Topic : Being a Good Friend

For me the true meaning of friendship is being there for one another in thick and thin in happy and sad being there ALL the time when they need you or want you there for them someone who listens and gives positave feed back someone who when you dont agree on something can argue constructivly without harsh words until you both agree on something in the middle someone that you can rely on and they can rely on you someone thats NOT judgemental and cares and when they upset you they still tell you they love you and their door is always open for you someone that will share everything "not men" throughout life without a blink of an eye someone you can go to and cry on their shoulders even if you dont know why your crying and it dont matter to them someone you call and talk to every day if you wish someone that you see often  "the reason I know this is because I HAVE one of those kinds of friends we have been friends like this for MANY years" and many more to come  take care Lori  

I HAVE A FRIEND AND WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR LITTLE OVER A YEAR NOW. MY FRIEND IS A MALE. HIM AND I HAVE TRIED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT, MY MOTHER DISAGREES OF HIM BECAUSE HE IS NOT AMERICAN . HE IS FROM COSTA RICA, AND MY MOTHER DOES NOIT BELIEVE IN INTER RACIAL. WHICH I NEVER BELIEVED IN IT EITHER BUT I CAN'T HELP I HAVE FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM. WE LIKE EACH OTHER A LOT AND I HAVE BEEN THERE FOR HIM SO MANY TIMES AND HE HAS DONE THE SAME FOR ME. MY MOM SAYS IF WE EVER DATE GET MARRIED OR HAVE KIDS SHE DOESN'T WANT HIM AROUND HER. WHICH MAKES ME FEEL REALLY BAD THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. HE NOW KNOWS HOW MY MOTHER AND STEP DAD FEELS ABOUT HIM, AND I BELEIEVE THAT IS WHY WE ARE ONLY FRIENDS AND NOTHING MORE. SO NO PROBLEMS WILL HAPPEN AND I FEEL THIS IS NOT FAIR. I AM 20 YRS OLD AND I SHOULDNT FEEL THIS WAY I HAVE EVEN LIED TO THEM TELLING THEM HIM AND I ARE NOT FRIENDS NO MORE. JUST SO HIM AND I CAN KEEP OUR FRIENDSHIP CAN SOMEONE HELP ME OR GIVE ME ANY ADVICE PLEASE. THANK U ANNA 

hello, anna :) i think you have to be patient most of all, to give time to your mom and step dad so that she will eventually understand you and this guy are friends and you are serious about getting married, too. there are always people who disapprove our behavior and choices, we can´t please everyone :) and often our parents have to face things they don´t want to, cos we children have to find our own ways in life we can´t follow our parents.  

we are all human beings with heart and soul, and searching for happiness. you are still young. be patient :) time will show you if this guy and you are meant to be. i strongly believe that true friendship and love are first of all based on equality and so they survive through anything :) im sure that even the toughest parents will finally be accepting once they see your determination and that you stand up for yourself as a responsible grown up person and not simply disobeying them or rebelling.  

you have to make some choices there and think about the consequences. listen to your heart always. i hope things will turn out for you the best way as soon as possible :) 

My boyfriend's sister and I have been friends for about 4 years and we have worked together off and on. Currently we both work for her uncle.   Lately she has been very rude and just out right mean to me specifically.  We had been discussing the possibility of obtaining grants for the purpose of starting a business together. A few days ago she was complaning about money as usual and made the comment,"Well my dad said he was going to let me run my own little resturant....."  I heard nothing else, I didn't want to hear anything else.  I couldn't believe after years of discussing this she just drops me!  Since then I just can't quit thinking about everything I have done for her (Mostly I regret giving her a dollar of my payrate when she was moving out and wasn't going to be able to get a raise) and how she doesn't deserve any hand outs when she can't even appreciate them.  I've tried to igonre her, but it's hard she lives right next door and is always asking her brother(my boyfriend) for something! How am I suppose to keep myself from saying or doing something I'll regret? 

You can keep yourself from saying or doing something you will regret by continuing to keep in  mind that you are the "bigger person".... Do not allow this person to have your personal power... When you allow someone else's behavior or attitude towards you p*ss you off, that is giving them your personal power.  

You considered starting a business together, but you didn't, and its a good thing because now it is obvious that she doesn't communicate effectively with you. That is the foundation of a business relationship! You have regrets... but you were doing what you thought was best at the time, and now that you know better, you will do things differently. Someone said this to me a long time ago: "The best revenge is living well." Its the truth! You say that you have tried ignoring her, but it doesn't seem to work. It must be hard because she lives right next door, and she is your boyfriend's sister, after all... This will be tough.. but you can do it. You need time. With time, you will come to view what has happened in the past with a different perspective, and you might even come to feel sorry for her. How sad that she gave up your friendship for some reasons that you have no clue. How sad that she takes from others and doesn't know how to give back to the world. How sad she doesn't know how to appreciate what she has. When you see it like this, you are LUCKY to not have her as a friend any longer. I wish you the best, keep your chin up!!