Topic : 12/21 Troubled Teen Love

I cannot believe the teens on todays show. They need to get their act together. They may not have wanted children at such a young age, but now they have them and need to take care of them. The parents of these teens make me madder than the teens. They are adults and are talking about their grandchildren being abused. If their grandchildren are being abused YOU need to step in and take those children. The baby has a bleeding diaper rash and they are still with the mother. Come on people these are children that cannot speak for themselves. If the grandparents do not step in someone does. The teens need to take parenting classes and anger management classes. The mother stated that the children went to bed two nights with juice because the babies had no milk because noone would bring her any. If those were my children I would do what ever it took to make sure that had what they needed.  Find some kind of job ask for help from someone.  I hope that someone starts to think of the children. They are all that matter. They are special and all they ask for is love and to be cared for.

     I feel that Dr. Phil did not get all sides of this story.  I feel the teen mom had a target on her forehead.  I know how hard it is to be a teen mom and have your inlaws think everything you do is wrong.  I feel the girl needs to have more support from family or someone in the community.  The mother in law just wants to point fingers and place blame on the girl when it is as much fault of her son and herself that these teens are in this situation. 

     Dr. Phil kept telling them to go and get jobs, but why didn't he tell them to get in touch with their local job and family services to help out with money, food stamps, and childcare help so they can go to school and earn their education to get real jobs that will help them in the future, and be better parents!  Then, they can get off of the government programs and beable to really support their family!  That is what these programs are for! 

     I don't think people really know how hard it is to be a teen with a family.  Talk about taking the laser train to adulthood, is an understatement.  Especially for the girl, the guys are able to go and do their thing, while the mothers are left with a majority of the responsibility, and obvously all the blame if they don't do a good job.  I don't know anyone who is a perfect parent, and I would like to know of a child who has never had a bad diaper rash, or someone who has never ran out of milk and not been able to get to the store to get some at some point......Give me a break! 

     Dr. Phil just talked in circles today, but did not give these teens any direction!  I only hope that the girls mother steps up to the plate like she said she would!

I hope that everyone reads what this girl has to say!!!!!!!!!!!  She has the best advice and the best what NOT to do!

   What are you supposed to do when you are 16 years old and you are already dating Mr. Right?  As odd as it sounds, it happens and it is a nightmare.  I am not talking about dating some immature teenage boy.  I am talking about someone very special, a "one in a hundred thousand."  I know, because I was there, too.

   I wound up "doing the right thing," breaking up with him and keeping "my honor" intact.  I did the right thing, and I wandered through the rest of my life more unhappy than I would have been if I hadn't been such a coward.  My parents approved of the breakup.  His parents approved of the breakup.  And I didn't understand that doing the "right thing" would make me more unhappy.         

I was a mere 17 when I had my first baby. The way I saw it was, I had one choice: Grow up and do it fast!

I attended parenting programs, joined mom and baby groups and elicited help and advice from loving people around me.

Was I as mature as a 30 year old mom? Heck no! Totally impossible since I was only 17 and dint have any adult-life experience behind me.

Did that mean I was bound to be an imature irresponsible mother? Heck NO!

What kind of mother I was going to be was my CHOICE.

That baby I had at 17 is now a wonderful 20 year old, productive member of society. If you ask her if I made mistakes, she'd tell you I certainly did. But they were the same ones that any 30 year old mom would make.

EDUCATION is the key. Once you decide to embark on the ride called parenthood, you are responsible for finding out anything and everything that will make you the best parent possible. You dont neccesarily get that info from your own parents or in-laws. Parenting classes were of the upmost help for me.

You can tell his Mother starts alot of their problems,although they are way to young to play house,his Mother condones all his bad behavior and justifies it.

that poor girl has to feel alone and be going NUTS!!!!!

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