Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

It was awful to see the women so upset. She gave in to her husband head games. My husband and my self are both soft swingers. But it need to be something both parties agree too. I agree with the women that wrote the book about the south. We belong to a site that shares your profile with people all over the world. We have meet several people from the south. Mostly very wealthly people, Investment bankers, big business owners.  When I check the web site and times there are 2 million plus on this site at any given time. There are millions of swingers all over the world. We are both happy about the things we do. BUT our grown children are not aware of our life style. If one of us at any time one of us decides to quit this lifestyle. We both will no questions ask.

I feel that alot of people give in to the idea of swinging in order to "spice up" their sex lives. Although this may bring some variety into the bedroom; it also brings along feelings of insecurity, jealousy, and eventually resentment. I feel it is mearly a temporary fix, and a set up for disaster. Yes, it may be an extreme pleasure for one or even both parties envolved; for the time being. But keep in mind that there was a reason you needed to "spice things" up to begin with. Bringing someone else into the bedroom is not going to eliminate the underlying issue. We are all human and it is nieve to think that jealousy would never become an issue when it comes to sharing your partener; the one you claim to love; the one you feel so comfortable with that you think even a threesome would not damage. Be realistic and think about the consequences that would come after asking your partener to ingage with a third party in the one intimate thing you are supposed to share together.

I have to agree with the woman that was on the show because her husband wanted a 3-some. I have had to listen to my boyfriend talk about the same thing, and it disgusts me. I get angry if it is a joke. The only reason a man wants a 3-some is because he wants it to be okay for him to cheat. The woman you are with, especially if you are married to her, should be enough for you. Who's to say if she gave in just one time to make him happy, that he wouldn't start seeing women behind her back? It opens the door to being with other people. 

Bottom line.... if you love somebody, you wouldn't want anybody else.

On todays show about swinning,

My first husband wanted this. I refused, he brought men to our house and tried to force me to do it. I refused. after months of this I decided to leave him. he took his head off with a shotgun that afternoon. 

If your spouce wants to swing then divorce them so they can.  If A man can't be satisfied with his wife then he doesn't deserve to have one, or to be married at all.

Do not keep this man.  i went through this argument and after five years, he was cheating openly.  This same man argued for joining a nudist colony.  I DIVORCED HIM PRONTO. and, NEVER LOOKED BACK.   LET him GO. 

Do not keep this man.  i went through this argument and after five years, he was cheating openly.  This same man argued for joining a nudist colony.  I DIVORCED HIM PRONTO. and, NEVER LOOKED BACK.   LET him GO.