Topic : Career Goals

Dear all,

 

This is my first post so I am going to make it short and hope that people who don't recognize my name will give it an interesting read and help with their suggestions.

 

I have a problem in that I feel I have become a major slacker, and I hate it! I am NOT a moocher though, I am actually the sole bread-winner of my household (My wife chose to be a stay-at-home mom and take care of the house, which is a darn big job honestly!). But that's just it, i built two companies that now run with barely 5 hours of input time from my side per week. So we're pretty financially comfortable (two exotic cars, 4-bedroom villa, money on the side for kids college and retirement etc.).

 

I know a lot will be saying: "WHAT ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT THEN?!" Well I don't complain or whine, however I was shocked while watching a rerun from Dr. Phil's show where he said that people who are off work (on work comp or something like that) for 12 months have less than 10% chance of getting back into gainful full-time employment, and that they can't get in the busy productive behaviour anymore. And that is just it right now: I have become a slacker for two years doing practically very little. My body is physically exhausted all the time and going down to the grocery store one block up the road to pick up something is such a drag for me that I find myself avoiding it, and then feel like crap when after a while my wife dresses up to pick it up. I look at myself and I see someone who's like a depressed loser in his sweat pants most of the day. I wake up at noon and sleep close to dawn. I try to think of exercise, healthy diet (that helped a bit), or something like that, but I find my big fat butt sticking to the couch like they're in love.

 

It's hard to imagine that at 31 with successful businesses and a loving family and I find myself miserable. I don't have confidence or self-esteem problems though as my wife tells me (and she tells me EVERYTHING straight, God bless her) that I am proud and maybe bordering on cocky sometimes.

 

How do I throw this slacking out of the window, and get back to being a productive active individual? What is the solution to this cycle? If the businesses don't perform well at some point of time and begins going south (which it might considering that now I have become a laid back slacker who won't respond to anything less than a major crisis) I can practically destory my life and family.

 

Yours,

 

Sam

Dear Dr.Phil,

 

my name is mary.i am workinghere in UAE as a caregiver.whenever i have time i always watch your show.it really inspires me,thats why if my employer watch tv i got sad coz it means that i cant watch your show.they have only one tv and they often watch arabic movies since they are arabic people...you know, i salute you and your staff for making the show beautiful.i saw lots of people crying,laughing,and most of the time angry coz i know u touched there ego.i saw lots of different people.you changed there life in your won very good way.thats why im coming to you to please help me also.(i will cross my fingers).im dreaming to work abroad coz i know salary is good.good to help my family so i can give them a beautiful life.i am a certifeid caregiver from 2003 dreaming to work there.but until now i cant go there coz since i came from philippines they said going there is difficult coz it takes time to get visa.so some employer back out for getting caregivers from philippines.but i dont lose hope.i always said to myself if others can ii can also.for my family....dr.phil, can u help me also?i dont care how long i will wait as long as there is a sure job waiting for me.i need a job too much.maybe u can find me one.please....i will wait for your response

 

thank you

 

mary

WOW!  I've been going thru the same thing! I've been at my current job for almost 7 years and I'm so bored with it now that I'm unhappy most of the time. I've applied for other jobs but I'm 41 and the jobs I'm qualified for are usually looking for younger people. I've thought about starting my own business but I have no idea what I would love to do. Everyone talks about doing what you're pashionate about but I don't know what that would be either. I

'm sorry I don't have the answer your looking for. I just thought it might help if you knew you're not the only one who feels lost right now.

Good luck with your searching and if you learn anything that might be helpful, I hope you pass it along.

Four years ago I graduated with a masters degee in Information and LIbrary Services.

 

I made the decision at 40 to return to school and now I loathe what I'm doing and the profession.  I hate it passionately!

I'm wondering what can I do to turn things around. 

 

I'm trying to get a website up and running.  It has various items of specialty merchandise.  However, I'd rather use it to help schools, non-profits, etc.  for fund raising purposes.  In order to do this, I need to upgrade and have some inventory.  How does a person find funding for such a project?  I need some financial advise as well as marketing/advertising advise without breaking my bank.  Please help.

