Quote From: jules1965My husband and I have been swinging going on 5 years.
My family is aware of it as are my grown adult children, even my MOTHER.
I think what shocked my mother (think old school'what would the neighbors think?)
So I went to a popular swing site, typed in my zip code, put in a 50 mile radius and viola, up popped over 500 couples......there mom, that's what my neighbors think.
She was aghast of course that so many people were swinging, not that my husband and I swing.
The thing about swinging is, there must be 110% agreement between the couple if they are wanting to try this.
They must be 2000% committed to their MARRIAGE.
They must set clear and unbreakable RULES for swinging, any violation of the rules and the swinging ends or the marriage will.
Protect yourself at all times, from pregnancy, disease, weirdos.
Never go with strangers, always get to know the people first (phone, internet, safe place to meet for the 1st time)
Swinging has not harmed our marriage whatsoever. We've had 3 somes (MFM and FMF as well as couples MF/MF)
If swinging has done anything to our marriage it has strengthened it, we have more trust for each other, our sex life..........well......just RULES!
We are open with each other, no secrets, no lying, the trust is amazing!! If both of us don't agree to a situation 110%.......we leave, simple as that.
Nobody can enter our marriage, they may enter our bed but not our marriage. We are a team and will remain until death do us part.
Swinging is absolutely NOT for everyone.
No partner should feel threatened, forced, or guilted into doing anything they do not want to do!
The couple coming on the show where the wife doesnt want to do it but feels pressure from her husband and is scared he'll leave if she doesn't go along with him.......
Face it, there are much deeper problems than just if his 'needs' or 'wants' aren't met or she doesnt do what HE wants to do.
Some people are not into swinging nor ever will be. It isn't right for everyone. (though the numbers are so high that fact has room for argument!)
One thing swinging has given us is a much deeper understanding of each other, has enhanced a very wonderful sex life too.
Mind you, this isn't an everyday thing or we spend time cruising, we're part timers......if we find a nice couple fine, if not, fine too.
Its been a year since we swung but we move across country and have been busy....if the mood strikes we'll search for like minded adults and see where it goes......our lives are not consumed by swinging, only positively enhanced our marriage, IN and OUT of the bedroom.
You said, "We are open with each other, no secrets, no lying, the trust is amazing!!"
My husband and I are not swingers and we have complete trust, no secrets or lying either. We have always talk openly about sex from the very beginning. It doesn't take swinging to give you trust in your marriage. Trust should have been developed during the dating process. You should never marry someone with whom you do not have complete trust.
It's sad that you think this. Healthy relationships don't require extremes to prove that they are healthy.
How well do you think you know your neighbors, your friends and even your child's teacher? It is estimated that four to eight million people in North America are swinging in the suburbs -- mostly middle-class folks from all walks of life. Dr. Phil gives you a closer look at who these couples are who engage in sex with other twosomes. First up, Nita and Walter have been swinging for the last 12 years. They say they are happy in the lifestyle, so why does it cause tension in their relationship? Then, Brent says he has a strong yearning for he and his wife, Renee, to participate in a threesome. Renee says the idea disgusts her, but worries that if she refuses to join in, Brent will leave her. They fight constantly, often dragging their 17-year-old son into the middle of their chaos. Brent says he thinks about having threesomes every other day, but says that his desire is normal. What does Dr. Phil think? And, Dr. Phil viewers weigh in and share their thoughts about the swinging lifestyle. Join the discussion.
