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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 09:24:24 am
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Are you stuck in a dead-end job, or do you feel you are on the career path of your dreams? Talk about how to set - and achieve - your goals!

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April 3, 2008, 3:31 pm CDT

I'm in 90k worth of student loan debt!

Quote From: riley79121

Well...I went to a public university but my advice should apply to those planning to attend a private school as well.  The most important thing I can tell you is to stay away from student loans as much as possible. It is very easy to qualify for a student loan but it can be much more difficult to repay than many people anticipate. For instance, I went through a Master's program (6 years) and borrowed roughly $20K. That really isn't a lot considering I put myself through college (with the assistance of financial aid). Anyhow, I had to work some low paying jobs to gain some experience for quite some time before I was able to break into my field. I was able to qualify for economic hardship deferrments and forebearances, but of course the interest continued to mount. I am told that I now owe $76K+. I really wish I had just taken lighter course loads so I could have worked more hours and used more of my own money toward tuition. It would have taken me longer to graduate, of course, but I truely believe it would have been worth it.

If student loans is the only way to pay for your education, do it; but I am in 90k worth of student loan debt. I too went on to graduate school at a private school. I am angry at our government for doing this to their citizens. Did you know that in most other developed nations and countries, going to college is very cheap or free! Only in America will you have a 6-figure debt due to student loans.

 

Currently, mine are deferred, but they want me to start paying a $900.00/month bill. I will never be able to afford $900.00/month! It is ridiculous. I am just buying time for now, but I know eventually I may have to just straight-up default on my student loans all together.

 

It is very stressful worrying about this debt. I will never be able to purchase a home because of my student loan debt either. I could go out and buy a home, but think about it, I would just be that much further in debt, so I choose to live in an apartment.

 

It is a HUGE price to pay to go to college. I had no choice but to take out loans and trust me I have NO IDEA how I am going to pay these back. It's a shame that I have to worry about all of this. I have written all the congressmen and women in my state and all of the presidential hopefuls complaining about this. I suggest ya'll do the same if you are in this terrible student loan debt. Maybe one day they will allow us to bankrupt student loans or at least have our payments based on a small percentage of our income.

 

Good luck! If it is the only way to graduate from college, do it; but there will be hell to pay after you graduate!! Sorry, but that is the truth. Sallie Mae writes and calls me constantly and I've just accepted the fact that they always will. It is our country's fault, in my eyes for allowing this to happen to all of us just trying to get an education. Good luck!

 
April 18, 2008, 7:11 am CDT

Social Work?

Hello.  For years I have been considering a career in social work.  I've had four years of college but have yet to receive a degree of any kind.  The first two years of college I was taking basic classes to get an idea of what it was I wanted to do in life.  I knew I was interested in psychology and sociology classes, but I was convinced by others that a career in social work would not pay well at all.  So I decided to turn to a path in health care and became a pre-pharmacy major.  After about a year I had decided that it was not for me.  I spent the whole summer deciding where I wanted to go from there, and I decided that I would do something that combined health care with business since I had some interest in both areas.  Thus I decided to major in Health Care Management.  But now here I am two years later and I'm still wondering if maybe I should consider a career in social work.  I enjoyed studying the social work classes that I took as electives, and I really think that this might be my calling.  I would specifically like to become either an adoption specialist or a family services social worker.  But here are the problems: Money and Opportunity.  First of all, I am supposedly no longer eligible to receive any kind of financial aid because I have "accumulated too many college credit hours" from changing my major so many times.  This is what the local community college told me.  I just got married and my husband and I have recently had to file chapter 7 bankruptcy, so money is especially tight right now.  Also, I live in a town where careers in social work aren't likely to profit.  There's really only one agency I know of that ever places ads for social work positions...FACT, Inc (Families and Children Together).  Most positions that profit around here are involved in health care.  And I don't want to have to move because all of our family lives here, and my husband would have to quit his job.  Another thing is that I need to work to help out with the finances, but the only way I can work and go to school at the same time is to take online classes.  I have found an online bachelors program in social work, but will employers take me seriously if I pursue a social work degree via distance learning?  And how would I make the trransition from having a degree in social work to getting an actual position as a social worker? 

