Topic : 11/23 Mild vs. Wild

There is sexy, and then there is skanky its in the eye of the beholder I guess.

I do agree that playing with Bratz dolls (still think they are HIDEOUS personally) or Barbie (if she were a real woman her proportions would prevent her from walking upright ).

But the previous poster had a point (though she did sound rather angry I agree ) we do NOT have to dress in clothes because they are "Trendy" and we really should be able to tell our pre teen and younger daughters NO if we do not agree with their choices.  Aren't we supposed to be teaching them NOT to give into peer pressure, and be able to walk with confidence in this world ?

You know, I am at thirty eight and after three kids, very PROUD of the fact that I am still young looking and quite petite, I eat right and excersise, basically take care of myself but it dosen't mean that I NEED to dress like EVERYONE else to feel good about myself, Jealous, Hardly, lets face the facts here,

When you are out at a club displaying all your assets, the guys are NOT looking at your INTELLIGENCE, and they don't really care actually they would prefer you only had ONE THOUGHT in your head, they won't care about your views on Politics, or society.

And to me that's a problem.

Dr. Phil, I want to thank you for bringing this topic to the spotlight.  I would like to ask the young ladies who dress in the manner to consider the following.  Hopefully, it can give at least one of you an understanding from a male perspective. 

A man is attracted by what he sees, as a woman is attracted by what she hears.  When you consider the man who says things like "I love you" or "you're so pretty" and doesn't mean it, you call him a "player."  The emotions you may experience when being charmed are the same emotions a man experiences when he see a woman wearing revealing clothing.  The message is the same: "I want you,"  is it not?   

I challenge all men to save their intimate words for their future wife and all women to save their intimate beauty for their future husband.  It's not easy, but it's worth it.

I am with the parents on this if their 11yr old daughter dresses like she is 25 she is just begging for trouble in the long run, I mean I have seen young kids dress like unbelievable , If I was 11yrs old and dressing like the way some kids do, my mother and father would doing anything to keep me from leaving the house .  I can't wait to see what happens on todays show .

Dr. Phil   I hope that you can help this young girl

see you later

Hannelore Wilson

Once the child is able to purchase their own clothes, there is really not much a parent can do  IF you haven't set a foundation when they were younger.  I am the mother of a 15-year-old girl.  We started from the beginning not purchasing designer labels.  Until she got a parttime job last year she got what I bought.  However, I will say that she NEVER wanted to dress provocatively.  She watched the other girls in school, saw the kind of attention they got and realized she didn't want that.  Over the past year, with her own money, she has been purchasing her own clothes.  She bought ONE mini denim skirt, HOWEVER refuses to wear it without leggings and she only wore the skirt once.  She realizes there are more important things than dressing provocatively.  She is a straight-A student.  She is an equestrian.  I'm very proud of the choices she has made but I believe to a certain extent that is because her father and I laid the foundation early in life.  We have done the same with our son who is almost 11. 

   I'm tired of women being blamed for men's actions. We're all appalled by Taliban types who keep girls from going to school and women from leaving the house, but this is the logical end of the slippery slope. The Christian woman at the beginning of the show should be focusing on teaching boys that they don't have to act on their emotions, not on trying to get girls to read men's minds.