Topic : 10/04 Britney Breaking News

I don't feel sorry for that rich, ignorant, child abuser, MORONIC brittany.  She is a lousy mother!  She have proven that OVER and OVER again.  And with this last episode of not even appearing in court<shaking head>.  What a LOSER she is!  She definitely shouldn't be allowed to breed ANYMORE!  She doesn't love her children and shouldn't be allowed anywhere near those precious and innocent children EVER again!

 Dear Dr. Phil,

  Today I was really disappointed in something you said. Your statement was incorrect when you said; "Children do not get taken away from their mother's unless they really screw up." I think you would have been more correct by stating that most of the time children get taken away from their mother's when they screw up.

 You must know that are justice system has MANY imperfections. And MANY people go unjustly accused.

I am really one of your biggest fans, but today you really hurt my feelings. I have always felt that you were not a critical person. And that you were fare. But I guess today you showed your imperfections.

 You see, Dr, Phil I am one of those mother's who lost custody of her children. And though I know you only have my word to go by, I did NOTHING to lose my babies. First of all my ex-husband was 10 years older, I was 25 and he 35, he was a con, and was better at playing the system than I. He had a great deal of money, he was abusive mentally and physically and even got another woman pregnant when we were married. We had therapist stating that the children would be better off with me. But the judge still gave the children to him.

 Several years later, the very same judge was removed from the bench for misuse of his authority. (I believe there was more to the story.) And as you know from being in this business for 30 years, having a judge removed is not something that is done often.

 So my hope is that maybe you would clarify your statement, because it really hurt. And I feel like you are the type of person who can admit when you are wrong. If your show wasn't such a big hit I wouldn't really care what you said. But you must know how your opinion affects the public.

Thank you,

Fancy243

P.S. I do believe that Brittany NEEDS a wake up call!!!!!

It's sad to read and hear all these things about Britney. I'm not a fan of her music and though here in Holland the news is not filled with her; I can only say that her pain is shown in the pictures we do see here.

I have my concerns about her but to be realistic, she was pregnant for two years, young, a popstar all of her life, decisions were made for her. She did not live, she was 'lived'. In my opinion her marriage was just a way of showing she could stand on her own and proving she was a grown up, logicly she wanted to break out of 'the arranged life'. So having two baby's, a divorce, her career, lost a loved one, being a mom and being naive; her life changed very quickly. It's hard to deal with that. I think she does not realize what is happening right now, like 'it's far from my bed' sentiment. It took me 2 years to realize that I am a mom and have to give up certain things and behaviour. It's the sacrifice when it comes to children. It must be hard to find a balance between being a Mom and being yourself and working at the same time. Don't blame her, she's just a victom of her own decisions. But give her the thance to oversee the consequences of her own behaviour and the chance to grow further as we all need time to learn and grow. We all in life pass the moment that we think 'I should have turned left instead of right, and what would happen if I took the other way'. In other words: regret. She must face the fact that she's in another state of life and identify herself with a mom in order to act like a mom but that 'll take some time. If she's able to take the hands of those who care about her and want her to grow further so in the end she can make it on her own, she will turn out just fine.

Regards,

Ellen from Holland

Here, here about Britney, Paris, Lindsay etc.  The brat pack.  I feel very very sad about the poor little boys but isn't it terrible to think that Kevin is a better parent than Britney.  I am in full agreement that if Dr. Phil is so concerned about her mental health that I hope you are intervening as a therapist to get this young woman the help she requires.  As a human being who has the power to offer assistance if anyone can help I would think it would be you.

At the end of the show, Dr. Phil gave advice that Brit needs to show that she wants to be a good mother more than anything, but the FACT is that she DOESN'T want to be a good mother more than anything.  She's clearly got an addiction that she wants MORE than she wants her children AND her career.  THAT's how it is with addicition, sadly.

I wrote in once asking for help with my sister in law who is a crystal meth addict (didn't get it, by the way), and Brit's behavior is entirely consistent with what we've seen from my sil.  Neither WANTS help.  They LOVE their drug and it has made them ENTIRELY incapable of viewing reality and placing value on things that the rest of us think are paramount.

The kids and everyone else in the family will continue to suffer because the only thing that these addicts find of value is the drug and the sex that goes with it (fyi... meth increases sex drive/ pleasure center of the brain to unhealthy, illogical proportions).  They don't want help, because the drug makes THEM FEEL like everything is great.  If the cost of that is a relationship or 50... so be it...they're still happy and have no incentive to change... taking away the children simply frees them up to party more!

It's those of us who love them and hate watching the self-destruction/ mistreatment of the children that suffer.  My nieces and nephew are now paying a terrible price.  So will Brit's kids. 

Besides my own personal situation (which you are correct - I AM angry that my daughter put her drugs before my grandchildren and placed them in terrible and dangerous situations), I also have 12+ years running an ER for a Class A trauma center as well as 5+ years working in a drug and alcohol rehab facility so I've seen it all and then some.  I have worked closely with CPS on many, many occasions and you are correct, many times the children are returned.  The priority with CPS is to reunite the family and in many cases, this is the wrong objective.  In my situation, CPS was a God-send but I have seen the bad cases that you speak of.

The basics that he made his decision [sic] was that she failed to comply.  PERIOD.  And, with my experience, when a drug user fails to comply, it automatically sends up red flags that they are STILL using.  One that is no longer using seems to comply with virtually every requirement.  There were more than two reasons that the children were removed but I would bet that the final straw was non-compliance of the drug screen.

To automatically blame the judical system, without all the facts - of which NONE OF US have - is unfair, in my opinion.  To quote you "she is obviously out of control", I again state that the judge did the right thing rather than waiting until something terrible happened while she was being out of control.

Sure she has maids, body guards, etc., and it seems that they are coming out of the woodwork to testify the dangers that the children have been placed in.  Their fault?  They didn't come forward at the time.

And in answer to your last question as to whether or not if I were under a magnifying glass.....would our children be taken away, the answer is NO.  Would that magnifying glass see me making mistakes?  ABSOLUTELY!  But that magnifying glass would never see me under the influence of drugs, breaking the law (come on - an invalid driver's license??) or partying all night - seemingly every night - when I had 2 young children at home as a single mom.  Am I perfect?  FAR FROM IT.  But I did have the tenacity to put my children first. 

The Hollywood Publicity that you speak of is out of control yet here we are, watching the shows and responding to the shows on blogs.  Kind of makes us part of the problem doesn't it?  If we don't watch, read, etc., they would no longer be a part of the news!