 

Also, I would like to say that money isn't important but that would be a lie.  Money is always a factor I worry about when trying to make this decision because I'll need to help support my family.  I want to start a family within a few years and I'm frustrated because I feel like I don't know what to do.  So what do you think?  Should I pursue this career path?  Do you have any advice?  I'm only 22 years old so I know that I sitll have plenty of opportunities out there, but some input would really help me out right now.  Thanks so much in advance!

 
April 27, 2008, 10:41 pm CDT

School or Motherhood or career change..something!!

I'm 25 years old. I'm in a career rut.  I finnished college but i cannot seem to find a decent job.  I jump from one really sketchy job to another.  I really think it's because i'm anglophone and live in montreal but i guess that's a different post.

The longest job i ever held was at a cinema for 4 and a half years.  I love the job but it was part time and minimum wage.  It was impossible to support myself on the pay so i took the 'responsible' step and went looking for an office job...so far i've had 4 and have lasted longest a year at 1.  The problem is, i can't think of anything i want to do.  I'm still trying to answer the question "What do you want to be when you grow up?" When i really think about it, i can see nothing better than being a mom.  I don't think my boyfriend is quite ready for a baby at this time anyway.  that's fine...i thought about going to school.  it would take me 3 years to get a BA, and then start a family but then what's the point of going to school anyway if i'm just going to stay home and take care of my family?  All i know is that i cannot keep getting these God awful jobs.  It's gotten to the point that i take a bunch of sick days and when i do go in, i hope my bus crashes or that i get hit by a car just so I don't have to go.  I cry a lot.  I don't know what to do with myself.  I feel like such a waste of space and i seriously thing the world would probably be better off without me.  It's not like i'm really contributing to society in anyway.  It's not even like i want the best job in the world, i would be happy with a mediocre one just for now while i wait to start a family.

What do you guys think? School?  Family?  Career?

I wish i was 16 again....
 
April 28, 2008, 9:14 pm CDT

Career Goals

Quote From: abitofyou

I'm 25 years old. I'm in a career rut.  I finnished college but i cannot seem to find a decent job.  I jump from one really sketchy job to another.  I really think it's because i'm anglophone and live in montreal but i guess that's a different post.

The longest job i ever held was at a cinema for 4 and a half years.  I love the job but it was part time and minimum wage.  It was impossible to support myself on the pay so i took the 'responsible' step and went looking for an office job...so far i've had 4 and have lasted longest a year at 1.  The problem is, i can't think of anything i want to do.  I'm still trying to answer the question "What do you want to be when you grow up?" When i really think about it, i can see nothing better than being a mom.  I don't think my boyfriend is quite ready for a baby at this time anyway.  that's fine...i thought about going to school.  it would take me 3 years to get a BA, and then start a family but then what's the point of going to school anyway if i'm just going to stay home and take care of my family?  All i know is that i cannot keep getting these God awful jobs.  It's gotten to the point that i take a bunch of sick days and when i do go in, i hope my bus crashes or that i get hit by a car just so I don't have to go.  I cry a lot.  I don't know what to do with myself.  I feel like such a waste of space and i seriously thing the world would probably be better off without me.  It's not like i'm really contributing to society in anyway.  It's not even like i want the best job in the world, i would be happy with a mediocre one just for now while i wait to start a family.

What do you guys think? School?  Family?  Career?

I wish i was 16 again....

First off don't think that you are a waste of space.  God has a plan for your life and if the plan was complete you wouldn't be here anymore.  Education is a wonderful asset to anyone, but to go to school with no idea of what to study will not solve your dilemma.  You may want to take one or two classes that seem of interest to you and see if that subject is something you would want to further pursue.  Being a mom is the best thing that ever happened to me!  I love being a mom!  Don't think that being a stay at home mom is a walk in the park and always rewarding.  You will miss adult interaction and possibly have similar feelings of not contributing to society.  I have finally got a perfect balance between career and family.  Until you are blessed with motherhood start discovering more about yourself to determine a career path suitable for you.  Try writing down your positive qualities you have to offer in a job, your interests, and what you need from a job.  This will give you a starting point on what type of career/job you would enjoy.    Do more self exploration to better know what you want out of life.  If you love children perhaps a daycare position, preschool position, or going to school to become a teacher or daycare director/leader.  Love animals - maybe work toward being a vet tech.  If you like the cinema work perhaps try to get a management position.   Your options are endless you just need to look inside yourself and decide what you will enjoy enough to stick with.  Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other sides; the pee spots are just in different places.  You don't have to do an office job; find a job that fits your goals and personality.  Your posting made me wonder if you are dealing with depression.  If you are get help to resolve that issue and life may not have such a glum outlook.  Depression can cause you to feel dissatisfied with all things in life.    Hope this helps!

