Quote From: toniecwYeah I know, the romantic type is back...
The persons I find that are swinger types have so many neck disorders from all of the hard staring they are a doing in all directions...(neck strain, sometimes sprain...hahahehe)
In my belief system I feel like swinger types are so busy looking for themselves in others that they are a missing the current moment in time, where everything is a happening. Sort of like one a too busy a swinging from branch to branch, that they forget to notice anything real a going on around them, except for their quest for new entertainment purposes only; adventures.
I realize that this is just my perception and not will agree with my thoughts and that is okay, for we all are different and we all are traveling to a beat of a different drum, and what one calls good to another may be perceived as bad. Again, "different strokes for different folks" (original author, unknown)
So please don't find me judgemental because I think differently than yourself. To my own self I must remain true...living any other way would just be a lie and when one starts a lying to themselves, therein lies the problem.
Simply due to the fact that what steals away your happiness and peace of mind, you are giving permission for it to be a happening...Simply because we are the creators of our own reality, wrether we want to accept that ideology or not...this one is a given and not something one needs to be a rocket scientist to figure out...ex. drive drunk, one day you will be caught simply due to the odds of how many times you have escaped the law of karma..."that which comes around, goes around." This one is an Einsteinian fact, as for Biblical...that is good enough for me.
How I perceive those wanting/having "friends with benefits," to be:
They are persons that seem to be locked into future possibilities of greater entertainment issues instead of the current moment in time where everything is real and is a happening. Sort of waiting for a special moment to occur that was different than yesterday. Please read the book, "The Power of Now, Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment" by Eckhart Tolle and you will discover that ideology perhaps as well. Actually all of Eckhart Tolle's books will help you discover the present moment to be more real than always a having one foot in the future or a one foot in the past. At least that is what it has done for me.
This next part is perhaps a bit judgemental again, yet perhaps it won't be to those that read what I wrote and agree, understand or have any opinions either way...Is not America a great place to live!
I believe that all swingers, friends with benefit persons; should also be on the watch out for those fatal attraction types. You know the kind? The needy and desperate ones that would fall in love with a swinger even though the rules stated, "it will never happen ville."
I believe as well that all swingers, friends with benefit persons; all not all wrapped as tightly as others.
Take for instance one of my sister in law's who actually drove head long into insanity...due to her husband demanding a three way with his one of his former wives and her...followed by many other instances...I don't believe that she was every really wrapped tightly, yet I believe my brother dug that in her...because she symbolized one where the light is on, yet no one is at home type. We all know at least one of these types...no back bone, no confidence, no self esteem, no pride, totally and helplessly lost somewhere a looking for herself in others...
I remember one time in particular when my brother had to take her back to the mental ward. (she wasn't always mental, she became mental after the sexual adventures her husband my brother took her on after about twenty years of marriage, and 3 children from the marital union; this incident occurred:
They were a driving back from the store one winter's night in Michigan. There was reported to me about 3 inches of snow on the ground.
My sister in law asked my brother to stop the car and let her out. When she got out of the car, she started tearing her clothes off as she started to run to the river to jump in so that the devils that were a chasing her, wouldn't catch her...no she wasn't on any recreational drugs or alcohol, only prescription drugs.
One case out of a 100 you say? I don't know about you, life to me is good. I don't do well a sharing what I have given my total committment to. If one can't do that, than why in the dickens do you want to get married? Why take the chances with dying from a disease that you can't run or hide from?
Get real people, condoms are not enough...you need medical records from these folks...shoot I won't even kiss a guy that I suspect that might be a player because I don't know where his mouth has been...you know what I mean? Bill C., I know that you do, hahahehee...It cost our country $40Million to validate that fact of the father of our country. Wow, what a role model. That is why the old people's club called swingers, moved into our children's vogue world, called, friends with benefits; new term...behavior since Solomon and Gomorah times...
Oil of Oregano extract is what I required my player types to drink for at least two weeks before my first kiss from them. It kills parasites, all kinds and being there are over 5,000 of these little pesky bugs that can inhabit ones bodies and if one is a moving through the assembly line up of bodies a searching for new adventures...their chances of becoming toxically contaminated by bugs of all sorts, natures strains, bacteria, viral and fungal...
I usually muscle test my guys, to see how many drops they need to place in their glass of water a day and how many days, or weeks ; they will have to drink the oil of oregano to become less toxic to me.
So I can't really see me a doing the hanging out with friends with benefits...Heck they would probably have to drink it for ever, double, and triple doses a day. That stuff is expensive!
What else is expensive is my bedding such a guy as well, for we exchange energies with each other...meaning, were persons to become sensitive such as myself to energies...one could actually feel and smell the energies of another in ones significant other.
That is what the blending of each other into each is all about.
Now because I am an energetic healing professional and the balancing of energies is primarily what I am about...
I have discovered that when one is with one of these player types of persons...you are a receiving all the energies that they have collected from others.
Part 2 later
So for those excited about jumping on the swingers, friends with benefit persons, website...understand this as well...
The best part of this is when she says it is her opinion and to her self she must stay true. Even though we have differnt opinions and out looks, we are swingers and enjoy it, I do respect and enjoy reading these type of posts. I may not agree with it, but I do respect it. She is not judgemental in any way. very holistic and that also is a bit of a stretch for me....but none the less...thank you for an open honest opinion that does not judge
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