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Created on : Saturday, September 29, 2007, 09:23:47 am

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How well do you think you know your neighbors, your friends and even your child's teacher? It is estimated that four to eight million people in North America are swinging in the suburbs -- mostly middle-class folks from all walks of life. Dr. Phil gives you a closer look at who these couples are who engage in sex with other twosomes. First up, Nita and Walter have been swinging for the last 12 years. They say they are happy in the lifestyle, so why does it cause tension in their relationship? Then, Brent says he has a strong yearning for he and his wife, Renee, to participate in a threesome. Renee says the idea disgusts her, but worries that if she refuses to join in, Brent will leave her. They fight constantly, often dragging their 17-year-old son into the middle of their chaos. Brent says he thinks about having threesomes every other day, but says that his desire is normal. What does Dr. Phil think? And, Dr. Phil viewers weigh in and share their thoughts about the swinging lifestyle. Join the discussion.

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intheword

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January 25, 2008, 1:13 pm PST

Listen to the word

These people are missing a very important part of true happiness and that would be the seed of Christ. If they had this knowledge they would not be able to act on thier immoral desires. It says in scripture that God would not give us a cross to large for us to bear. I will continue to pray for all people to realize where we as humans all fall short of the glory of God.

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themerritts

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January 25, 2008, 1:13 pm PST

swinging

I think this topic is terrifying. I am married and I would freak out if my husband suggested this and would pack him a bag immediately. I have a friend that told me her husband was wanting to do this and she did not seem very upset about it and I have lost alot of respect for her since then. This is completely wrong and makes me sick to my stomach to think about it. If your significant other is not enough for you that you would resort to this, you need to find someone else. I love you Dr Phil.

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January 25, 2008, 1:15 pm PST

01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

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I am a business owner of a daycare, I am going to school to be a teacher, and I have 2 small children. Very successful, just like to have fun in our very minimal spare time. (We don't drink or do drugs or anything, so we have found an awsome new way to have fun) My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years and we have had a couple of threesomes. It made our marriage even more awsome than it was before. I do know that this isn't for everyone. I had a lot of my friends ask me 'How can you do that?' WEll, we had an amazing marriage to start with, so it was just a fun 'spark' to enjoy. We had to be careful to pick the right girl, because that is important. There was a girl this summer who was like throwing herself at us and I knew that wouldn't work. We actually had a friend that we hung out with this summer and she was like our threesome booty call. Anytime we wanted to have a threesome, we would call her and she came over. It was awsome, but then we both wanted to try someone new. It brought us closer together than ever because I saw how much I COULD trust my husband in any situation. Plus, it was my idea, not his. He walked around with a smile on his face for a week after the first time. It was so cute. He got to tell all his friends and they were so jealous. I think the reason my husband was so happy to have a threesome is because he has always wanted to, but never did he talk about it. I think it is because he is 300 pounds...big guy, and I think he just didn't really think it would ever happen. Well, when it did, you'd be amazed at the difference in him! He has a lot more confidence now and it is fun and I am so happy that he knows he is wanted! I am 115 pounds, get hit on all the time, so I wanted him to feel what it is like to get the attention for once. Anyways, I could talk about it all day, but I do have a lot of other things in life, so to sum it up, I am a very happily married woman. I don't know if you'd really call me a swinger, but whatever. Call it what you want. We're happy.

I am surprised that you would post your picture. I am not saying that swinging would make you any less of a caregiver for other people's children, but human nature tells me that if some of your clients find out about your swinging, they will see you in a different light. Aren't you afraid that you will lose some clients as a result of this?

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mycleaningco

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January 25, 2008, 1:15 pm PST

What is wrong with these people????

Is there any sanctity left in their marriages? Are they so immorrally bankrupt that these acts of sexual deviation leave them null and void of any ounce of respect they should have for themselves and their significant others???

What is wrong in our society?? Thank God there is a voice of reason on the airwaves who is willing to tell people the brutal truth and hopefully lead them to their senses!

Thanks Dr. Phil!!!

Sincerely,

Misty Schulze

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January 25, 2008, 1:15 pm PST

No one is perfect.

Everyone has different opinions, and that is true in all aspects of life, i.e. sex. I feel that whatever two people do, as long as no one gets hurt, and they are consulting adults, is their business. "Don't throw stones if you live in glass houses" No One Is Perfect, or can/should place judgement on others.

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January 25, 2008, 1:15 pm PST

Swinger's Security???

What I witnessed watching the supposedly agreeable Swingers was the wife's insecurity as she hung on tight to her husband's hand and arm. I have known of couple's who are "willing participants" in that lifestyle and not one of the wives seem to be content, strong or comfortable. And the husbands seem to be arogant, extremely flirty and disrespectful to women. To me that is really sad, however, it is their choice??? hmmmm.

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himster

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January 25, 2008, 1:15 pm PST

a southerners opinion

This is absolutely absurd. If you go outside your marriage for sex that is against all the vows you took to get married. Sex is not the key to a marriage. My wife and I are best friends and I wouldnt never go outside my marriage for sex because I would loose my whole family. After 17 years our sex life is only better than it was when we got married. I cant believe that these folks think that this stuff is okay. It is a sin and morally wrong. why not just hang a sign around your neck, I AM A DUMBASS THAT BELIEVES SEX IS BETTER THAN MY SPOUSE.

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papedoll

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January 25, 2008, 1:16 pm PST

my view on swinging

No wonder or world is going to hell in a handbasket!!! I wonder what these women are thinking, they obviously don't read the BIBLE. Our LORD must be so disappointed in our world's behavior. I love the Dr.Phil show, and I so wish he would run for president. Our country would be so much better with a man with a brain n office!!! this lifestyle disgusts me, All us single women feel like we don't have a prayer of finding a decent man, when most guys see these things on tv, and want to "broaden their horizions" I pray our world will improve with Dr. Phil bringing to light these issues. GOD bless you all.

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vjhadix

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January 25, 2008, 1:16 pm PST

in shock

It never ceases to amaze me how many idiots there are in this great country of ours. Grow the hell up people. What did you think getting married meant???

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maras12

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January 25, 2008, 1:16 pm PST

stop

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I was hoping that Dr. Phil would tell the happy swingers, what the ramifications of living the 'lifestyle' was all about. I was disappointed that he did not. I realize nothing he would have said would have gotten through to the two of them, however, i think other people watching might have gotten that message. With that being said, I have been to swingers clubs over the past 11 years but I am not a swinger. I have since gotten back to following God and studying psychology. I have seen first hand dozens of couples that were 'happy and willing' to live the lifestyle get divorced. As a matter of fact, 99 percent of the people i knew living the lifestyle, in fact did divorce. Dr. Phil, you are my mentor, please, tell the willing participants in the lifestyle what it is really doing to their souls.

i think that what you are saying is bull**** they are not doing anything wrong !!!! just because you beleive does not mean every one does !!! yes SOME couples may break up because they are not being hounest with what they wanted but not 99 percent are doomed this is not harming people and you need to stop putting your belifs on every one else!! by the way i am NOT a swinger!!! leave them alone !!!

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