Topic : Betrayal

OK I NEED SOME HELP PEOPLE. OK- THIS IS WHATS GOING ON....

LAST YEAR, MY HUSBAND (OF 5 YEARS, AT THE TIME) MET UP WITH A FRIEND FROM HIGH SCHOOL. THEY SWAPPED NUMBERS AND BEGAN KEEPING IN TOUCH. DURING THIS TIME, I WAS AWAY AT SCHOOL FOR 6 MONTHS. WELL, I EVENTUALLY CAME HOME. (I CAME HOME EVERY WEEKEND) WELL, I HAD NOTICED THAT HE WAS ALWAYS ON THE PHONE!! LITERALLY, ALWAYS!! ALL DAY AND MOSTLY ALL NIGHT. I WOULD ASK HIM WHO HE;S TEXTING OR TALKING TO AND HE WOULD ALWAYS SAY HIS SITER. OR HE WOULD SAY "A FRIEND".  OUR FIGHTS WOULD JUST ESCALATE. AND HE WAS CONSTANTLY ACCUSING ME OF BEING THIS HORRIBLE JEALOUS, PSYCHO WIFE. AND I WAS NEVER JEALOUS BEFORE. I THOUGHT MAYBE I WAS BEING OVERLY AWARE OF STUFF BECAUSE I HAD BEEN GONE SO LONG. I DONT KNOW. ANYWAYS, MY SISTER GOT MARRIED IN VEGAS SO WE ALL WENT TO ATTEND. IT WAS SO BAD TO WHERE I HAD TO BEG HIM TO LEAVE HIS PHONE OFF AND LET HIM KNOW THAT THIS WAS VERY IMPORTANT. DO NOT GET ON THAT PHONE. EVEN WITH YOUR SISTERS. I DON'T CARE. STAY OFF THE PHONE. WELL,  LONG STORY SHORT , HE WAS ON THE PHONE THE ENTIRE TIME!! TO THE POINT WHERE MY GRANDMOTHER AND THE REST OF MY FAMILY WAS ASKING ME WHO HE WAS TALKING TO. I WAS ACTUALLY EMBARRASSED. WELL, I CONFRONTED HIM ABOUT IT AND CALLED HIM RUDE!!  WE GOT INTO THIS BIG FIGHT. NEEDLESS TO SAY, OUR TRIP WAS PRETTY MUCH OVER. WELL WE GOT BACK TO THE HOTEL AND HE PASSED OUT DRUNK. I DECIDED TO GET ON HIS PHONE.

I READ HIS TEXT MESSAGES. I WAS SOOO SHOCKED. YOU SEE, MY HUSBAND IS NOT A LOVEY-DOVEY PERSON, IT'S HARD FOR HIM TO SAY I LOVE YOU TO ME. WELL, THESE TEXT MESSAGES WRE FULL OF, "I WISH YOU WERE HERE. I WISH WE WERE TOGETHER. I MISS YOU. CAN'T WAIT TO BE WITH YOU AGAIN. I HATE IT HOW WE ARE APART. " ETC. ETC.

SO, PRETTY MUCH, I CAUGHT HIM. I TEXT HIM, A BUNCH OF EXPLICITVES AND SAID WE ARE OVER.

WELL, HE APOLOGIZED AND WHATEVER... I PRETTY MUCH MADE HIM DECIDE. AND HE SAID, OF COURSE HE PICKS ME. SO I MADE HIM CALL HER IN FRONT OF ME TO BREAK UP WITH HER. HE SWORE UP AND DOWN THAT HE NEVER MET HER. IT WAS ALL TEXTING AND PHONE CALLS.

LONG STORY SHORT, I THOUGHT IT WAS OVER WITH HER, BUT I CHECKED OUR PHONE ACCOUNT AND LEARNED HE WAS STILL TALKING TO HER. I CONFRONTED HIM AGAIN A MONTH LATER, AND HE SAID THIS TIME THEY WERE ONLY TALKING AS FRIENDS. SO HE SWORE AGAIN THEY NEVER MET AND HE WOULD BREAK UP WITH HER AGAIN.

WELL, THIS HAPPEND ONE MORE TIME.

AM I THE FOOL OR WHAT??

BASICALLY... HE SAID THIS TIME (3 MONTHS AFTER THE FIRST TIME I CAUGHT HIM TALKING TO HER) THAT THIS WOULD BE THE LAST TIME. AND FOR A FEW MONTHS, I BELIEVED HIM. I WAS STILL INCREDIBLY JEALOUS, BUT WHEN I CHECKED THE PHONE RECORDS, HE WAS TELLING THE TRUTH. I BEGAN TO BELIEVE HIM AGAIN.

WELL, LAST WEEK (ON OUR 6 YEAR MARRIAGE ANNIVERSARY) I GOT NOSEY AND CHECKED THE ACCOUNT. I FOUND OUT HE WAS TALKING TO HER AGAIN. I WAS FURIOUS.

SO I CONFRONTED HIM-AGAIN- AND HE SAID THAT THE LAST TIME HE SPOKE TO HER (WHICH WAS THE DAY OF OUR ANNIVERSARY) HE TOLD HER THAT HE CAN'T TALK TO HER ANYMORE. THIS TIME FOR SURE. IT CAN'T GO ON BECAUE WE ARE CONTINUING TO WORK ON OUR MARRIAGE. AND SHE JUST ISN'T HELPING. AND THAT HE DIDN'T WANT TO LIE TO ME ANYMORE.

I THOUGHT IT WAS PRETTY IRONIC THAT HE TELLS ME THIS THE DAY I FIND OUT HE WAS STILL TALKING TO HER. WELL, ITS BEEN TWO WEEKS AND THIS STUPID GIRL KEEPS CALLING AND TEXTING. HE SAYS HE DOESN'T ANSWER AND DOESN'T TEXT HER BACK, BUT I CAN'T HELP BUT THINK HE MAY EITHER USING ANOTHER PHONE OR CALLING FROM WORK. PRETTY MUCH, I DON'T TRUST HIM ALL OVER AGAIN. AND IT'S DRIVING ME CRAZY.

I WANT TO CALL HER UP AND JUST CUSS HER OUT TO LEAVE MY HUSBAND ALONE. AND AT THE SAME TIME, IT'S SO HARD TO BELIEVE MY HUSBAN. HE AREALLY HAS CHANGED THESE PAST FEW WEEKS AND WE HAVE BEEN GETTING ALONG BETTER THAN EVER.

SO I DON;T KNOW WHAT TO DO. SHOULD I CONTINUE BELIEVING MY HUSBAND HAVE FAITH THAT HE'S TELLING THE TRUTH. THAT HE'S NOT TALKTING TO HER??? SHOULD I CALL THIS GIRL AND TELL HER TO LEAVE HIM ALONE?? I MEAN, IF HE DID REALLY TELL HER TO LOSE HIS NUMBER, WHY DOES SHE CONTINUE TO CALL AND TEXT??

ANYWAYS... SORRY IT'S SO LONG...BUT PLEASE HELP!! PLEASE!!

THANKS EVERYONE WHO READ THIS AND RESPONDS!!!