Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

So are you saying that getting naked and doing the nasty anywhere you want in public should be tolerated because it's with your husband.  There's gotta be some kind of laws against that.

Sooooo....it's alright to have sex in public because it's something you are o.k. with and because it is with your husband but you don't think that it is something that it is something that high school kids would go back and tease your kids about if they saw the two of you?  Is that what you are saying?  I really don't understand you points of view.  It's as if the only one on this message board that is right is you and everyone else is wrong.  You say that your marriage is a good one and that is great.  I believe that there are wonderful monogomous marriages and that there are wonderful "outside of the box" marriages but I have yet to understand your extremely narrow view on everything.  In reading the posts here, it has made me ponder points on a lot of things I had no thought about.  That's not to say I agree with all of it but there are many points to look at from different ways.  I've tried hard to see why you see things the way you do but I don't think you see things quiet like anyone else on here.

It wasn't nasty...it was perfect   ......try to keep up ;) LOL!

I have a question for you swingers?  Has there ever been any single guys trying to get up in  the action.  I mean, I can see why the rules are probably spouse swapping, but what if say a bisexual same sex couple wanted in on the action, would they not be allowed due to throwin off the balance? 

  I think God and religion are such deep personal things that there isn't any possible way for everyone to view them exactly the same.

I would say the same exact thing could be said for personal sexual prefrences.

IS that the percentage?  10%? 

That sounds about right to me,  actually.   That it would WORK for,  I mean.  As im sure the percentage climbs much higher for those who have ever tried  it.

I'm trying...but it ain't easy.

 

The more I hear about the "Lifestyle" the more I want to try it.  Currently, I am single and I like to keep my options open..hee hee.

I am embarrassed to say that my husband and I did this very thing. He had a fantasy. Great, so I did end up just like what Dr. Phil said at the end of one of the messages when the show was aired, I ended up enjoying the time with one guy and did not want to go be with any of the other people. All I heard from my husband was. This was something we could share. Yeah ok. I was so stupid to have given into this. Our marriage is now almost trash because of stupid mistakes on both our parts. He wanted to play so now I guess he has to pay. I do not totally want to destroy our marriage by running off with this other man. Although to a point I think my husband gave up lots of his rights when he wanted to see me with another man. I keep thinking about our marriage and how good things were, so I thought. After all has been said and done and we are seperated. I feel sad now. I think something must have been missing for him to want to go out to these parties and to hook up with other people. He tried to tell me it was not about him being with another woman. What do I look like STUPID? I knew better and I worry that years down the road if we get back together that this will come up again. How do I take that chance. We haven't talked much about any of that in a while, because it ends up in an argument. I do have deep feelings for this other man, and he left his wife. Now I don't know if I want to divorce or give it another try. I felt so bad for the couple with the woman who did not want to do this with the threesome. You could tell her feelings were crushed to know that her husbands desire was stronger than his love for her. I think he acted like he wanted help or he was just embarrassed that he was singled out there. Whatever any of you think don't do it. Like Dr.Phil said there is enough temptation in the world, then we went and did this. I could kick myself for this. The other couple had problems  in the marriage and did do this to try to help it. That was a dumb idea. I do know he would have left her eventually rather it was me or another woman down the road. I'm not sure I want my marriage to end, but I'm worried that he is not as sincere as I want to think he is. Since I'm the one who did fall for this man, it now has become the monkey on my back and I'm to blame. Never mind this was his dumb idea in the first place. Dumb, but what was I thinking??? I'm so torn in my life I have no idea what I'm suppose to do. I have to be the most fickled woman in the world. I do wish those of you luck who think your relationship is made of stone to with stand this, I don't think it is and I have seen more drama than not with those swinger deals. I know one thing I need dr.phils advice. Good luck everyone

No apology necessary, I wasn't trying to be too obvious about it.  It was more for the people that know me.  I like to look at things as objectively as possible, so sometimes I will attempt to post from another person's perspective.  I really can see both sides of this thing.  I'm just not one to think people have to see it from my side.  I'm not gonna act like I won't make judgements about a person's sexuality, but those judgments are only used when applicable, and only applicable if I am considering being sexual with them. 

 

I didn't think you meant the god thing in a negatively light, I should of explained that one better.  I don't think of god as a person, god, to me, is Being itself.  Thats why sins are punished through the negative consequences of the action itself.   BTW, PENNY I did a celbrity look- alike thing and albert einstein came up.  hehehe (einstein is like dead on with how I view religion, I"ve read many of his thoughts and I've never found something I disagreed with him on)  Thanks again for shedding light on that, pen, I never knew he was such a cool dude.