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Hey All!

 

I have been in a job/field I have absolutely NO interest in for almost 10 years! 

 

I have a degree in Marketing and a great work ethic. I will work until the job is done and done right.  The passion is just not there anymore. I don't care if I do my best or if the job is right.  I know, I know...it's awful.

 

I have always been the type to get a job and just get "comfortable" in it.  I don't have a passion for it, it's just a paycheck.  I have said this to myself a lot recently, "I am lost. I need to find something that I can have fun doing, or at least like".  I am just not sure how to do that.

 

My family has been on me to change my job for years and I just stay there, complaining everyday about how my knees hurt or my shoulders hurt or how stupid the people I work for are.  Why can't I just leave?  Why do I lack the confidence to make the necessary changes? 

 

A couple years ago I started reading Dr. Phil's book "The Ultimate weight Loss Solution".  I got on board and started eating right and exercising.  I lost over 100 lbs.  I have kept 100 off, but have gotten off track with my eating and exercising and gained some back.   I am always able to start something, but it's hell to keep on track or finish it! ADD anyone?

 

In any case, I am hoping someone might have some advice on how I can identify my passions and start making the changes that will make me a happier person and give my life some direction and focus.

 

I am 34 years old and live in North Florida. 

 

Thanks

 

 

When I am presenting something for my study I get very nervous to do the presentation wrong and as a result of that it gets wrong. I also lack a lot of discipline to fill in a day as usefull as possible. I make plans but I just don't carry them out and after that I feel bad that I don't do anything the way I should do it. I am looking for the causes of my problems and I have found out that a lot of my family members are just like me, especially my father. My question is: How can you obtain certain qualities if you have never learned it from your parents or practically anybody?

 

This might not be the worst moment in my life, anyway! My life has been a series of continuous misfortunes and troubles, so that cannot be the end of life.

 

I am just writing because I cannot really understand when am I going to achieve any of my career goals when nothing seems to be going properly and nothing like real 'standards' is there to assess things!

 

Just left my job at one of the EuroMediterranean NGOs because my supervisor was a real 'you know what!' She was a horrible woman with much ignorance, much arrogance, much evil, little knowledge of anything, and endless power over the director of the organization.

 

Last time she was employed before joining the organization was in 1987. She was so lucky to work with this 'scarecrow' or rather 'muppet' whom she very well manipulated and enslaved to serve her needs for more power. So, just after one month of joining the organization as an intern, she suddenly became the Executive Assistant!!!!!!!!!

 

She managed to get rid of half the Organization's staff, especially the good ones as she felt more ignorant  each time she was compared to them.

 

Back to my story! Resigning in December, I sat for the recruitment test of one of the famous worldwide banks. I must say the test was horrrrrrrrrrrrrible!

 

A 3 hours test in Mathematics, IQ & English. I was amazed how I survived the test which put all the candidates under so much stress & required much concentration and speed (especially IQ & Math).

 

I knew I messed up all the math questions and most of the IQ, too, because I really wanted to concentrate in English ( at least I have a BA in English literature with a Very Good grade)!

 

Today, to my disappointment (though predictable) I knew I didnt pass the test! I feel sooooooooo down! I must say it shook my self-confidence and just the idea of having to sit for a similar test in the future scares me to death.

 

I feel so disappointed and am obssessed with the idea that everyone around me sees me as a failure, though I have always been recommended by my university professors for all the jobs I had because they really believed in my potentials and capacities.

 

I feel stuck, depressed and miserable! I am jobless, single and disappointed in everything in my life!

 

It feels like everyone is pointing to me in accusation and I have to defend myself against all the negative impressions which people have of me! I cried a bit but I dont feel any relief.

 

Has anyone been through a similar situation before? If so, what do you suggest to get over this and start again applying for other jobs ( which is very tiring and difficult!)?

 

U am worried about my future.  I have been unemployed for a long time. I having a hard time finding a job.   Could you give me some help?  I am  very unhappy unemployed Black woman, who need help. Thank you

Hiya

 

How old are you?

