOU can  e-mail  me  @   cajunlizz0315@cox.net  ,  or  post reply in here

She wants attention. That's what lairs do they lie to get attention. My ex lied about alot of things and till today lies to get attention from other women. so they feel sorry for hhim and they will give him sex and attention. Just let her know that it's okay that she doesn't have to lie for you to be her friend. She is maybe in denial about the baby. Try to get her to loosen up around you. maybe she'll stop the lying.

Hi Eric, thanks for your reply.  I did talk to a few other people and they are of the same opinion.  I could not bring myself to cut her out of my life completely, as I really do value her friendship.  I did tell her to meet with me for lunch and did indicated to her that I was extremely disappointed with her behaviour.  She admitted that she was wrong and she promised to  be in touch more often, but I don't know how  good she is at keeping her promise.  The thing is that  she lives and works literally a stone throw from where I live and work  and that is the hard part.  Anyways let's see how good is her promise.  Thanks again.

  I can not  beleive that I  ONLY  GOT  1   REPLY    after  pouring out  my heart  about  a  friend that  said  she  LOST  A  DAUGHTER  AND A   2  MONTH OLD  GRAND DAUGHTER  in a  WRECK .      "  JUST  1  reply " .  I  really thought I  could  turn  to  these  message boards for  a  little  help  and   support . 

I'm sorry that you had to go through this.  I can relate in an abstract way.  When an individual wants so much to have a friend, they do just about anything including believing what the other person has to say.  When we find out the truth, we become badily burned that we're scarred for 'life'.   This is sad that this individual lost two precious lives in a terrible accident.  With grief, it's possible that she fabricated the story to feel good about her loss; why does this happen?  I don't know; this woman is grieving.  You are grieving because you felt lied to; she's grieving because there was two unexpected deaths in the same time.  Be a friend in regards to her grieving; grieve together.  Let her know how you feel as well.  I hope this helps in some way; please keep in touch.  I'd like to know how both of you are doing :)

Frenchy

Hello,

I'd like to be your friend as well.  I live in Colorado; Hawaii is so beautiful.  I always like to make friends and you can never have enough friends.  The key is healthy friends; not friends that call you a friend to take advantage of you.  You can email me anytime, my email is ifrench75@hotmail.com.  Give me a email anytime.

Frenchy

i don't want me too ...

 

well ,, people said that I'm a whore ,, they wants me out of my town ,, some of them will put my bad pictures that the have "without my knowledge" on the walls & the net ,, they always call &  blackmail me ,, even if i change my number they always seems to know it ,, i don't have friends at all since i was born ,, no body to understand me

 

i did hurt my self several times when i was depressed & I'm scared now about what the will do ,, everybody will hate me more if the knew my past ,, & they said that it will be these days ,, so tomorrow i Will not go to work ,, I'll hurt my self with a knife like before but this time ,, i will suicide