Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

My husband was waching a show called "Curb Your Enthusiasm"  the episode was about a husband asking his wife to allow him to sleep with another woman as a 10th Anniversary gift..     So my husband says "Can i have that for our Anniversary..?"  I told him, "Sure, in another lifetime!"    Sometimes he jokes about it. but I wouldn't be surprised for the man works with alot of women...    but it makes me think, what if this is something that's been going through his mind and he was waiting for the right moment to mention it?   i would never have asked him something like that, GOD FORBID, HE"LL DIVORCE ME!!!!!

I've had men flirt with me and I've found some of them attractive, but not to want them in my private scene..........

I think it is totally wrong to go out side the marriage, no matter what.  When you take your vows your suppose to take them serious.  If a man wants to go outside the marriage I feel that  it shows he is not totally in love with you.

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                                Grandmafour

How absurd to think the people in your community don't know you swing.  In my state, Just about everyone in one small  town of under 5,000 people know about the swinging of a psychologist, elementary school principal, a couple of lawyers, and some other so-called elite in this town.  They act as though they are the ones everyone in the community should look up to.  They look down at the people who wait on them in their country club and come accrss judgemental of others for not making as much money as they do. 

If the couples on the Dr. Phil show think that know one knows their secret, they are truly not in tune with others in their communities.  And please don't think others are envious of this lifestyle.  Most of the people in this small  town think the swingers are a joke or just very sad people.

I am always amazed at just how naive women are about male sexuality, sexual needs, fantasies and desires.  Just because the wife is happy with her sex "life" doesn't mean the husband is.  I have been in the lifestyle for years and virtually all my additional male partners are MARRIED men.  Their wives are clueless to their husbands' real sexual needs. The think that a few minutes of missionary in the dark under the covers sex a few times a month is sufficient. Yet I see these men literally starving for lights on kinky fun creative sex. Lingerie. Role playing. Use of porn. And yes, even threesomes, foursomes and more-somes. All between consenting adults. Many of these women are married to bisexual men and don't have a clue about that either. So while you condemn swingers, you better realize that in all likelihood your husband is doing a little something on the side, even if it is enjoying "himself" via computer porn.  Get a reality check!

First, not all of us have unprotected sex. Although, I can say that not all are safe when playing. For us, that is our number one rule....SAFETY. If the other couple does not agree to be safe aswell, we DO NOT play! What you are equating this to, is like when AIDS first came to light and it was known as a "gay" disease. The fact is that diseases are apart of any lifestyle, it is what you do to prevent them that counts!

l love how when people want to sin they just change the name for conscious sake. No matter how you re-label, rename, repackage it, it's still adultery. This is the very case here. Judgment,  hey, they are already under judgment--- by the 7th commandment.  Rename it and you can do it, that is their motto!!! So when Solomon wrote in Ecclesiastes "nothing new under the sun" well just maybe; a new name for the same old thing!!!!

Jackie

SanAntonio