Quote From: renagadeWhy on earth are you focusing on your insecurities and failures - this is one of the prime reasons people don't get ahead. Insecurities and failures are not the same. An insecurity is either real or imangined. If it is real ok - deal with it and correct it if possible - if not - forgetaboutit. A failure can and should be a learning tool. Every time you fail at something - fine - learn from it.
Yes - Natalie - you should be focusing on your abilities and goals. I don't know why you arn't in the first place???
Is it fear of failure or fear of being successful, or fear of standing out from others that holds you back? I further read about 'Rich Dad Poor Dad' that Rich Dad had failures and made many mistakes - and he learned from each one. I am doing the same. I am waiting for one last ok to finish my website - and am waiting for another item to happen (lets say Part B).
If your thinking of starting a business pick an area that you know a lot about, feel comfortable with, and can have fun with - yes have fun with.
The other item that I employ and don't imploy is - I don't use a 'positive mental attitude' - I use a 'factual mental attitude' - this means that I deal with life as it comes. Too many people that have a positive mental attutide get angry over negatives that happen - they say 'no I'm only going to be positive today - well how about being real.
It is good that your goal is not to be superrich - making money should never, never be a goal. Having a business that gives people what they want, and that belives in Customer Service Par Excellencant well get you there. I read an article on customer service that said 4% of the people complain the other 96% go home angry - this is what will kill any business.
Let me know your thoughts. Rog
How is it that someone you don't know, can make you ask yourself the questions that you normally don't even acknowledge?
Three of your questions all made an impact on me. Fear of failure, fear of success and fear of standing out are for sure the things that are holding me back. I am a learn from mistakes person, that is one of the things that I have always lived by. As a student I was very scared of not being right, so I did nothing and only just graduated high school. So at some point I decided to ask more questions and let myself be wrong. Not only did I learn more, but I was happier with myself.
So now I am pretty certain that my two areas of concern are as always money and what I think is most important, stepping out of my comfort zone. Basically there are two options I am considering, one is to join the police force or two is to open a cafe in a newly developing local shopping center.
Two jobs, poles apart. But both are very enticing to me. But both are going to require a whole heap of commitment from me and that is where your questions hit home. To join the police force is going to require a lot of time and dedication, both of which will take me away from my family.
The Cafe option for me, although it would be expensive, is the safe option. As crazy as it seems this is also the scariest option. It is what I know, when I left school I studied to be a chef, and then took a job in hospitality in the defence force. I know I want to try something new and my own business would no doubt provide that, but if I get it wrong, my family looses, if I get it right, is it really what I want to commit my time to?
On the other hand if the police force doesn't pan out, we haven't lost anything. I just continue looking for another job.
It is crazy, a few years ago getting a job was all about me, now it is all about us. Nothing like some pressure to make you feel mad.
Thank you for helping me, it is good to have some wisdom. And someone to bounce my ideas off of.
Nat