I am 42, and also starting over, I am applying for university this year, psychology and sociology, as I hope to gain some new career from this, e.g. teaching  and working as a psychologist,

I have had many set backs in recent years,

 

And am disappointed with myself , as I could have done a lot more years ago, ie when in twenties. I made many errors of judgement in my twenties and thirties. I think we need 500 years to live and learn and put into practice it all. But we don't have that.

 

I am also disappointed in many areas of my life, so I know how you feel. But I do not care what other people think, they have their own lives, and I have mine, I do not compare myself to other people at all. It is a negative thing to do. You have a degree that is a great achievement.

Don't give in.

 

Who has negative impressions of you?  I have lived that too. Don't react to them in any decisions you make, you need to make decisions to suit you, not as a reaction to other people. Becareful with that. I did that. And it is a mistake. 

 

I am jobless at the moment, been looking for work since after xmas. I get so annoyed about stupid managers too. But keep going. Try and stay positive. I was upset last week about one job interview and the manager. Decided not to bother with the job. It was rubbish anyway. But after a couple of days. I feel better. And ready to go for another job on Monday. Try not to continue one bad result in to the next interview.

All the best

Hiya,

 

I live in UK, guess you are in US. What type of jobs are you applying for? Where do you live? How old are you?

I am sorry I can only offer advise and someone to talk to , and not offer a job.  I am looking for a job myself.

all the best

Hi, look for a book called 'Your Eroneous Zones' by Wayne W.  Dyer.

 

Also, you can be who ever you want to be. You don't have to be like your parents. You can learn by reading books, going on courses, reading what is on the internet about the subjects, learn from your friends who have the qualities you want, watch other people who have the qualities,

and choose what you want to do for yourself,

All the best

hiya,

can you tell me if any one else has replied to you, as I am not sure if I am using the message boards correctly. I couldn't see any replies.

 

I am 42, English in Uk. And know how you feel. I am applying to university this year. With the hope to change career, and for a better future.

 

I have also just bought 'The Ulitimate Weight Solution', and need to lose 56 pounds.

 

How have you been doing?  Have you thought about what other jobs you would like to do?

 

I used to have goals and plans to make it work in the US but there's one problem: I'm Hispanic, dark skin and commonly average looking for a clerical job such as Secretary, Receptionist or Data Entry.  But as I posted before I couldn't get into any except taking jobs that nobody wanted.  Then when I came to Idaho the only job I had was being a housekeeper at an Inn for almost 2 year and finally calling quits on that crappy job and move on to get my goal to work in what I studied for 3 years. 

 

But it didn't came what I expected because on Dave Smiths, a car dealer in Kellogg, the person in charge of Clerical dept. told me that I didn't have enough experience and on top of that she also was saying that "Why don't you start cleaning houses?" I felt devastated. It was so much I got a panic attack as soon as I hung up the phone.

 

A few weeks later I got a job at a nursing home as guess what, Housekeeping.  But at least they gave me a chance to be other than a person who cleans toilets and dust rooms, they put me to work in the kitchen dept. to work as a Dietary Aid. They even came the opportunity to work in the Office Dept. as a Office Clerk.  I did everything to make a good impression of my work skills and for that they gave me an opportunity to be in Medical Records/Central Supply (Inventory) and I applied hoping I would do something I and my family would be proud of.  But I didn't get chosen which I really accepted it at first until one co-worker told me that it was because of my strong accent that I didin't get qualified to work.  Oh... I was feeling that someone stabbed in the back big time.  I got severally depressed that I still feel that I don't have any purpose in life,  that I'm ugly, fat, disgusting and a general failure because I can't bring a kid into this world, I can't get the job that I deserved and everybody is just to hurt me, big time.  At least, I have health insurance so I have to take advantage of that.  Because I don't feel like myself anymore ever since that.  I still cry because I'm not white, beautiful, with full of life like everybody else.  I feel so disgusted with myself that I thought of leaving everything behind because I'm just a failure. 

 

I really don't have any hope since I'm different with a weird name, with a nationality I can't quit and yet they don't defend me.  I feel left out. And I don't know how much I'm gonna deal with this.