Topic : Being a Good Friend

Hey Cecelia,  

I just wanted to say that I really agree with Jettav on this. I have read all of the messages and I know you were a bit insulted, but from where I am standing...I really see it that Jettav was abused and is simply trying to say everything possible to make sure that doesn't continue to happen with someone else. I believe that we are all three on the same page as far as abuse goes. You wrote in to ask for help, so that is the first step right there. It's clear you really care about your friend. I also can tell by the many things Jettav has written that she cares very deeply about this girl. I too care a lot about her.  I wasn't abused , but I have very,  very strong feelings about this issue. Once abuse starts...it doesn't end until someone steps in and does something about it. 

Good luck to you and I am so proud you posted. Remember...you can make a difference.  

jamrod 

Being a true friend means that through thick and thin, when that person has fallen on their face you will be there to help them get back on there feet. And, Mikao, I strongly disagree with your comment. Since, your in a wheelchair that there is a strong difficulty getting girlfriends. I dont know what kind of women you've been after. Its clear to me that there are some women out there who are just as shallow as the opposite sex. Ladies, I have dated two very wonderful and beautiful men who are confined to a wheelchair and I must say those two relationships were the best relationships I've had. So give it a try and date someone who is in a wheelchair...its like they have a rare disease or something...there human beings too. 

For me the true meaning of friendship is being there for one another in thick and thin in happy and sad being there ALL the time when they need you or want you there for them someone who listens and gives positave feed back someone who when you dont agree on something can argue constructivly without harsh words until you both agree on something in the middle someone that you can rely on and they can rely on you someone thats NOT judgemental and cares and when they upset you they still tell you they love you and their door is always open for you someone that will share everything "not men" throughout life without a blink of an eye someone you can go to and cry on their shoulders even if you dont know why your crying and it dont matter to them someone you call and talk to every day if you wish someone that you see often  "the reason I know this is because I HAVE one of those kinds of friends we have been friends like this for MANY years" and many more to come  take care Lori  

I HAVE A FRIEND AND WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS FOR LITTLE OVER A YEAR NOW. MY FRIEND IS A MALE. HIM AND I HAVE TRIED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT, MY MOTHER DISAGREES OF HIM BECAUSE HE IS NOT AMERICAN . HE IS FROM COSTA RICA, AND MY MOTHER DOES NOIT BELIEVE IN INTER RACIAL. WHICH I NEVER BELIEVED IN IT EITHER BUT I CAN'T HELP I HAVE FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM. WE LIKE EACH OTHER A LOT AND I HAVE BEEN THERE FOR HIM SO MANY TIMES AND HE HAS DONE THE SAME FOR ME. MY MOM SAYS IF WE EVER DATE GET MARRIED OR HAVE KIDS SHE DOESN'T WANT HIM AROUND HER. WHICH MAKES ME FEEL REALLY BAD THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. HE NOW KNOWS HOW MY MOTHER AND STEP DAD FEELS ABOUT HIM, AND I BELEIEVE THAT IS WHY WE ARE ONLY FRIENDS AND NOTHING MORE. SO NO PROBLEMS WILL HAPPEN AND I FEEL THIS IS NOT FAIR. I AM 20 YRS OLD AND I SHOULDNT FEEL THIS WAY I HAVE EVEN LIED TO THEM TELLING THEM HIM AND I ARE NOT FRIENDS NO MORE. JUST SO HIM AND I CAN KEEP OUR FRIENDSHIP CAN SOMEONE HELP ME OR GIVE ME ANY ADVICE PLEASE. THANK U ANNA 

hello, anna :) i think you have to be patient most of all, to give time to your mom and step dad so that she will eventually understand you and this guy are friends and you are serious about getting married, too. there are always people who disapprove our behavior and choices, we can´t please everyone :) and often our parents have to face things they don´t want to, cos we children have to find our own ways in life we can´t follow our parents.  

we are all human beings with heart and soul, and searching for happiness. you are still young. be patient :) time will show you if this guy and you are meant to be. i strongly believe that true friendship and love are first of all based on equality and so they survive through anything :) im sure that even the toughest parents will finally be accepting once they see your determination and that you stand up for yourself as a responsible grown up person and not simply disobeying them or rebelling.  

you have to make some choices there and think about the consequences. listen to your heart always. i hope things will turn out for you the best way as soon as possible :) 

My boyfriend's sister and I have been friends for about 4 years and we have worked together off and on. Currently we both work for her uncle.   Lately she has been very rude and just out right mean to me specifically.  We had been discussing the possibility of obtaining grants for the purpose of starting a business together. A few days ago she was complaning about money as usual and made the comment,"Well my dad said he was going to let me run my own little resturant....."  I heard nothing else, I didn't want to hear anything else.  I couldn't believe after years of discussing this she just drops me!  Since then I just can't quit thinking about everything I have done for her (Mostly I regret giving her a dollar of my payrate when she was moving out and wasn't going to be able to get a raise) and how she doesn't deserve any hand outs when she can't even appreciate them.  I've tried to igonre her, but it's hard she lives right next door and is always asking her brother(my boyfriend) for something! How am I suppose to keep myself from saying or doing something I'll regret?