Topic : 09/24 Bishop T.D. Jakes

The people we marry today are pretty much going to be the same people 10 years from now. Kelly married a guy who wasn't very ambitious, who wasn't very interested in being wealthy and like a slow pace of life and well, ok, who was more than a little immature. What did she think was going to happen? He'd change? Time for her to face facts, she wanted to get married and found someone to marry - and now she's unhappy being the main breadwinner and has little or no respect for the guy she married. Some people are silly enough to thinkt they can change or "mold" those who they marry into the persons they want or need to them to - it doesn't happen that way. Time for Kelly to stop blaming Bobby for being someone he isn't - she picked him as he was. He looks willing to change - but I just didn't see a whole lot of love there - more as if they married because they each felt it was time for them to marry. She's right to say that she feels like she has another child - some people never actually do grow up - time for him to decide that its past time for him to grow up. Kelly, time for you to face yourself - are you willing to wait for the guy you married to grow up - accept your own role in this - is he that much different than when you marriied him or did you not want to see what he was just thought you could make him over?

I hope that Hunter got better help from Dr Phil than what we saw on the show. It appeared that both Dr Phil and Bishop Jakes were basically telling him to "suck it up and get happy", with no real idea of the man's circumstances. Being stuck can be something that steals your energy, your resources, even your faith and belief system. It's not easy to repair a broken belief system, especially when it is so deeply personal and affects your daily life. Just getting up and moving may keep one active, but sometimes it takes a whole lot more to make the changes that affect your heart. I didn't see much help offered in that regard today. Because I am one of those stuck people, and have lost my faith that anything is really going to change my life. I keep wishing, but I don't really believe. I hope Hunter finds himself again.

For cdavis06 if you would like more information about Bishop and his church, The Potters House, you can visit his websites at tdjakes.com or thepottershouse.org. He is an amazing and wonderful preacher and teacher and your family would truely benefit by going to his church if they are truely interested in growing in the things of the Lord. I live in Utah and drive to Denver, Colorado to see him every year and will continue to do so until he begins coming here. Which I am believing God to bring to pass. Thanks Dr. Phil for bringing Bishop on your show. It was great seeing him.

Listening to Hunter express his frustration at being so angry and bitter, I felt a chord of sympathy to him. I found myself dwelling there after I graduated from college some years ago. I expected to have found a good job because I earned my degree; I thought the time had arrived for me to have met someone and been in a productive romantic relationship. Neither happened immediately though to me it seemed that the rest of the world was having success where I wasn't. When I realized how very tired I was of the constant feeling of anger, bitterness, and cynicism, I made a deliberate decision to do something to change it. I didn't really know how to get myself out of my rut, but I knew I had to do something. (Even before I knew of Dr Phil, I tried behaving my way to success!) From that day, I made a deliberate decision to say "please," "thank you", and "you're welcome" whenever the occasion arose. I said "yes, please" and "no, thank you" at the drive through, over the telephone, anytime I could. It was a deliberate decision. When the occasion arose to say, "you're welcome," I was deliberate in saying the words and not grunting a reply. After a time, I made a deliberate decision to begin smiling. I would smile at somebody every day. It took a while to steer my way back to a better place, but at least I felt empowered because I was making a conscious and deliberate decision to look at my immediate environment in a different and better way. I'm not saying this will work for Hunter, but it is a suggestion to try...

I waited with excitement to watch the interaction of Bishop Jakes and Dr. Phil, two of the most inspirational men today. Sadly I felt we needed to hear more. One hour was not enough for them to provide any real advice to these people. For example, it may seem simple to state to Hunter that he needs to change, do something, be somewhere else etc. From my perspective, I felt he should have been provided with the psychological tools necessary to create this change. He was not given any advice which could have spurred him on - an incentive. Because of the brevity of time, the show came off as a bit hollow. karenlaborde

Dear tiffany I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't punish yourself, you still have two other children who need you so dearly. pray, pray, pray. Ask bishop T.D Jakes to pray for you and your family. God loves you very much, please don't ever forget that.

Tiffany, I watched the dr.phil show this morning after my 4 children had left for school, I am very sorry for your loss and hope that someday you will find peace. I related to your story so much as my finance travels for business a lot and I am one that hates to be home alone at night. I sleep with the lights on the TV on, sleep in different rooms of the house. One thing that really got me was I always take that faitful gun with me to bed when he is gone, like you I kept it to protect my family and have it ready incase someone tries to come in I ALWAYS place it under my pillow. Your story made me realize how something like that could go so wrong in the matter of a second... You stated that you just wanted to keep one child safe that you wanted something good out of this, well rest ashured you will keep at least 4 children safe because I will not do it again. I am sorry that you had to go through this, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I must admit that I didn't know that much about Bishop T.D. Jakes until watching the Dr. Phil Show. He seems to be a very powerful man. Having 30,000 members in his congregation is very impressive. I just might go out and buy his book. My own church is very small in comparison, but our faith in the lord is about the same. Also, it was very big of Dr. Phil to share his own stage with such a prominent figure. On that show, there was an older guy with a very negative personality. I was about the same, so I made some drastic changes. They include, legally changing my name, moving to another city, and getting completely rid of my biological relatives. These changes have made me see life in a different light. Dr. Phil and T.J. Jakes are right in that you have to make changes and stick by them for a while. If they don't work out, at least you made an honest effort to make things better. Stick to it, and good things will happen. Best of luck to you. FTP

Kudos to Dr. Phil and Bishop Jakes. My family and I have been members of The Potter's House for almost seven years, and what a blessing it has been! Bishop is truly an annointed man of God, and I'm glad more of the mainstream world now has been exposed to him. Also, Dr. Phil was at The Potter's House on this past Sunday, along with Robin, and Jay and his wife. He is also truly awesome as well! Kudos to Dr. Phil and Bishop for a great show!

My heart goes out to you and your family. I TIVO the Dr. Phil show and we (Craig and I) watch it together after the calm of the storm of our six finally get to bed. It gets pretty hectic around here with all the homework and baths and life in general. Craig has always had three shotguns hanging on a wall rack and two handguns in a lock box. Time and time again I have said to him that one of the kids could easily get to them because they know where the key is. They have seen him get them out. I tried everything, I told him that children are irresponsible and could get upset and who knows what could happen. As we watched your show last night tears would not stop flowing down my face I can not imagine how you must feel inside, but the emotions you show on the outside are devastating to watch. I hope you find some comfort in knowing that he immediately got up and took the guns to his brothers. He said that if someone came into our house that he would take your advise and deal with it another way. I want to thank you for having the strength and the courage to share your story with us. It changed a mind that I didnt believe was changable! Thank you so much. You have given me relief from a matter I have feared for years. I really cant thank you enough!