Topic : Betrayal

not a bad idea to give up drrinking socially if you cant remember things, something I should diff try :) Although I wouldn't stop drinking with my boyfriend Its just wayyyyy to much fun ;)

what in the world did your friend do to you? I really think that cat looks wasted ;)

That couldn't be said more perfect. I have a really good idea  why a past friend doesn't want to talk to me anymore...It's those of us that think we have no problems, just the  perfect person all around. A relationship will never last thinking like that...You get really tired and annoyed with that friend. I'm not perfect nor do I live to be. But I will try my hardest to try to get as close to perfect as I can. Its a long road and everything takes time. Being hurt is the WORST. But I think of Jesus and all the pain he endured and my hurt doesn't even compare. I know Jesus forgives and that is the way I choose to live my life. If this friend continues to hurt u then you have the option (of course) to run....or not... BUT I do think you owe that friend an explanation sooner than later no matter what that friend did or how bad he hurt you. It's DOWNRIGHT RUDE not to respond to a friend when they want to know why you decided to cut them off. Fine you decide to cut them off thats your choice that you'll live with but be a good person (which Im sure you are) and talk to your friend. You probably have no idea how much he/she is hurting.

Why dont you just tell the person thats interfering to step the heck back? Your girlfriend SHOULD NOT have to put up with that, Expecially since this happened before. Of course she is going to feel insecure (even more so if the girl is a cutie) Come on get a clue, your girlfriend should come first and you should do whatever you can to make her feel secure in your relationship. If its too hard to talk to that person thats interfering why not text them? I bet a million bucks that would solve your problems and you and your girlfriend can focus on better things like how happy the two of you are just being with each other. Good Luck! :)

Here's my story but I'll spare you and shorten it way up ;)     I was married for????I always forget and I have to think...hold on... married march 1993 divorced in 2001 so Over seven years. I HATE MORE THAN ANYTHING WHEN FAMILY AND OR FRIENDS TELL YOU TO STAY IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS.  I was brainwashed and thus listened to what my mom& family had to say. But now, almost 100 percent of the time ...do exactly the opposite. I do place alot of blame on my mother for telling me to suck it up and stay with my unfaithful husband. He was never really a dad always gone making money working hours that wouldn't half the time allow him to be back at home for dinner with the family. I always wondered what he was up to and it put alot of strain on our relationship. No I wasn't the model wife, I nagged, bitched all that but Im sorry no matter what you do you DONT cheat!!!!! And besides isn't that breaking one of the commandments? Long story short, do what you want, don't listen to others that want to control and lead your life. Lifes to short to be anything but HAPPY :) And my family is much better in two homes where there is PEACE and where the kids now mom and dad love them no matter what. I can't wait to add someone to my family and make him the most important man in my life.  WHEN YOUR HAPPY THE FAMILY IS MORE HEALTHY AND HAPPY AND EVERYONE WINS. but I do believe at first its all new and that does tend to get old but there has to be the trust and respect and if thats there I bet it will never get old. What do I know, Im just getting my advice from Dr. Lauras and Dr Phils books. Good luck everyone

I love it when people just can't communicate like an adult. They play tricks and make you run through hoops to figure out what you have done wrong. They read into things way to much, its scary! Well all I can say is that Im a good person and I try to be, I try my best. Whether you want to believe it or not is up to you and I wont loose anymore sleep over it.

Funny my daughter had to do a report on "stalkers" and pull info up on it.Due to lots of internet stuff thats going on and how one could make themself safer. I have never had one and I feel like  thats kinda a harsh label to put on someone. Honestly if it distrubs you so greatly to have someone text you once in a while (not over twice a day, everyday) which I think would be more close to stalking, why dont you just text back hey (u should be firm) you need to understand I dont like you and please move on, dont contact me again. Perhaps you've given this person false hope somewhere on all  your madeup sites. Im sure your a good person but making accusations so harshly against someone that you just dont know that well and by what all these other people are saying...I just wonder how well they know her. We're they all good friends with her at one point? Its so childish filled with evil and hatred. Kinda reminds me of what like hell would be like. I'm sure thats nothing compared to what its really like. Anyways, why are you so cruel? Did your parents raise you to stake out a innocent person and trash them so painfully and cruely?

my sister did the worst betrayal thing she could ever do.

She likes playing the role "poor me" or "look at me" at school

So this year she told EVERYONE at school that i

 a. pull my hair out because i have an OCD

 b. I am a cutter

 c. I have cancer

 d. I am taking Zoloft for depression

 

ALL of those were supposed to stay a secret. My mom and I sat down with her and told her to NOT TELL ANYONE.

 

I found out she told everyone from the BIGGEST gossipper in our school.

I confronted her about it and when she admitted to it I decked her in the face.

I will never forgive her for it and now everyone at school thinks im a Freak.