 
May 2, 2008, 7:48 am CDT

Career Goals

Quote From: newsoul

First off don't think that you are a waste of space.  God has a plan for your life and if the plan was complete you wouldn't be here anymore.  Education is a wonderful asset to anyone, but to go to school with no idea of what to study will not solve your dilemma.  You may want to take one or two classes that seem of interest to you and see if that subject is something you would want to further pursue.  Being a mom is the best thing that ever happened to me!  I love being a mom!  Don't think that being a stay at home mom is a walk in the park and always rewarding.  You will miss adult interaction and possibly have similar feelings of not contributing to society.  I have finally got a perfect balance between career and family.  Until you are blessed with motherhood start discovering more about yourself to determine a career path suitable for you.  Try writing down your positive qualities you have to offer in a job, your interests, and what you need from a job.  This will give you a starting point on what type of career/job you would enjoy.    Do more self exploration to better know what you want out of life.  If you love children perhaps a daycare position, preschool position, or going to school to become a teacher or daycare director/leader.  Love animals - maybe work toward being a vet tech.  If you like the cinema work perhaps try to get a management position.   Your options are endless you just need to look inside yourself and decide what you will enjoy enough to stick with.  Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other sides; the pee spots are just in different places.  You don't have to do an office job; find a job that fits your goals and personality.  Your posting made me wonder if you are dealing with depression.  If you are get help to resolve that issue and life may not have such a glum outlook.  Depression can cause you to feel dissatisfied with all things in life.    Hope this helps!

I know your absolutely right.   I guess the problem is that i cannot think of anything that i would actually really like doing except for unreasonable career's like acting or singing.  I don't feel like i can quite fit in anywhere and i'm scared that i will just jump from one unsatisfying job to another.  It's a little different here in Quebec then other places.  I know i'm smart and educated but the fact of the matter still is i'm not francophone enough to land the good jobs in my area.  those are reserved for the smart and educated french people.  So what happens is that i fall into these tiny sketch anglophone companies, but along with that comes unstability, unreasonably low pay for the work being done.  always alone and the list goes on.  Really not as professional as i would like.  I have been looking for jobs but i can't seem to find any that are worth applying too.  I've been thinking of startign a family a lot.  I'd want to stay at home and take care of my family and i know your right, it's not a walk in the park and i definately didn't mean to imply that in my previous post but at least the hard work I put into my family would benefit my family and will be rewarding unlike working for someone else for the purpose of them taking care of their family.  Not nearly as rewarding for me.  I know i want to be a stay at home mom, my boyfriend is just not ready yet.  I don't want to pressure him because that's unfair to him, me and if we were to have children right now.  It still dosen't solve my problem i guess.  School...in what?  what classes?  what am I interested in (BTW, i graduated college twice) i'm fresh out of ideas.....do i stick it out here until my boyfriend is ready for a family (this seems like the best answer however the most self-destructive one as well) or do i job jump until i get it right?

 

And your right, i think i am falling into a slight depression, it wouldn't be the first time!  I'll talk to my doctor.  Maybe that's the camouflaged solution.

 

Thanks so much for your response.  I know it may seem as though I took nothing from it but I assure you I have!

