Topic : Career Goals

Quote From: renagade

I read your profile and saw that you have been anti-social - you don't realize how much that facit comes thru in an interview - I know, I used to be semi anti too.  Why are/were you anti??? 

  

Do not discount temp angencies they can be very good.  Don't get too upset but some of us of years ago used to say a Liberal Arts degree was for people who didn't know what they wanted.  Right now you can not say you want this or that schedule - take what is offered.   

  

Your friends are right - if you don't sell yourself you get nowhere fast, and it isn't bragging it is stating your qualifications.  If you really dislike being in the spotlight - why do you want to have your own business - also being antisocial and being in business don't mix.  However being in business just might be your thing - you can then control your whatever, but remember everything then falls on your shoulders.  I do wish you luck, because you will find it. 

Quote From: burneyr

Considering that I went from school to school, district to district, during my childhood and adolesence, I didn't have any friends my age outside of family (besides church) until I was in 11th grade.  All that travelling between schools didn't allow me to develop close friendships that would last more than 2 years (at the most).   I didn't develop social skills early in life that would assist me in public places/ large groups of people.  Also, the one friend that I had in high school has moved out-of-state, which makes it harder because I don't have any other "peer" friends.  Also, I have more of an introverted personality. 

  

Why should it take a temp agency over a month to find a new assignment for one candidate?  Even though I have called every week, they haven't called back with another assignment.  I am a candidate of 2 temp agencies. 

  

Also, I was taught as a child that the statement "sell yourself" was a very negative thing.  As I may have said before (don't remember), I speak more through actions than words.  To me, my resume says plenty about my skills and abilities.  Give me a test on my skills and that will be more than good enough. 

  

I can own a home-based business.  I have been making jams and jellies for over 5 years.  I can potenitally be a family business.  Even if it means selling my products over the internet, I can do it without being in the spotlight. 

Quote From: renagade

I myself am an only child - and the reason I was semi anti was because most all of my peers I did not feel were up to my level and I didn't discover until years later that only kids interact with adults earlier and kids with sibilings and are more comfortable around adults. 

  

About the temp agencies - maybe your anti/don't sell yourself is coming thru - and they maybe getting calls for 'outgoing' people.   

  

I hate to say your parents were wrong but have you ever listened to Phil and he says 'Stand up for Yourself'.  What about the apprentice - those who fight for themselves get a plumb position from Donald Trump.  Actions cannot be Heard and if everybody is fighting for recognition the quiet person 

looses out - fact of life. 

  

If you are already in the home canning business - then maybe this is your thing - dont give it up - grow it - email me if you want. 

Quote From: burneyr

Well, my parents got divorced when I was 5, and my brother, 7.  My father was abusive and my mom was pretty submissive during the marriage.  After the divorce, Mom was the custodial parent; my brother and I had visitation for 1 year with our father. 

  

I was never encouraged to stand up for myself when I was young (always following orders) and that is one of my struggles today.  I get nervous that I will hurt people's feelings and do my best to stay away from conflict.  I may get some more counseling for that. 

  

I haven't started the home canning business yet, but have started my research on supplies for it.  I have many things to do before I open the business. 

  

Quote From: renagade

up for yourself.  As far as hurting peoples feelings ok I in theory agree with you, but another fact of life is there are going to be times when you will and thru no fault of your own.  Do not be a door mat just because you have this fear.   

  

MY thinking is that this home canning is for you, why - it's how you say what you say and I think it's going to be your field.  Your energy seems to be here. 

  

Remember you are 26 right an Adult - time to start putting yourself first and out there because business take a lot out of you 

Quote From: burneyr

I'm not like a "doormat", where I let people control my thinking/ what I do with my life.  It is no longer a fear.  It takes time to get out of habits; sometimes it's really fast and sometimes it takes more time.  Depends on what it is. 

  

I believe that I am a silent yet strong type.  I am very opinionated in many ways and will not do things that go against my morals and values (places where lust is promoted, hit people just because someone wants me to, etc).  I am strong in many areas of my life and am keeping the not-so-strong areas in check. 

  

Mentally, I do put myself first.  Since I have very little money, I don't take the time to do things that I want to do for myself, by myself. 

Quote From: burneyr

I am 26 years old and want to get a full-time job.  I'm tired of temp agencies and temporary jobs because they don't provide financial stability.  I want get off of this financial roller coaster. 

  

A part of me wants to be a medical assistant, another part wants to be a nutrition aide, and another part wants to start a canning business (jams and jellies).  I have an AA degree in Liberal Arts and don't know what I can do with that.  I have put in applications, taken clerical tests, and passed out resumes at job/career fairs for at least 5 months, yet I still don't have a full-time job. 

  

Most of my work experience has been as an office assistant.  I want to have a schedule that comes with the flexibility to where I can work full-time now,  work from home when the time comes for me to bear children,  and work part-time when the children start school. 

  

Many of my friends and relatives say that I should "sell my skills" in job interviews, but I don't like the thought of having to talk about my skills.  To me that is "bragging" and since I was taught not to brag & have a reserved type of personality, I really dislike being "in the spotlight".   I "talk" more thourgh actions and am, for the most part, a woman of few words.   

  

Also, I do not drive a vehicle for medical reasons, therefore public transportation is a definite priority when it comes to work location.  I don't know what to do. 

Quote From: angelsnow5

i left my job a year ago due to wanting a change.knew in my heart i could do better and i got to the point where i would look at myself and just knew it was time.the day i left ,i wasn't even thinking about it. myboss was new and she had waited to get this move up for 9 years.well i was up for it to but she got it and from day one she said i was out to get her and didn't like her.and it got worst from there.she would take pot shot at are associates and me.and that day she called and said i had no back bone and that i would never move up.then i started thinking move up to what .that minute i just looked around and said is this where i want to be.i left and wrote i note to the manager who i went to with all this.that brings me to day.i now live with my sister ,can't find a job away from what i was doing for the money i was getting .i don't want to go back.i have moved so i don't know the area.so how can i found a job in oldsmar so i can get back out on my own.i just can go back because i wasn't happy.