Topic : 10/02 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp Newlyweds, Part 3

If a man hits a woman, it does not matter what she previously said or did.

There is NO EXCUSE for his choice to commit physical violence.  

If a man bullies a woman with threats of emotional blackmail, it does not matter what she has done.

There is NO EXCUSE for his choice to emotionally abuse another person.

If a man calls a woman ugly names, it does not matter what she did.

There is NO EXCUSE for his choice to be verbally abusive.

When the public becomes educated about abuse AS A PERSONAL CHOICE,  we will be on the same page.   As an educator, and as a parent, I believe we are expected to be role models for decent behavior.

Blaming games are not productive.   Ownership of abuse is the answer to "messed up thongs [sic."

If a man hits a woman, it does not matter what she previously said or did.

There is NO EXCUSE for his choice to commit physical violence.  

If a man bullies a woman with threats of emotional blackmail, it does not matter what she has done.

There is NO EXCUSE for his choice to emotionally abuse another person.

If a man calls a woman ugly names, it does not matter what she did.

There is NO EXCUSE for his choice to be verbally abusive.

When the public becomes educated about abuse AS A PERSONAL CHOICE,  we will be on the same page.   As an educator, and as a parent, I believe we are expected to be role models for decent behavior.

Blaming games are not productive.   Ownership of abuse is the answer to "messed up thongs [sic."

I agree that one PERSON should not treat another PERSON the way that moron treated his wife.  His actions were intolerable and grotesque.

However, your page is one sided.  Its' like a mob mentality in here.  Where's your sense of reason, and rational thought.  How can you really judge a situation on one episode once again YOU DO NOT HAVE ALL THE INFORMATIONI.  I bet if you watched a little more, more of the story would unfold. "Blaming games" are you high?!  did you miss the first two episodes?  The show hints at what her contribution is to the relationship, she is not just a poor little innocent victim! 

Once again for those who lack sence or are letting there anger get the best of them, I think what this guy is doing is wrong.  I mean really what kind schmuck threatens to tell a woman's secret to the world.

On a personal note regardless weather you think it is right or wrong if anyone (including a woman) hits me, I'm hitting them back!  Unless she is pregnant, you have to be pretty low to hit a pregnant woman, on the other hand you have to be lower to jeopardize an unborn child to attack someone that would knock you on your butt, how foolish.

Anyone who wants to learn the warning signs of abusive, manipulative men must read "WHY Does He Do That?" (Inside the minds of angry, controlling men) by Lundy Bancroft.   

I took his list of characteristics (traits and behaviors that suggest a potential problem with abusive/controlling men) and shared it with my high school Health class.   They paid attention.

One boy said: "Hey---you're giving away all our tricks!"

My response to him:   "Precisely."

Danielle and other women will keep attracting/finding sociopaths who use/abuse women unless they learns the warning signs.    Why do you think women find themselves in a repetitious relationship pattern?   Why is there recidivism in prisons/programs for batterers?   Someone is NOT getting it!

Let's be smart and know what potential danger looks like.   We know what icey pavement looks like.

We know what dog droppings look like.   We can identify and discern disrespectful behavior, as well.

Let's not step into a problem.

Abuse is about CONTROL.   Men try to charm women and buy them things, only to turn off the charm and turn on the abuse later.   C'mon, women!   We are so much smarter than that.    Aren't we?

I can't imagine acting this way never mind doing so on national TV?  Thee people must not have any sense of self respect. 

Have the message boards reverted bad to the old format for everyone else here?