Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

When I make love to my husband it's not just the physical satisfaction that I am seeking.  Obviously, I love him more than anything, I love the connection that we make everytime we have sex.  It is a time of bonding just for him and I, no one else is allowed. It reminds me alot of the bonding time with your child when you're breastfeeding because there's no choice if anyone else is involved, that's why it's so beautiful, it's just you and your child.  Just like you're providing your baby with sustenance to survive, sex is one of the necessities for a relationship to survive.  It makes me proud that my husband and I have that special bond that no one else can even come close to.  I will never darken the sanctity of my marriage by bringing someone else into my realm of love.

        I could never see being in the swinger lifestyle, but I don't judge those that are. I also don't think they should be scrutinized in society for their choices. People shouldn't lose their jobs or be black listed because of their personal life choices. How can you fire someone over their Sex preferences?? As long as you aren't out bragging to students, or making it very public to people it shouldn't be, what is the problem? If both people are willing and are secure enough in their relationship and "swinging" is what they want to do, then so be it. However, in the case of the 2nd couple on the show, that poor woman needs to stand up for herself!! He seems like a little kid being a bully, and he should never treat his wife like that, she needs to gain herself a backbone, and tell him no, and stick to it. To the viewer who left a message saying she would remove her kids from her daycare if she found this were to be true, I wonder why that is? Just because someone is a swinger doesn't make them a pedophile, or mean they are pushing their beliefs on your child, I would hope they would have enough respect for the child to not speak about sex in the presence of children! You really never know what you neighbor is doing inside their home, and thats because it's THEIR home and THEIR life, they should be able to do as they wish.

I too was in a marriage where my husband wanted 3-somes. The first tiime he actually tried to get me to agree, we were at some of his friends' for the evening. He and  his friend decided he would come over the next Friday night and my step-kids would stay all night with one of their friends. When I said no way, he didn't talk to me for 2 weeks. I had been married just over a year and we had custody of two of his kids who were 8 and 10, It is the most degrading thing a woman can experience. I was depressed for days but I chose to stay because of the kids. He controlled me by threatening to put the kids in foster care if I left.  I stayed for 6 1/2 years before I left. 

  He would withold sex because I wouldn't go along with him or would quit in the middle of sex because I wouldn't agree to have sex with some guy and come home and tell him about it. He really wanted to watch he said.  I was 31 when I got married and it was my first and only marriage. I have been divorced now for 24 years and I will never marry again!!!  This show was hard to watch. It brought back so many bad memories.  I can't describe how humilitating it is for the person you are intimate with to want  you to sleep with someone else!! I stayed because I was too ashamed to face it or for anyone to know. I lost all self confidence and self respect.  The best thing I ever did is to leave!!!  I found out after I left that he had run around on me all our married life!

Thanks for airing this show. I wouldn't have the guts even now to go public but I was so glad to know I'm not alone!! I

Hello people!

My husband and I have been swinging for almost a year now. we have been married for almost 8 years.  we are select on who we meet ,make we have other things in common with them so it's not just about sex. We have found that most couples in the website are some of the most laidback people and fun to just hang out with that we ever met.  we make sure we only meet 1 or 2 couples a month.. new or ones we met before and save the rest of the time for eachtother and our famly. 8 years ago i would have never seen myself even think about it.  its a fun time. you as a couple need to set ground rules before you start, and talk about them with the coupes you meet so everyone knows.