Topic : Difficulty Forming Friendships

 RUN!

Hi Kim! I used to be painfully shy when I was younger. Then, I was blessed w/ the opportunity to go on foreign-exchange to Scotland and I had to make a choice (to see this wonderful place I've only dreamed of or miss the chance perhaps for good) I went.. but, not without many anxious nights.  If  I'd not gone I'd still be shy probably. I had to take a "leap"

That said,  I'd like to try and help.  When I'm in doubt I use humor. Oh heck, I use use hunor most of the time even when I'm not in doubt. Don't force it but, if something humorous pops in your head (and it's appropriate and relative) spit it out. It can be a real ice-breaker.

Think about your interests. What really interests you  (say you like crafts, take a class or volunteer to teach one) People are most comfortable w/ what they KNOW and I'm sure you know something.

Most of all take your time- real friendships aren't rushed they're cultivated

If you like, you can check out the Faithful Friends board (under news and current events 2nd page)

C-ya, Godbless and Good luck!

Hi there,

 

My name is Lisa. I am 35 yrs. old,  married and have 2 children ages 8 & 9. I chose to be a stay at home mom. It is a financial sacrifice that has always been worth it, however; I 'm very lonely and miss having friendships and things in common with other adults.  I volunteer at the school and any of their activities after school. I feel like I've lost my own identity. I'm not Lisa, I'm Chandler and Star's Mom. I don't have any friends.  I know and talk to other parents when I'm out with my children. I get along with everyone I meet.  It just seems like everyone  has enough friends and don't have the time to invest in any new ones. Before I got married and had children, I was the same way (busy), always had plans, and a phone book full of people to talk with.  I just don't know how or where to meet other people that would like to form friendships.   I'm very personable, nonjudgemental and have a crazy sense of humor and good morals. Can anyone out there relate? Does anyone out there need a friend?  

I know exactly how you feel..  I to am in the same situation - and feel rather down about not being able to make friends.  All the mom's at my kid's school also have friends of their own and are not interested in making new ones.

 

I am based in South Africa but, should you be willing to have a friend on the other side of the world, I'll be more than happy to be your friend..

 

All the best Dani... 

RUN! RUN! RUN!  She's not joking and neither am I!!!

I am also in the same situation.  My husband comes home from work, and asks did anyone call today.  I reply, "Nobody called because I don't have any friends."  I see other woman who have so many friends, and wonder to myself is there something wrong with me?  Why can't I form friendly relationships?  It would be nice to get a phone call from a friend, and say," lets go have lunch."  I'll be happy to be a friend.

 I apologize if this message appears twice but I think the last one didnt go through. I need some advice on an issue I have been dealing with. I recently moved to North Dakota from New Jersey to accept a job offer. My girlfriend moved out with me a few weeks later. To make a long story short, things didnt work out between us and she went back home. Meanwhile, I became friends with 2 people from my job, Mike and Lisa. The three of us became pretty close over the 4 months Ive been here. However, they began dating each other recently and were trying to hide it from me. I finally squeezed the truth from Mike the other day and found out they had been in a relationship for a week and kept it from me, not to spare my feelings, but in hopes the word wouldnt spread around our job. So now, instead of the three of hanging out several times a week, I have gone over a week without even really hearing from them. I have been in this situation before and I always get burned and I wont let it happen again. However, I now find myself without any quality friendships, miles from family, and dealing with the pressures of the holiday season alone. My best friend was killed 12 years ago and all of my childhood friends drifted away. Since then I have had great difficulty finding quality friends and the problems is larger than ever now due to trust issues. I was hoping to hear from someone who has dealt with a situation like this and how I should deal with the lonely, depressed state I am currently in. Thanks and God bless.

Rob

I too have no real life friends. I have plenty of online friends. I think I was burned a lot in high school by girl friends. They all wanted to be my friend to get to my brother who was very cute and very popular.

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I have always had alot of friends so I though, until I realize that they were haters. They were secretly jelous of me because I don't take nonsense from anyone especially man. If I see that things are not what it should be I end all ties with them and move on with my life. I am not going to settle for less because I value myself to much to have anyone treat me any different. I consider myself friendly and helpful but that were people misinterpreting it for to giving and that's been the problem begin. I moved to Arlington Heights, Illinois about six months ago and met some of my husband’s extended families members. They are ok but not the type of people I want in my live to much faking. I want someone that as a back bone. That might sound harsh but I'm keeping it real. I don't judge anyone because of their lifestyles or whatever just be upfront with me.