 
May 4, 2008, 8:52 am CDT

Career Goals

Quote From: abitofyou

I know your absolutely right.   I guess the problem is that i cannot think of anything that i would actually really like doing except for unreasonable career's like acting or singing.  I don't feel like i can quite fit in anywhere and i'm scared that i will just jump from one unsatisfying job to another.  It's a little different here in Quebec then other places.  I know i'm smart and educated but the fact of the matter still is i'm not francophone enough to land the good jobs in my area.  those are reserved for the smart and educated french people.  So what happens is that i fall into these tiny sketch anglophone companies, but along with that comes unstability, unreasonably low pay for the work being done.  always alone and the list goes on.  Really not as professional as i would like.  I have been looking for jobs but i can't seem to find any that are worth applying too.  I've been thinking of startign a family a lot.  I'd want to stay at home and take care of my family and i know your right, it's not a walk in the park and i definately didn't mean to imply that in my previous post but at least the hard work I put into my family would benefit my family and will be rewarding unlike working for someone else for the purpose of them taking care of their family.  Not nearly as rewarding for me.  I know i want to be a stay at home mom, my boyfriend is just not ready yet.  I don't want to pressure him because that's unfair to him, me and if we were to have children right now.  It still dosen't solve my problem i guess.  School...in what?  what classes?  what am I interested in (BTW, i graduated college twice) i'm fresh out of ideas.....do i stick it out here until my boyfriend is ready for a family (this seems like the best answer however the most self-destructive one as well) or do i job jump until i get it right?

 

And your right, i think i am falling into a slight depression, it wouldn't be the first time!  I'll talk to my doctor.  Maybe that's the camouflaged solution.

 

Thanks so much for your response.  I know it may seem as though I took nothing from it but I assure you I have!

I am glad you were able to get something from my post.  Being a mom is amazingly satisfying and hard work but you are right it will greatly benefit your family.  Being a stay at home mom may be your perfect niche.  I found a great balance between family and career.  I am blessed that my 3.5 day career actually helps me be a better mom.  I know not everyone is so lucky.  Many moms love being a stay at home mom and couldn't be any happier and I hope that for you!

 

If you don't know what you want to go to school for than don't waste your money and apparently time that doesn't help get a job in your area.  Does your boyfriend have a good job?  Are you both happy living in Quebec?  If not maybe you need a new scenery and consider moving to a new place with perhaps better opportunities.  Whether you stay in your current job and job jump keep in mind that with your current goals this is merely a stepping stone to get to being a stay at home mom.  Thinking of it as temporary may make it a bit more bearable.  You know - The light at the end of the tunnel theory.    Take small steps to achieve your ultimate end you want.  How long have you and your boyfriend been together?  Is your boyfriend ready to commit to a marriage with you?  Those are important questions to answer before jumping to children.  Children do alter and add some stress to a relationship.  You don't want to be a single mom in the end.  (Not saying you will - just I don't know the insides of your relationship and trying to give you all aspects to look at.)  And you are very correct in knowing to pressure him is unfair to all involved.  That is very insightful and respectful to others!

 

I think getting the depression under control will at least lift a bit of the cloud over your head.  Then you can make better decisions to make life more satisfying.  I have been there and understand the effects of depression on one's life.  I also know the sooner it is treated the easier to recover from it. 

 

Keep me informed! 

 
May 12, 2008, 6:50 pm CDT

Lost and Starting over

 I was recently in an auto accident and I haven't been able to work a real job since.  I now have moderate brain damage in the frontal lobe which controls your memory and multi tasking.  I also have a bulging disc in my neck.  I want to be able to work at home for a real company doing data entry but don't know how to find one.  I think that really is all I can do because of me getting tired real easy.  I can't doing things for more than 2-4 hrs at a time.  Does anyone have any idea's in this area I don't know how to research all of this stuff.
  Because of all this I am about ready to loose everything I have worked so hard to get.
 
May 16, 2008, 8:17 am CDT

I feel the same way

Quote From: newsoul

I am glad you were able to get something from my post.  Being a mom is amazingly satisfying and hard work but you are right it will greatly benefit your family.  Being a stay at home mom may be your perfect niche.  I found a great balance between family and career.  I am blessed that my 3.5 day career actually helps me be a better mom.  I know not everyone is so lucky.  Many moms love being a stay at home mom and couldn't be any happier and I hope that for you!

