Topic : 09/24 Bishop T.D. Jakes

First, I must express my deepest to Tiffany and her family. I do not have children, but I have a 6 year old niece, and I cannot imagine losing her. I'm so sorry that this tragic accident happened, and I hope you are able to forgive yourself. It it obvious that you are a wonderful mother, and your children are lucky to have you for a mom. As for Hunter, the negative guest: I am not easily offended, but your comments about the South really hit a nerve. I grew up here, and take great pride in that fact. There are good and bad people down here just as there are in the North, Midwest, or West Coast. Take the time to get to know us instead of complaining about everything. You will find we're generally decent people. If you really hate it here, move on! I do wish you well, and hope you can find happiness.

This message is for Tiffany and her husband, I think his name is Antwan. I myself am dealing with the sudden death of my 13 year old daughter. So when I say everything in time is going to be ok, I am speaking from experience. I am not saying something I heard or something I read in a book. God has truly been the source of my strength. I am a firm believer in fate. God is sovereign. God knows all and controls all. Don't you know if it was not meant to be your son would still be here. Whatever God put him in this world to do he did it. His mission was complete and God called him home. Do not blame yourself. Keep Your Head Up, my sister. Be Encouraged. The bible says for us to cast all our cares upon him. He will not give us more than we can bare. I too thought I would not be able to go on, but I am a living testimony that you will get thru this and God will see you thru. I will be praying for you and your family.

I found myself crying right along with Tiffany. I have two boys. And, I couldn't imagine what my life would be like if I lost either one of them. My heart goes out to her and her family. The person that I could relate to most is Hunter. After almost 10 years of marriage. I woke up one morning. Having one of those, what the hell moments. I realized that my life was at a stand still. I have been taking care of everyone. While the whole time my dreams and goals were slowly dying. I found that I was very unhappy. And, I was becoming a rude and down right cruel person. I was becoming a person that I just couldn't stand. After watching today's show. I plan to but T.D. Jakes books. As well as find myself once again.

Tiffany, I pray that God will bless you and your family and your heart will heal.

Thank you for apprearing on the DR.Phil show. I took what you said to heart. It's like a light bulb went off in my head. I create what I want my future to be so I have to reach out and grab it. Thank you Bishop T.D Jakes. N.clinton

I hear so often that women feel compelled to move out with their children and leave the house to the husband who claims he wants to stay married. Why would any woman want to be married to a man who would not giver her the house under those circumstances. You're sitting on your butt in a house she's paying for. If you really want to stay married, grow up and give your family the house until you work things out.

When the man started talking, I kept saying, "that's me, that's me." I am going through exactly the same thing. I moved away from my home of 43 years in San Francisco and got stuck in a really bad place. I had no idea that where you live matters so much. It's hard to move once you get in a bad place, because you can't work any longer, and you get caught up for a lot of reasons. Me and my brother both were forced to leave San Francisco because of my grandfather abusing the family so badly, and we both ended up on welfare in our 40s, for the first time in our lives. We went from having good jobs and good lives to living on 150 a month on a loan from the welfare dept. and trying to get onto disability. I didn't even know my brother was having the same experience I was for two years, because he got evicted and we could not find him for two years. I ran into him on a bus by accident after two years, only to find he had gone onto welfare too and disability too. Where I live now no one can work because the people are so mean and low class. The place is known for everyone being mean. You get caught up because how do you move when you can't function? You have to go on welfare and try to get onto disability and it takes years. Then, nobody is going to rent to you anyway because you don't have a job now. Plus, my grandfather evicted both of us off of properties we had just half inherited, so for seven years, I had two unlawful detainer actions from him on my record, which prevented me from moving. It's like you get caught up in a sieve of problems you never knew existed and there's no way out. I've been stuck for five years and I always say I hate everyone. I love people and hate being reduced to this kind of thinking. What happens is when you take people from a kind, intelligent environment and put them in a welfare town, they get dragged down financially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. You can't leave, and you can't live there. It's easy to tell someone to just move, but when you have family abuse that caused legal documents to be filed that prevents you from renting an apartment and you are on disability and older, it's not really possible. I finally got the legal actions off of my record, but it will still be hard to get back home. Be careful about moving places you don't know anything about. People up here are in therapy because they are in morning from having to live here. I had no idea places like this even existed. They reduce a kind, loving, happy person to garbage. It's very painful. I have learned so many things, and one of them is that when you live in a place that empowers you, gives you strengh and community, you feel free to live your live and move if you want. When you live in a really bad place, it beats you down to the point you become terrified to move because you now have the fear "what if the next place is this bad or worse." The bad places disempower being able to live and they disable you from getting out. I would tell the guy to move to San Francisco, most loving people in the world.

After today's Dr. Phil show, I took the two guns that are not locked up and put them in the safe. My husband and I are in law enforcement and have quite a few guns, most of which were already in the safe. One, I always carried in my purse, but left it (the purse) laying around and the other gun under the mattress for the intruder. I have two sons, 2 years old and 3 months old. Tiffany did not want her tragedy to happen to another family and perhaps she just saved mine. The family is in my prayers. Thank you so much for sharing.

My heart goes out to Tiffany. I have children of my own and there is just nothing to say to ease her pain. I can not imagine going through something like that. Tiffany, you show amazing grace and courage to even get out of bed. All I can tell you is that I will lift you up to the God who loves you and holds your future in His hands. I pray for your peace and His continuing grace. God bless you, Tiffany.

I am around Hunter's age and female, I have felt in the past as he does now and just looked up one morning and remembered an old saying "You better get busy living if you don't want to get busy dying " can't for the life of me remember where I heard it. But it changed my life, for the better, nothing is ever perfect, but it is so much better, remember , if you change the way you look at something you change the way you feel about it. I've been single for 23 years and know it can be tough, Hunter if you read this I would like to talk with you, there are a lot of jobs here on the west coast. JB