Happy to give you all the info I can.
A liquore license has diferent laws in every city in Canada. Some cities require you sell liquore and no byob allowed, our city says that if there is any nudity that there can be no sold booze, only what they bring. it is a tricky thing and often cities change their laws to make it difficult for private social clubs, which is how we are licesed and zoned.
As far as people o ntheir best behavoir becasue of their spouses being there, that is swinging, couples, always. Singles are not consider swingers, they are considered players and singles. Single people try to have as much sex as possible with who ever they can. We never allow single men to our club, and that is the case with most clubs. we do allow single girls becasue they are so far and few between and they are way more respecful then single guys. If you want to call a single guy a swinger, then every single guy every where would fall into that catagory and any bar where single men are would be a swingers bar to them. tell me one singlr guy that would say no to sex in any form! LOL.
So, to be clear, swingers is plural meaning that there must be two or more. couples are swingers, very very few swingers consider single men swingers or play with them. LAst count, less then 2%. those two guys that treid to ask you to jioin, are single men trying to get laid. If you would like to discuss swinging and what it can offer to a singlelady, we would be happy to talk to you as respectful adults that are true swingers. We know and see about 8 single girls. That is becasue we respect them, don't push them and listen to their needs. 2/3 of those girls don't sleep with us, because that is not there needs. so you see, it isn't about sex, it is about friendship, respect and recreation, Sex is not always the end goal. we have dozens of friends, but only play with 2 or 3 coupls and one girl.
Respect is the most typical and single guys are almost never seen. If they do act up at a club, then they are asked to leave right now, no second chances are given to anyone ever, couples included and that is made clear the first 5 min hey are at the club. When you meet on line, people have to sceen their own people. Some enjoy that as , like you, clubs of any type are not for them. They prefer a game of pool or darts or coffee and a movie. Dinner and movies are very very common first dates...lol..for lack of a better term. wee have done that very regularly.
the clubs work well, becasue it is a safe enviroment for those of us that liek the socail aspect of going pout buy ahte the mains stream clubs. We choose our own music with a juke box, we all bring food and we all get along. Picture a house party with a dance floor. Much the same, and no neighbors to wake up as we are all in industrial ares with no night trafic for security and descretion.
Also, most of our members all drive new cars and high ticket cars. Swigning is not cheap, becasue you are so social and go out a lot. My wife and I are out about 2X a week. Out kids are just at the age to baby sit and love it whe ntyhe girls can watch their brother. They get paid and have a night to them selves to watch a movie and stay up late. when we don't go out, they ask if they did someting wrong...lol. Now the parent bashers out htere will sy we are bad paernts to leavce our kids alone, but otehr then work and school, every night we are together. My kids are never on a team I don't coach and we are part of the PTA. We have never missed a single school play or band recital. we always take them to school and walk them home with their friends. If they have friends around, it is at our house. Our kids are the most importatn part of our life.
My wife and I were both had a first marriage and both had spouses cheat on us and both left us with the a daughter each. When we met, we were instant family and for over 10 years, all we have done is be parents. Now, that our kids are are old enough to be alone a bit, we are dateing and being a couple.
Being just parents is not healthy for the children. We were having our troubles and not staying together as a good ouple. We faught and rarely had sex for 6 years. But stayed together for the kids. I nthe last 2 years since we have worked so hard on being lovers again, the swinging thing just happened as My wife started to discuss her sexuality and being Bi. We did not set out to swing, it found us and for over a year, we hung out with swingers and talked and we had th ebest sex of our life..>ALONE...and still do. It prgressed with my wife having a friend to talk ato about her sexual feelings towrds same sex.
We have had our closest frinds and all of our family tell us that they can not believe how happy our family is thispast 18 months over the last 7 years! Eveyone that knows us said they thought we would break up 3 years ago. They are all surprised to see us together and so happy. They also notice how happy our kids are. My closest friend came to me, we have been freinds for over 25 years now, back to gradse school, and said he and his girl frind of 6 yers are having issues and he saw me work though a bad time, how did we do it. I told him we concintrated on us and the rest feel in. He too had a divorce and a single dad of 2 boys. He and his girl firnd have married and now have a child and I have never seen him happier. They go out once a week on a date and remeber to be acouple.
So, swingers, the people, notthe act, helped save our marriage. And we progressed at our pase with no preasures from anyone at all. Since this, we have bought into a club and we spend 2 hours a week saturday nights meeting new coupels and discussing the club, the lifestyle and what it can offer. we do also touch on hte negitives, because there are negitives o nthe subject. But the negitives and positives are both te same, they show the strengths and weaknesses of a couple. This is not for eveyone, and we liek to point that out.
by the way, we are in a city of over a million peiple and we have had over 1000 couples in the past 3 years attend our club. We have about 200 that are still active. The averge memebr comes only once every 2 months. we have 15 couples that are regular as in 3-4 times aever 6 weeks. there are 5 clubs in our city. and over 50,000 people in the city on the Adult Friend finder web site. So it is active, and not all use the clubs. Also, our waiting list for interviews to attend our club is now over a month waiting period. We interview every couple that comes in. We do turn away about 355 of those that get to the interview stage. We have an application form to be filled in as well. we also do back ground checks and ID checks.
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We have politicians, Rotarians, Lions, and even a minister as memebers. you would be shocked at who on your block is doing this. Since 1 in 10 do swing or at least attend parties or clubs, or like to watch or be on display....you do know someone doing this that is close to you.
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