 

If you don't know what you want to go to school for than don't waste your money and apparently time that doesn't help get a job in your area.  Does your boyfriend have a good job?  Are you both happy living in Quebec?  If not maybe you need a new scenery and consider moving to a new place with perhaps better opportunities.  Whether you stay in your current job and job jump keep in mind that with your current goals this is merely a stepping stone to get to being a stay at home mom.  Thinking of it as temporary may make it a bit more bearable.  You know - The light at the end of the tunnel theory.    Take small steps to achieve your ultimate end you want.  How long have you and your boyfriend been together?  Is your boyfriend ready to commit to a marriage with you?  Those are important questions to answer before jumping to children.  Children do alter and add some stress to a relationship.  You don't want to be a single mom in the end.  (Not saying you will - just I don't know the insides of your relationship and trying to give you all aspects to look at.)  And you are very correct in knowing to pressure him is unfair to all involved.  That is very insightful and respectful to others!

 

I think getting the depression under control will at least lift a bit of the cloud over your head.  Then you can make better decisions to make life more satisfying.  I have been there and understand the effects of depression on one's life.  I also know the sooner it is treated the easier to recover from it. 

 

Keep me informed! 

I feel the same exact way you do and have felt and been this way for a long time. I just turned the big 40 and if I dont figure out what the hell it is I want to do with my life I will be too old to work..LOL..I grew up always trying to prove something to my family, always trying to accomplish the unaccomplishable. I quit college for fine art because the math teacher called me stupid over and over again in front of the class, my father told me I was wasting my time, that you dont make any money at art. Everything I have ever done on a creative level I would pick things up so fast and when I did that I would get bored and move onto the next thing. For intstance; one yr I started creating these fairy tale creatures out of gourds, I sold them and was published on the front page of a local newspaper, i eventually stopped with the gourds because of allergies and the mold on the gourds was so awful..but even though I felt the newspaper article was a big accomplishment I have always wanted to accomplish something bigger, maybe to prove to my family that I am somebody they can be proud of.

 

I have been working on an art book and am afraid to submit my proposals to publishers for fear of failure. But at the same time I dont want to let fear stand in my way. I don want to fail. As I have failed over and over again. My family calls me flighty and they make fun of me for trying to accomplish what they perceive to be the unaccomplishable. So I have kept this book project I have been working on a secret so I dont have to hear the same words: YOU FAILED AGAIN!

 

Back to the work issue; If there is a crappy job out there I will find it. last month I worked at an oil change place, putting air in tires, changing rear light bulbs, talking to the customers, you also had to read off this huge list to each customer as to what the oil man did to the car. It was fast paced, working on 3 cars at once, no break for 7 1/2 hrs, nothing to eat for 7 1/2 hrs. It was horrible. I quit after one day even though the owner didnt want me too..No matter what job I do I always work my butt off and they never want me to leave but I never stay cause I hated the job! Everyone is always saying, everyone has to work, everyone hates their job and I think why should I have to work at a job I hate? I want to be happy at a job, not miserable. Maybe there is no such thing as being happy at a job?!

 

 

 
May 16, 2008, 1:13 pm CDT

Be proud of yourself!

Quote From: thebookhunter

I feel the same exact way you do and have felt and been this way for a long time. I just turned the big 40 and if I dont figure out what the hell it is I want to do with my life I will be too old to work..LOL..I grew up always trying to prove something to my family, always trying to accomplish the unaccomplishable. I quit college for fine art because the math teacher called me stupid over and over again in front of the class, my father told me I was wasting my time, that you dont make any money at art. Everything I have ever done on a creative level I would pick things up so fast and when I did that I would get bored and move onto the next thing. For intstance; one yr I started creating these fairy tale creatures out of gourds, I sold them and was published on the front page of a local newspaper, i eventually stopped with the gourds because of allergies and the mold on the gourds was so awful..but even though I felt the newspaper article was a big accomplishment I have always wanted to accomplish something bigger, maybe to prove to my family that I am somebody they can be proud of.

 

I have been working on an art book and am afraid to submit my proposals to publishers for fear of failure. But at the same time I dont want to let fear stand in my way. I don want to fail. As I have failed over and over again. My family calls me flighty and they make fun of me for trying to accomplish what they perceive to be the unaccomplishable. So I have kept this book project I have been working on a secret so I dont have to hear the same words: YOU FAILED AGAIN!

