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Created on : Friday, October 05, 2007, 11:26:10 am
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(Original Air Date: 10/10/07) Ask any teenager, and he or she will tell you how tough life is: schoolwork, dating, and dealing with pushy parents. But imagine having two kids while you’re still in high school. Laurie says her 18-year-old son, Corey, is in a toxic relationship with his 20-year-old wife, Kim. The couple fell in love while barely out of junior high and their crush quickly turned to chaos. Laurie says they verbally abuse each other in front of their children, and they’ve only been married for five months. Corey says that Kim cheated on him and has threatened to kill their kids. What’s behind the couple’s dramatic confrontations, and why was Corey arrested? Then, Kim’s mother, Janet, joins the show via Web cam. What does she reveal about Kim and Corey's parenting? Can the couple salvage their relationship, or should they just go their separate ways? And what needs to happen to protect their young kids? Tell us what you think!

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October 17, 2007, 3:08 pm PDT

Me too!

I myself was a pregnant teenager at the young age of 16.  I had a son at the age of 17.  Watching this show today, I felt so much for these kids in love.  But what kind of love??????  I too had a boyfriend in my senior year in highschool, couldn't live a day without him.  I remember the love hurt so much that I couldn't eat, drink, breathe if I was not with him.  I really think that I would have stayed with him forever if our parents hadn't interveined in our relationship.  Of course, my story is different as his parents had more money than my mom and dad so his parents told me never to tell any of his family about the baby even his grandmother (I think that is where the money was coming from).  I had this child alone, never a dime from the fathers family.  When you decide to be all grown up having sex and living life on the edge you MUST always live with it.  But I do believe that both families should be involved in the lives of these unplanned babies.  When we are teenagers we know everything.  We can do anything, and will do it.  My only advice to teenagers out there, ,,,,it can,  and will happen to you!  Don't grow up so fast, if having sex please use birth control so you are not having babies that are unplanned there is plenty of time for that. Some boys will stay around some won't are you willing to give up your teenage life, alone, saddled with a child while all your friends and perhaps your boyfriend are out having a ball.  No, you are better then that.  Show how tough you are and that you care more about yourself than that.
 
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October 17, 2007, 3:24 pm PDT

I agree

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I just want to let you all know being a teen mother or father is hard, no one said that if you are a teen parent that means you are going to be a bad one. What you know and don't know is what makes you do things that can harm your child and that can come at any age. It just makes it harder when you are a teen. I am a mother also I was a teen mother my children are older now but it was hard I did things I am not proud of, but I did the best that I could do with the knowledge I had. I am not trying to say it is OK to be a teen parent Lord knows I would not want my 17 year old daughter to become one, but  if it was to happen I know that with the help I have given to my daughter and the knowledge I ave given her she would make a great mother. I as her mother would continue to support and teach her what she needs to know.
I totatly agree.  It is how we raise our children and the goals we help them get that will make our children what they will be, when the time comes to stand up to a situation that they themselves have  made.  I also agree that you must stand behind your children whatever they do.  Love them and guide them give them support, if and when they make right or wrong decisions.
 
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October 17, 2007, 3:33 pm PDT

your right

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As a mother of a teen who was so much in love, she also got pregant. She was only married for 4 months when her husband OVER DOSED and died. Mean while she is dealing with the death she is only about 4 months into her pregency, as her mother it is my job the help confort her and be there for her but I struggled with the need to do it all for her. I have learned to back off and allow her to take care of her baby but at the same time make sure the baby is safe and she has the love and support she needs to make good parenting dissions after all she was 16 years old when she married and got pregent, only 17 years old when she became a widow. LIFE CAN BE ROUGH  all we can do is support those who make a mistake, teach them AGAIN IF NESSARY to have self confindence to be the best parent they can.
I myself went through something like your daughter.  I was a young pregnant mom, baby at 17 then married at 18 another baby at 19, married a boy from church, then he was killed in a car accident.  Why does this happen????? I don't know.  Yes my mom stood by me.  But yes, you must let her take a bigger part of this child than you.  You can guide her at a distance, love her closely but your daughter still seeing you at a distance.  But when she calls, or asks for your help it sounds like you will be there as her angel.  Do you believe in Karma??????  I do, the babies father was the babies father for a reason, to have this child on this earth, then he had to go.  I am now 50 years old and through my life I see the reasons for many things.  I believe that everything happens for a reason.  I believe alot of the sadness that I have had in my life has made me stronger.  Yes we all screw up, live with it, be stong for those that have a little weaker link.  I hope that the lives that I have touched through the years are better for it, and I know your daughters is,  already.
 
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October 17, 2007, 8:06 pm PDT

teen marriage

I became a widow in 2001.  My husband and I had set down rules to be followed and of course children don't always listen.  The winter of 2001 my youngest son came to me to tell me that he and his girlfriend were pregnant.  I was devastated.  Nowing at this time I was helpless they decided to go to the courthouse and got married.  Two weeks before my son informed me of the situation he had gone to "San Diego" to a church retreat (so I thought) and after telling me that she was pregnant he then informed me that he had gone to "San Diego" to join the "NAVY".  Too make a long story short, My son has been to IRAQ 3 times seeing things i would not wish on anyone.  HIs wife has graduated from college has a job as a Social Worker with C.P.S.  They have 2 beautiful little girls and 'THE FAMILY" are very proud of them.  I completely understand this is not the normal, but lets praise the ones who have made it.  Now they have been married almost 6 years and my son will start college in January.
 
