Topic : 01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs

Really, on a mountain top?  Outside?  Is that allowed in public?  Funny how something out of the ordinary is okay for you, but not for others if you don't agree...

I would be interested in your definition of adultery.

If marriage is one man and one woman as I think you are saying I am curious as to how do you explain David, Solomon and many other men of the bible that had multiple wives and sex slaves?

You know i was raised in a religious home and to me being part of the life style doesn't go against my beliefs, God or what ever name you want to call the higher power made every single person and made their faults including the need for Swinging.

Its not adultery to me if he comes home to me every night, he has a set of rules, I have a set of rules, if either of them breaks the rules then thats comes into Adultery.

Its is said that only 5% of North Americans understand the swinging lifestyle and are comfortable to take part in it. That means if I pick up a Man in a bar i have to tell him that I am in a committed relationship and make sure he is okay with this. If he isn't he can go his merry little way.  We have the rule that he has to come home every night as well as me for the children, she doesn't need to know, but if she ever asks we will tell her and not hide it from her. Its all in education when it comes to children not hiding and treating it like a taboo.

Not many species of animals are Monogamous, and the two that evolution says we are part of their chain are some of the worst, sowing their seeds wherever they can. So dont judge, you don't even need to know what people are doing, its their bedroom and who are you to judge what they decide to do in there. If it makes them happy let them be happy, its not breaking any laws.

Say what you will about it, I think it is selfish and is just not in the description of marriage.  Lots of people do things, that doesnt make it right.  As far as the woman that wrote the book Unbuckling the bible belt??? We dont have basements in the south!  All of the people that I know that are prim and proper do not have stripper poles, geeze how people can just rationalize... they think that someone pretending to be prim and propper, that has a stripper pole must have it because they want to swing, could it be there because they like to strip for their husband?     going back on all of the promises you made when you got married for a few moments of orgasm or pretending that you are so "sexual" that everybody wants you is dilusional, I thought all of the people were very unattractive and they probably make themselves think that they are desirable when really they are just being tramps and are getting used and degraded. 

To eachs own, but you wont talk me into believing that it is ok... I feel it is just a lack of well, everything

Dr. Phil,

I thank you for the contribution of information that you provide through the topics that you bring to your program.

This program brought a real concern to my heart.  Yes, I am a Christian.  Yes, I believe this is not moral behavior but, I am more concerned with the acceptance that I sensed and some of the comments from your guests than the actual acts discussed. 

This man is obviously addicted to pornography and clearly his wife is reaching out for help.  He was not shy in voicing the control these thoughts had on him.  The other couple were clearly proud of their life style and had no problem telling the thousands of listeners that they felt their "religious family members were jaded by the church".

I have three children all young adults and I am concerned for the future children.  I also watched your previous program where a young man was called some horrible names and the parents were not taking responsibility for their actions.  I watched as the majority of your audience were in tears and were obviously distraught.  When the cameras panned the audience during this program there was no tears.  They clapped when asked if they felt she should leave her husband but during the couples interview there was more laughter than concern. 

This show needs to bring tears to our eyes as pornography is why many of our children are molested.  Pornography is why many families are ending in divorce.  Pornography is why many women are raped.  Permissive sex is why so many of our young adults cannot keep relationships and our children end up with single parents and why young teens end up parents. 

This was a show that in my opinion should have had a deeper emotional response but due to our "conditioning" through the different entertainment avenues we are numb.  It concerned me that the couple blatantly announced that there were regular gatherings at their club that equaled or out numbered your audience.   This conditioning is why that young man on your previous show was being abused by his parents and they weren't getting it. 

I continue to pray for families and this nation.  I have never responded to your program before but I just couldn't keep this to myself.

God bless you as you attempt to penetrate the numbness of this nation.

The shows main focus is the last line in almost every show **I will get you help for that** whatever that is. If it is a show about mothers and daughters it has to have a dysfunctional pair so Dr Phil can say **I will get you help with that**

Anyone expecting him to do a positive show on almost any topic is not understanding the main thrust of the show. If he can't say *I will get you help for that* it is not a HELP SHOW and that is what he does.

A show on swingers is no different he still has to find examples that he can point to something and say **I will get you help for that** . If he put on people who were happy and just having sexy fun and no tension involved how could he use his line???