 

-life sucks Theresa

hey everyone I seriously need some help. im about to tell you some stuff i allowed myself to become involved in, and im already agreeing up front that most of this is all my fault and that i have no buisness feeling or doing some of the things i have done however all is said and done now i need advice on how to fix it or leave it alone,So here goes, im in recovery AA, and ive been sober for almost 3 yrs, i have learned alot of things that have changed my life , i have let my gaurd down and not been focusing on my recovery like i should be, i used to work at a rehab that brings their clients to meetings and the women , yes all women some go to a transitional living house and are free to go where ever they choose, so i became involved in these girls lives, giving them rides to meetings, listening to there struggles and just being a friend, one girl , my best friends sister has become very close to my heart and we go to g.e.d. classes together, well i tell her every thing, mistake number one, and yheres another young woman who joined our little friendship and we are basiclly the three musketeers, well the young one ill callsue, she is young and has hiv and two beatiful boys, she is in remmission and trying to stay clean, and is struggling some what worse than others, well i took to her cause i had thrree kids in treatment alone and i lived alone after i got out till my hubby came home and with no parenting skills, and no drugs i found it very hard to stay clean, so i offer my experience and strength to her and i know she loves me cause she called me last night and we talked some of it out, but see i always hung out with the guys and i didnt like women very much couldnt trust them and find it very hard now. the problem, i fell for this guy in recovery while my husband was in prison, we built a very closwe relationship, with no sex at all, well all of a sudden when i started hanging around this sue, he took to her very well shes 25 im 37 and hes 47, and im still married, and havent had the strength to end it and it is very mentally abusive any way this guys ask me alot, as a friend he says when am i going to end it, well i recently told him i decided to give the marraige to god, and we had counsling and im going to just wait and see what happens, well i got real jealous when he took her out baught her clithes and spent time with her kids, well my other friend told all my feelings to this sue cause i didnt want to show i was hurt and felt betrayed, because i wanted to be the example in recovery, even though this lust thing is wrong to have i tried to hide it excpt to my best frien any way uits all a mess she said this i said that and now my very best friend is mad at me for putting her in the middle but she aint madd at the sue, instead i found out d=from sues roommate that their talking about me alot and ever thing i told my bst friend she told sue and told me what sue said ok..... this guy took me to lunch the other day, before he baught the clothesfor her and totally reassured me he just being her friend and that all of us girls need a male friend in the program thats not out to have sex with us and who loves us for who we are as friends, he said that he and i have a special love with no sexual love at this time and im always in his heart, so he been playin around with my emmotions so bad for a year and a half the hting is i want him so bad maybe enough to really get him i know i can and he has very very much money which i do not care about i love him for him but sometimes i think hes lying to me about his intensions., sue says she dosent want to hurt me and only wants to go out and have fun with him to get over this other guy shes crazy over who dosent want her at all,  this guy has no idea all this is  festering and im so afraid hell hate me for it, sue told me yesterday when we took our kids to the park together, that when shes with him all she thinks about is me and she feels guilty is this betrayl? am i betraying our friendship? by getting jealous? i just have a real hard time trusting women and well for my other bst friend well i m real mad at her she suppose  to be my closest friend, now i have to go to the AA meeting at noon and face all, anyone have any advice before then ? i pray someone will respond,   what a mess im in and ifeel so many feelings some i should and some i know i have absalutly no righrt please help

Go into that meeting with your head held high. You admit that you’ve made mistakes, and you admit that you want to be a better person; now start doing it!

If you truly have given your marriage “to God,” then you wouldn’t be so hung up on this other man. He’s allowed to have friends, isn’t he? These other women who are struggling in their sobriety are allowed to have friends, right? You can’t control what they do or think, you have control over one person and one person only- and that is YOU. Put your focus and energy on improving yourself and stop worrying about other people.

hi thank you so much, and thats exactly what i did and this guy came up to me and hugged me and wisperd in my ear do you still love me? wow! i said sure and sat down but he could tell i wasnt right and when i got home i knew he would call me and see what was wrong, and ill be dammed if he did, and all of a sudden the whole truth came ouy and he acted like he was surprised and didnt know i liked him like that, but you know what, he did he knew all along i think he might be gay, i heard from an old timerthat he had heard he slept with a man before, i dont think he is though, but anyways, so we talked and he said alot of nice things and i told him why i fell for him in the first place, my husband knows about everything and is hurt real bad, he says because i fell for someoneelse period, i dont blame him and i feel bad for him, but he was in prison for trfking and i was in recovery and hubby is back in old behaviors and  were going in two different directions, any ways im so relieved that its all out and i called my best friend and apolijised to her and she to me and im picking her up for the meeting tonight  so im real happy, now sue, i dont know if shes mad at me or not, but well see tonight for im making the first move to fix that too if i can , apoligies is all i can do the rest is behond my control i agree with that.now i  an nervous cause i didnt want to ruin the relationship with this guy, but if hes truly my friend it will all work out anyways, i feel like all had to be said for me to get over him so yea!!!!!!!!!, for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you jamie i love you!!!!