 

Back to the work issue; If there is a crappy job out there I will find it. last month I worked at an oil change place, putting air in tires, changing rear light bulbs, talking to the customers, you also had to read off this huge list to each customer as to what the oil man did to the car. It was fast paced, working on 3 cars at once, no break for 7 1/2 hrs, nothing to eat for 7 1/2 hrs. It was horrible. I quit after one day even though the owner didnt want me too..No matter what job I do I always work my butt off and they never want me to leave but I never stay cause I hated the job! Everyone is always saying, everyone has to work, everyone hates their job and I think why should I have to work at a job I hate? I want to be happy at a job, not miserable. Maybe there is no such thing as being happy at a job?!

 

 

I understand your fear of failure.  I will never be good enough in my mother's eyes - perfection has always been expected of me.  It comes to a point that you can believe what others are saying about you or you can choose to look inward and not need outward validation.  Congrats on your art book - WHAT AN ACCOMPLISHMENT!  You can't succeed without putting yourself out there for failure.  We don't always win at the things we attempt, but we can learn from each experience until we do succeed. 

 

If you are not proud of yourself, how can anyone else be?  Surround yourself with those that encourage you and ignore those that put you down.  You need to raise your expectations of a job and even if you have to temporarily work at a crappy job don't stop looking for the job you want.  Don't settle - you will sell yourself short.  If at this point a full-time job in art is unavailable or not enough money to support yourself, find another interest you have and work a job in it as you expand your art as a hobby or until an art job is available.  Expand your job search.  Research other fields you may find something new out there that you never thought of.

 

You can't change what others think and say.  You have no control over them and you are handing over your control of how you feel about yourself to them.  Rise above and take your control back.  I don't have alot to do with my mom since she brings me down.  I surround myself with friends that encourage me, a supportive husband, and my children.  I have a good relationship with my dad and brother as well.  I refuse to allow my mother to make me feel as a failure.  I now take my energy to strive to succeed to my standards and I get to chose if I am happy and successful.

 

Yes there is such a thing as being happy in a job.  I love my job, the people I work with, and my employer.  Don't get me wrong it is far from perfect.  Some days I question if I love my job but overall I do.  I make the choice to pick my battles and take the good and leave the bad.  If their is a problem I don't just bring the problem up, I also come with a suggested solution.  What that does is prevent you from just complaining but trying to move on and improve the situation.  In the last 5 years I have double my salary by not listening to others but striving to always improve myself.  Stop looking for outside validation - It will never be enough.  It has to come from inside.  Easier said than done, I know, but something to start working on. 

 

Trying to maintain a positive attitude and not allowing yourself to take a victim role makes a difference.  (Not saying you do - I don't know.)  If you don't like something change it.  Get to know yourself and your likes and interests more to help find what you can do until your art career takes off.  Small steps to your ultimate goal. 

 

I encourage you to take your art book to a publisher.  Even if the first time it is not published you will gain insight on how to improve and revise it to eventually get it published! 

 

Keep you head up!  Gain confidence in yourself and know that you are far from a waste of space.  As I told a poster before: God has a plan for your life and if it was complete you wouldn't be here anymore.  As Dr. Phil says "You teach people how to treat you."  Treat yourself with respect, love yourself, and be confident and others will treat you as that.  Hanging your head and believing you are failure will allow others to feed off that and continue to bring you down.

 

Good Luck!

 

 

 
June 6, 2008, 8:14 am CDT

Moving On

So yesterday was my last day at a job I have been at for 6 years. Being 22 years old, it was my first and the only job I have ever had. Of course all of my co-workers threw me a little party and there was cake and some presents. I am really going to miss each and every one of them. I am now going to be starting an internship and then I graduate in December and will be an RN. I am very excited to be moving forward in my life because I feel like I was stuck in the same place for so long. But on the other hand, I am missing all of my friends from my old job. They were a big part of my life for a long time. I feel like I have lost a part of me or something. It probably sounds silly to be so disdraught over my old job and friends, but if anyone has any encouraging works or can share a similar experience with me I think that would be really helpful! Thanks a lot! 
 
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