Topic : 11/23 Mild vs. Wild

im nineteen years old and i can proudly say that i am a modest, yet very fashionable young person. i never show off huge amounts of clevage or midrift or leg. i can attest to the fact that you can look "sexy" without showing everything you have. everybody wants to harp about people being superficial and calling them "whores" or "sluts" if they dress in a manor reflecting so. they say people are just being judgemental and "jealous", but i couldnt disagree more. as human nature, we automatically judge each and every situation we are put in. if you pass a dark alley, you will use JUDGEMENT and say "hey, that dark alley is probably not safe". if one were to see a large, deep hole in the middle of the road, JUDGEMENT tells you that you better drive around it or else you could total your car and risk your life. but if we wanted to get more technical about it, if you see a person walking down the road with dark eyeliner, black clothing, tattoos and fifty piercings, one automatically JUDGES that the person is either gothinc or satanic. now whether that is true or not is impossible to know unless you got to know the person, but we JUDGE each and every day, and whether we like to admit it or not, we JUDGE people before we even know them based on how they dress or carry themselves.

it would be like having a man dressed in a cop uniform, walking down the street, and when a person approached him for help, he would scream "I AM NOT A COP, I JUST DRESS THIS WAY BECAUSE ITS COMFORTABLE AND FASHIONABLE!!! HOW DARE YOU JUDGE ME LIKE THAT AND ASSUME I AM A COP!!!" ridiculous, right? well its just the same as a girl dressing like a prostitute and when some guy (or catty girl) approaches them and makes the comment that they are a slut, the girl responds "I AM NOT A SLUT, I JUST DRESS THIS WAY BECUASE ITS COMFORTABLE AND FASHIONABLE!!! HOW DARE YOU JUDGE ME LIKE THAT AND ASSUME I AM A SLUT!!!

see the resemblence? the point is, we all judge whether we like it or not, and you and only you can decide how you will portray yourself and how people will judge/read you.

I believe blaming Bratz dolls for how parents let their children dress is asinine.  When I was a little one parents blamed Barbie for giving girls poor body images.  Despite all the evils of Barbie I turned into a respectful adult.  That's why I'm not too worried about my 7 year old playing with her Bratz dolls.  She, my daughter, does call the scantily clad dolls "hoochies" and in turn now she is running all over  telling other girls they need to put clothes on, or out and out calls them hoochies.  I just get looks, what would you say to a 7 year old telling you you're dressed like a hooch?  Why do I still buy my baby girl Bratz dolls?  They do spark creativity.  She can go online with one of them and gets to design clothes,hair and makeup.  Then you have the video game where she can make her own magazine. 

IF we want to point fingers as a community about "who is responsible"...well besides the parents...look at Limited Too, they cross the line on outfits targeted at children as young as 6.  We really have to be picky with Gwyn there.  Then you have Juicy.   Seriously...I don't even want to turn my bottom into a billboard and I'm an adult in shape!  Instead of the focus being on toys, Dr Phil needs to focus on the fashion industry because that's who beating the parents at the game.