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Profile of Jack and Danielle.
Jack - Good guy, smart, handsome (looks like Donnie Osmond), honorable (he got married), insecure (he married beneath him), egotistical (he thinks he can change her).
Danielle - Manipulative, secretive, untrustworthy, attractive but not beautiful (this is important).
Jack hooks up with Danielle, she's hot enough but she's also a party girl and likes to drink and fall down sometimes. Jack thinks "Not exactly what I want but workable". Bad idea from the start. People do not change each other, people only change themselves with the assistance of time and experience. They are both young, time and experience is not even close to finished with them yet. Jack gets Danielle home only to find out that she lies, she drinks too much, and she keeps secrets. Jack attempts to get at the bottom of the problem through honest communication only Jack is not mature enough to handle the truth. The problem begins here but it is a simple enough one to solve, just stop doing the things you do Danielle. But wait! Danielle CAN'T stop doing what she does because Danielle LIKES to do what she does. She likes it so much that she has concocted a nice little excuse (the big secret) to excuse her actions.
Jack and Danielle come to Dr. Phil's man camp. Jack is smart, he knows what's going on but he is also egotistical and shares it with (stupidly) with the other couples. This slows down the process. The men are upset because they just want to get this over with and go back home. The women are upset because.....well....women like to be upset, and that's what they came there to do. Dr. Phil is upset because it suits his demographic for him to be upset. Everyone jumps on Jack, Jack jumps on Danielle. Jack thinks, "Hey, if we are really here to get help then lets get some help. Let's get some help about that little secret that you use to excuse your behavior" Danielle is not having it. She watches as everyone in the house jumps on Jack and you can almost see her cry as she realizes that this is all happening NOT because her husband is a jerk but because she really IS what her husband is telling everyone she is.
It was not Jack that isolated Danielle in order to abuse her, it was Danielle that turned the common respect that any person would give another when discussing something private to isolate and abuse Jack by not allowing him to disclose the so-called "secret" that would, in his mind, be the key to solving their, or at least his, marital problems. It bothers her yes, it doesn't bother her enough to confess though. Jack is a man, he can take it, and even if he can't, he's a man, men have not done her any favors ever.
It brings to mind a question. Which is better, to be ugly or to be almost beautiful? Ugly women have to get on with life but the almost beautiful must always look at the world through almost beautiful eyes. Danielle knows that Jack can do better that's why she isn't going to change for him. Jack just wants to get beyond the whole relationship thing, get things settled, and get on with the rest of his life, he is a man after all. Dr. Phil is wasting his time, this marriage will not turn out well, but it's good for ratings and it got me off the couch and registered onto his site to post so......it was a good show!
Jack is confused right now but things are becoming clearer day by day. He will go along with this farce to get himself and his woman safely home. A year from now he will come up with an even different plan. Unfortunately the answer he comes up with a year from now won't be the right one either. He really needs to learn how to just live his life and stop worrying about what she does. In the end she will either come around or find her way to the door. It's the kids that are important. I know, I've been Jack.
Man camp indeed. I got your man camp. Don't do anything just because they ask you to, only do what is right, understand that there are WAY more fish in the sea and realize that the person you are with speaks volumes about the person that you are. You want a better life, a better woman, a better situation, be a better person. Don't feel like being a better person? (you're allowed) but then you must stop holding others up to standards that you yourself can not live up to, that's a childs issue. Man camp is adjourned.
Jack's looks are unimportant. It is his behavior that is at issue. He is not a brave little soldier. He is a manipulative bully who does not respect women. The other males also disrespect women. No woman in her right mind would accept one minute of their behavior! These people were probably selected to represent the worst in us. Now that we have watched the worst, let's hope we can see something better.
Dr. Phil continues his work with three couples on the verge of divorce after less than one year of marriage. They say they want to be spared from divorce, yet once they are all under one roof they only whine and complain. Jim and Kim continue to fight, even on the morning of her birthday. Instead of a nice birthday greeting, Jim starts an argument with his wife because he thinks he’s the one who deserves “a present.” Dr. Phil gives Jim a taste of his own medicine –- some immersion therapy! Then, Karla claims she’s now permanently on the wagon, but Dr. Phil tells her that kicking an alcohol addiction just isn’t that simple. Plus, a role-playing exercise, a surprise for the wives and more! Talk about the show here.