I remember seeing a Dr. Phil show about how he gave a woman a job at home, I think it was as a transciptionist or something like that, I am now trying to find that website as I am a 47 year old single woman living on Social Security benefits which are not enough at this time. I can supplement my income only by about $800 as per Social Security, but I have to work from home as I suffer from chronic fatigue and fibromalgia. But I have a Masters Degree in Public Policy and worked for 14 years in the Court System. Can any one direct me to or give me information as to working online for legitimate companies. I would greatly appreciate any assistance with this as my Savings Account is down to almost nil and I have to find something to give me an extra boost to pay those bills every month.

Yours, Meaghan  

Hello everyone I am new here. I am currently unemployed and have been looking very hard for work all summer. I was a school teacher last year and my contract was not renewed. This was a slap in the face for me because just weeks before I was told this the Principal looked me in the face and told me that I was safe for the next school year. As a result of this I do not feel that I want to teach any more. This has many people in my family upset with me. My sister tells me that I should still teach because I have touched more lives than I realize in the year that I was teaching. She also tells me that my neice says she wants to be a school teacher just like her Aunt Anna. This has me torn. I have started a second master's degree in Mental Health Counseling. I am hoping to go into private practice once I complete my degree and get all the licensing that is required. I would like to focus on children and possibly tie in my first master's degree of Childhood Literacy. My plan is to bring literacy into the practice by when we start the sessions and I get an idea of what the child is facing finding books on that child's level that relate to the problems they are facing. When I see the child for therapy we will read the book that relates to the situation and then talk about the book and how it relates to them. I feel that if the child can see that they are not the only one that is facing the problem(s) they are facing then they might be more willing to discuss what they are going through. What does everyone think about my idea. I know it is still like 3 years down the road but those are my thoughts by then who knows maybe I will have changed my mind on this.

I am 33 years old and I have a 14 year old boy just starting freshman year. I have been a stay at home mom all of this time and now I would like to get out there in the workforce but seem not to have any call back. I have applied all this past summer getting ready for my big change to hopefully get a start on it so when school started for my son id be set up at a new job. My husband works full time and more he owns his own business and with him gone 12 hour days and my son at school, im here really wanting to put in my time too. I feel that being off work this long has made me really unexperienced in every position out there. Im willing and able, but I need to find a new groove in life ya know. My husband is supportive and says not to worry but really I am not lazy I want to find something. I dont like getting into new conversations because everyone always askes "what do you do?" and i hate my response, i dont have anything to say. Then i feel deppressed because i feel useless and unimportant. uhhh, well i just wanted you to know that i know a little of how you feel and your not the only one.....try and have a happy productive day. :)

I'm fresh out of highschool and only half way through my first year at university taking an Honours BA with a major in Psychology (i want to BE dr. phil :P jk!). Anyway, I have always enjoyed Art and took a course in grade 12 that i really enjoyed (housing and interior design), i thought another good job would be a wedding coordinator because i LOVE love... so what better job would there be making fantasies come true and surrounded by romance? Also, my eye for design would be put to great use! I'm torn because my father always said "If you go to University and get a good job you will be able to (insert either "go on a nice vacation like that" or "buy that" or "not have money troubles like us" or "be able to do _____ as much as you want!!") " sooo i think i have started associating money, material objects and university with happiness. I like psychology... always found it interesting... other courses that i'm taking too like sociology and women's studies...but i can't help wondering if i'm doing the right thing... if i would be better off following my artistic side but i'm holding back because i have it set in my brain that it's below me or will cause my friends and family to think less of me... i was always "the smart one" among my cousins... and i don't really want to lose that status... i don't know... someone help!! (please dr. phil or robin if you read this... i need advice!) thanks...

I am a 47 year old single parent of a teenage daughter.  I have no formal education.  I live in northwestern Arkansas.   I got my G.E.D. years ago.  I am really tired of working at low paying jobs.  What I would like advise on is this, should I go and earn a degree at a university, a community college(two year degree) or if at my age, this is just not a wise thing to do.  And is an online university something to consider?  I have heard alot about even if I did go to school it wouldnt make any difference because of my age.  I am really confused about what I should do.  Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.