Topic : 10/12 Homecoming Shooting

i enjoyed your show very much except for one thing the Dr's kept trying to imply that these kids were the results of only mental problems and thats just bull!!! Bullying is a major problem in the schools i was the brunt of bullying, i didnt shoot anyone but i found a way out of it.  If you feel there is no way out you feel you have to do something to end it.  im not saying its right but i know the feeling for some they dont have the self control they should have im not saying they are innocent but i know for a fact they either act out like the shootings or in the long run after years of humiliation kill themselves.  Thank you for letting me vent

I certainly was taught about God, that is how I am sure that it is much more important to be a good person, have faith, and morals, than to write God on everything.

 

as an aside you are certainly not following Dr. Phil's advice to argue about issues not to sink personal attacks and name calling. It is you who sounds juvenile when you accuse me of being a school shooter.

I agree.  Let's stop the violence in all areas of life.  These things don't happen in Canada

where guns are less available and they don't start wars.  I'm really upset with that

man who said the whole problem is that girls should know their life is in danger

when they break up with a guy.  What??  I've broken up with alot of guys.  You

should do it gracefully and not humiliate them but that should be true for men

and women.   If guys think they should kill someone who is breaking up with them,

let's focus on the parents of the boys and teach them to raise them to be

less violent!

I've been working in a school for a few months and people are upset

if they don't get their prayer moment.  Can't people pray at home?

My daughter prays before bed.  Church is for learning about God,

not school.  Our country was founded on separation of church and

state.  Move to a country where religion is forced upon you if you

don't like freedom.

 

Yep, I just started working at a school and you should see how the teachers

act when the parents aren't around.  Now, I think teaching is the hardest

job in the world and they are woefully underpaid but yelling at the kids

isn't going to help.  And believe me, they YELL.

we spend so much time teaching women self defense and awareness techniques to prevent rape and other violence and yet so little time teaching boys and men how to respect women and not treat them like property. I have been forced to become aware as if I am going out into the wilderness and preparing myself against wild animal attacks. Sure some men attack women because they have been humiliated but that is an extreme rarity. Most women are attacked because they say no ( which is interpreted in crazy man speak as being a prude, hard to get, or a tease) or simply because the man has zero respect or even hatred for women.

 I have become a frequent watcher, due to a major schedule change. Don't tell anyone, but I even program the DVR to record the Shows. My first point is that I am probably not the atypical Dr. Phil demographic. I decided to sign up for this site because I have become incited (THE GOOD KIND) to respond to some of the issues that get addressed on the show. What I was planning to write, has changed in the time it took me to sign up and log in and read some of the responses from the shows readers.

What changed me was reading so many persons, "EASY" fixes. I guess I should have expected the NRA to show up. That was inevitable. Of course the NRA could take up an entire season of shows, let alone these message board postings, however, I did not really want to take that walk at this time. To read that the trouble starts at home is just so profound as to be virtually meaningless. Of course there was at least one writer who did not actually say it but I am sure that he could use a couple of shows perhaps prior to him being the next shooter! "The Pledge of Allegiance" is another, that of course will potentialy cause more shootings than less. I am not unpatriotic at all. but legislating prayers and pledges in a school room full of impressionable youngsters is so much anti-American, that I do not understand why that group cannot see that. I do not need a school room full of teachers many of whom will be unknown to me at least for awhile preaching social mores. They should, obviously be taught about mores in a sociology class, and then they will be Free Americans capable of making a responsible, educated decision. A high quality education will, however, yield so much less crime, including  rage shootings that there is really the answer to so many opf our problerms. I am not a fan of Government wasting funds with over inflated programs that need to go through so much bureaucracy that notonly to the costs get out of hand but the programs themselves change from their original intentions. HOWEVER if there was any program in America that if necessary needs to have what ever amount of EDUCATION thrown at it you wil see a dramatic decrease in so many of hte problems that we face, and if and when one then really reviews the cost benefit analysis they willbe surprised to see how much money they save from the benefits that will reduce the huge spending in other areas.

I orioginally wanted to write about the "profiling" issue. While I do agree inherently in no profiling and I still lean towards that for now, I must admit that when it was first mentioned I did pause for a moment befoer I discarded the idea. If a profiling system is to prove succesful, the only way it could be administered would be with each school having a person or persons with the credentials that would thus require, i.e., DoctorClient type of confidentiality. Phsychiatrists, even specially trained Counselors could under the guise of student counseling, something that goes on at school anyway, just not efficiently enough. Remember in my education picture Teachers would rank among the highest paid people. Supporting personnel would be porfessional. They could come from outsuide theparticular school and candidates for the position would take on multiple schools even on the side of their regular positions. Imagine a Dr. Phil avaialble for m,andatory meetings with each student covering issues from typical Guidance Counseling to serious phsychiatric and/or medical treatments for those that have any one of a myriad of symptoms or problems. Since it would be for everyone nobody would be left out. It willnot result in "finger pointing," or affect the student hierarchy.
I am aware that what I am proposing is an astronomical undertaking. But it is an undertaking that I am sure would solve so many of the problems in this country , that the return will come from what we do not have to spend on other arenas, not to mention the positive we will gain by having the absolute best educational system in the world, and the end product of that willbe what these kids (now) will be able to acheive over the course of their lives! Why no one thinks that this avenue will turn these kids into the abslute best people working within every endeavor!

To summarize, while I may have been being a bit coy with the Dr. Phil in every school, certainly a Dr Phil lookalike (with a nice full head of hair/ No take that back, He should be bald, seriously, it lends a certain air (That's Air not Hair about him.) handling say, 3-5 schools within a widespread area, so that they are exposed to a good cross section of any given region. Finally, I realize their will always be a person who suffers from some ailment that we just can not predict, and the probability that we do not get 100% solutions . But I refuse to believe that we will not solve so many of our problems through education that that is the direction we should be looking at to solve this and so many other of our problems...

 I don't believe gun control or locking schools is the solution. I believe we need to focus on the real issues in our schools. There is a lot of pressure on our teens in school because we have given them too much control. In management they call this the tail is wagging the dog. We need to take back the authority in schools. I believe a good step for our schools would be to consider all girl and all boy schools. Education is not the main focus in our schools. I work very close with my teens school and actually aided in the institution of a uniform policy. My next step is to push for gender based schooling. The focus needs to be on education. This will adjust the mind set of our youth. the priority of most teens is dating and socializing. The pressure and emotional strain of relationships is overwhelming to a lot of teens. They make bad decisions that lead to more bad decisions. I have spent hours talking to my eighteen year old daughter and explained she is not ready for a family and that school is her stepping stone to being able to provide for her family when she is ready. She is not dating in high school and knows the importance of learning. She tried dating and found her grades dropping and after the break up looked back and saw the distractions involved. She now plans on going to an all girl college.