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October 17, 2007, 8:34 pm PDT

Teen Parents

I got pregnant when I was 17, but i am a good parent and now have 3 kids. Not all teen moms neglect their kids.I don't like it when I see teen moms like that on tv because they give people like me a bad name
 
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October 18, 2007, 12:11 pm PDT

I MADE IT

To the families that wonder how this could happen. I to was in love as a teen. I would visit my best friend only to see her brother. Then in 1983 I found out I was going to have his baby. I was scared too death. We both were. I was fifteen and he was twenty. I just knew my family would lock him up. However they didn't and I was thankful they chose not too. Thou I can still hear my dad say "I disappointed him and it's your baby now rock it. Then my Mom saying " it's your bed now lay in it. "

 

We both went to them and asked if I would get married. They weren't happy but said Ok. Two months after I turned sixteen they signed for me to get married.  There was some hard times but we made it. We managed to raise two kids, run our own business, built a home ect.  What more could two people ask for? This 2/19/08 will be our 25th wedding anniversary. With God you can do anything!
 
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October 18, 2007, 6:24 pm PDT

Whatever!

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It is not  fair. That is wrong. Not all of the time can the parents be there. You have no right to blame it on the parents. Even if they would have been involved how do you knwo that it wouldn't have happened. They are nto children either they are young adults. NOT ALL OF THE TIME ARE THE PARENTS WATCHING OVER THEM BECUASE THEY TRUST THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry but when you have a serious boyfriend or girlfriend or I'm sorry steady friend they should be talking and explaining about the facts of life and how its going to effect them both and when the parents sit there and say how they would get upset when they had to leave each other I'm sorry how much of a wake up call do u need! THEY ARE HAVING SEX! And they need to own up to some of the responsiblities of this because they allowed them to entertain each other and each others house and stuff so they are partial to blame.

 
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October 19, 2007, 2:28 pm PDT

SO ANNOYED!!

Ok...I was so annoyed by this show.  Both by those two kids who havent grown up, and also by Dr. Phil!  Almost every single time he talked about teen parents he said how they never are responsible and how grandparents are the ones who will be raising the babies.  I was 17 when I got pregnate with my first baby.  My husband and I got married before I even graduated high school.  That was 6 years and 3 babies later!!  I have three kids, have never ONCE been on welfare and still have an amazing career of my own.  Yes it was a hardship when we started.  But we got through it.  Never ONCE did my parents/in laws "raise" my children!  We did everything we needed to do to make sure our kids had a good life. 

I get so annoyed when I hear people always catigorizing teen parents!  I was a teen parent and I got through it!  Probably better than people 10-15 years older than me did!  Dr. Phil was just really bugging me when he kept catigorizing everything.  Not ALL teen parents are losers and irrisponsible.  There are still some out there who yes make mistakes, but they live up to their responsiblities and do their best to make things right!
 
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October 19, 2007, 4:01 pm PDT

Teen pregnancy

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Ok...I was so annoyed by this show.  Both by those two kids who havent grown up, and also by Dr. Phil!  Almost every single time he talked about teen parents he said how they never are responsible and how grandparents are the ones who will be raising the babies.  I was 17 when I got pregnate with my first baby.  My husband and I got married before I even graduated high school.  That was 6 years and 3 babies later!!  I have three kids, have never ONCE been on welfare and still have an amazing career of my own.  Yes it was a hardship when we started.  But we got through it.  Never ONCE did my parents/in laws "raise" my children!  We did everything we needed to do to make sure our kids had a good life. 

I get so annoyed when I hear people always catigorizing teen parents!  I was a teen parent and I got through it!  Probably better than people 10-15 years older than me did!  Dr. Phil was just really bugging me when he kept catigorizing everything.  Not ALL teen parents are losers and irrisponsible.  There are still some out there who yes make mistakes, but they live up to their responsiblities and do their best to make things right!

Most are immature to have children. Your not the rule but the exception. I also think Dr Phil was trying to put fear into the ones that haven't gotten pregnant yet.
 
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October 20, 2007, 12:51 am PDT

Dr Phil I had to write you

Dear Dr. Phil,

            I had to write and tell you Dr Phil, while I was watching the troubled teen show.  I felt you were right on target with you comments to Laurie about her marriage not working. As the tears streamed down her face I kept thinking how it looked to me like she has been feeling this for quite awhile and FINALLY someone understood how overwhelmed she was feeling.You spoke to Laurie with compassion and understanding and this is exactly what this girl needed. My heart goes out to this couple and their kids    and I wish them the best in the future.Thanks for a great show Dr Phil !!!!!

 
 
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