Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

This show was so interesting to watch.  I have to say that this topic has come up in my own marriage and I really felt for the woman in the latter part of the show.  I would feel exactly the same as her!!  When the topic was brought up - it really scared me.  The thought of bringing another person into the picture would make me feel degraded and unworthy - it would make me feel as though I am not woman enough.  For women who feel that this is morally wrong - it would come as a real hit - a real insult that somehow we are not exciting enough, not attractive enough, in any way whatsoever.  I too would feel sick and have anxiety attacks!! 

I think couples who do swing and enjoy it - maybe it is great for them - but I also think you are playing with fire ... there would always be in the back of your mind the "what if he likes her better?  what if he likes her enough to leave me?"   Scary.

The show emotes horror more than angerp but horror was not a category.  However, relative to a husband serving as voyeur to an unwanted sex act or intercourse being performed on/with his wife is simply nothing more than witnessed rape.  This is not "insensitive behavior", this is not just him "making his wife feel bad", it is simply rape.  A woman scrubbing her flesh off to remove all evidence of "the act" is just horrifying and that this was treated so casually, without making it clear to the husband and the audience that:

1.  First, the pressing and overpowering of another with openly refused and unwanted behavior constitutes harrassing and hostile behavior

2.  Second, following through with unwanted sex acts is rape, married or no, what happened to this woman was simply witnessed rape.

3.  Lastly, for the poor woman to have to retell the story on TV is to degrade and rape her an additional time.  How degrading to this lady, she acts totally traumatized and desensitized to her reality.  She behaves as though she has been abused as a child, regardless watching this was beyond belief. 

...otherwise, I have no strong feelings.

Enjoy the day.

Thank you!  Though not a swinger, I find it appalling that so many people are so unreasonable on this issue.  Throughout history, many people have had multiple relationships.  People in the U.S. believe that our modern social mores were always the rule of law or ethics.  Not even close.  You sound mature and self-confident, something that is obviously lacking in the responses of others.

You said sex is just an act. I guess that's probably what the Roman and Greek Empire thought too. Well, we see how that turned out. Sex shouldn't be just an act. It is so much more than that. It is a spiritual and emotional bond unless you have severed your ability to have true intimacy with someone. The sad part is you don't even understand this and tells us why you are swinging.