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Topic : 10/16 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp Newlyweds, Part 5

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Created on : Friday, October 12, 2007, 02:51:48 pm
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As their move-out day draws near, the three couples in Dr. Phil’s marriage retreat finally stop fighting and start getting real about making changes in their lives and marriages. First, the husbands watch their better halves get dolled up and leave for a night on the town. Initially jealous, the men are delighted to learn they’re going to get to spy on their wives. What really happens during ladies night? As they watch the women get approached and hit on by strange men, you won’t believe how the husbands react! Then, an important final exercise causes the men to let their guard down and finally open up to their wives. After seeing their spouse’s softer side, can Danielle, Kim and Karla trust again and move forward? Then, Dr. Phil has his final meeting with the group and imparts his secret for staying happily married. Upon seeing photos of their children, the couples recognize their motivation for a new beginning. And, Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, joins them to answer questions about strengthening their union from here on out. Talk about the show here.

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October 17, 2007, 12:47 pm CDT

10/16 The Dr.Phil House Man Camp Newlywed

Quote From: squigglymonkey

They told us last week and several times today about a "Confession no one saw coming"

What the heck was it?

Me and my husband watched the show and we both agreed What was the "CONFESSION" ?

hope Dr.Phil, will do a follow up on these couples .

 

thanks

fietkau2

 
October 17, 2007, 6:09 pm CDT

10/16 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp Newlyweds, Part 5

Quote From: lovemyhusband

If any of you watched the show last week you would know that Dr. Phil DID offer treatment for Karla and help for her husband with her addictions.  What, do you guys want him to repeat himself every episode?!?  Stop bashing!  If you don't like the series, here's some advice, don't watch!!!  Most of us out there LIKE it and get good information from it!!!  The fact that you guys think it's okay to come on here and think you can out shrink Dr. Phil is astonishing and rather egotistical!

Just let the Dr. do his work and leave him and his family the heck alone!  If he wants to talk about how much he loves his wife and children, then let him!  What gives you all the right to tear someone else down!?!

It's frustrating to watch people berate and say hurtful things about people in the public eye without actually thinking about what it might do to those who hear it, whether its the person you are talking about or their family.  Keep it to yourself!

Oh get off your high horse.  This is a message board not a church service. Everybody can use a little criticism.  Good for the soul!
 
October 17, 2007, 6:26 pm CDT

what happened?

what happened to jack and danielle?  and what was the big confession?
 
October 18, 2007, 2:14 pm CDT

It's a great show

I'm glad to see this Man Camp.  It reminds me of my relationship in several ways.  I'm very anxious to see how it ends.  Oh, by the way, I don't need any responses.  I am just voicing an opinion.  Thank You!
 
October 23, 2007, 3:16 pm CDT

Wonderful story

Quote From: unchained123

Three years ago my children and I could have REALLY used Dr Phil's advice!!!!!  When some of us watch Dr Phil's show, particularly all the dysfunctional, predominantly male, people, we are amazed at how dead on Dr Phil is at pointing out how cruel and damaging these men are to the women they try to control.  Nearly every disturbed personality trait those men exhibit, described my now ex-husband to a tee.  It is frightening that there are so many men out there like that!  If only I had been 'permitted' to watch a show such as Dr Phil's, so much unbearable unhappiness and misery could have been nipped in the bud, and my children and I could have escaped years earlier than the decade of emotional and verbal abuse, and mind manipulations that we suffered under, plus the aberrant and deviant sexual behaviors I was forced to participate in.  It took nearly two years to escape and finalize a divorce.  Altho the children are all adults now, they were young teens when my then husband succumbed to an older woman's devious brainwashing.  He permitted her to ruin our marriage and family, and ultimately chose her over his wife and children.  He became a very  mean spirited, cruel person, began drinking hard liquor, and demanding impossible standards for the children and I to achieve, ie, we were to be PERFECT, after he'd met her.  He was a miserable excuse for a human being, and because  he was miserable, the Lord knows, we ALL had to be miserable.  Altho I begged for marriage counseling, or any kind of counselor for us, the children, he refused to permit it.  In hindsight, I understand it was probably because his secrets would be exposed by his behavior, and we would have learned how truly disturbed the man is, and we would of course, opted to get as far away, and as fast away from him as we could get.

   Now when we watch the show, and see other women being abused (I understand sometimes men are the victims of abusive women, but predominantly it is the other way around), we just want to reach through the TV screen, shake those women by the shoulders, look them straight in the eye, and firmly tell them, GET AWAY FROM HIM AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!!  Dr Phil, you nail things on the head time and time again; we rarely disagree with anything you advise people.  You confirm that it was best for us all to get out of that house, and to stay away from him as much as possible.  For myself, I have zero contact with the raving lunatic;  my children, all being adults, choose for themselves if they want to have anything to do with him.  

   The only thing I fear for them, is they are living a lot of what they learned, and we all have issues to deal with, some of his nasty traits having worn off on all of us.  It is difficult for them to have fulfilling relationships because of the troubling emotional issues they struggle with ingrained from his abuse.

   I KNOW I'm not perfect either, and I'm sure they have some of my personality traits as well.  But the deception and betrayal was sadly all from his end.  The strain on all of us was, and at times, still is horrendous.

   I also want to comment on one of your books, Dr Phil, that was passed on to  me, only much too late to help, as the marriage was already in separation:  Relationship Rescue.  At the time, the ex was trying to FORCE a reconciliation, under extreme duress on my part, did I try yet again to save the marriage.  I went through your book, and I did every single workshop item, and that one part where there are many questions asked to get an idea of whether or not the relationship is worth rescuing, well the results I came up with were 90% it was over a long time ago, that's how bad it already was.  Him trying to force me to return with threatening innuendos certainly wasn't winning me back with his charm.  Oh, and by the way, he was STILL seeing his mistress.  He wanted the best of both worlds, his respectful wife for public life, and his mistress for his egotistical stroking.  What a sad, sad human.

   Sorry this is a long message, it feels good to finally be able to express a fraction of what we went through, and how helpful, even tho belated, your advice and observations are.  God bless you and Robin, your family, and everyone whose lives you touch!!! 

Hello and wonderful story. When you say it is too late for you, the book came too late into your life; do you mean things could have been different? How so? You mean you would have stayed with a husband who wanted to use you to look good but excluded you out of his life and his sex life? You can't change someone else if they don't want change. I think everything turned out good for you really, you got out didn't you? And good on you for that! Be proud of yourself and don't worry about what could have been because it sounds like a fantasy anyway; judging from what you have said, he wouldn't have wanted any advice anyway and I think things turned out just as they should have; sorry if I'm being too forward saying that.

warmest regards,

Snezana

 
October 24, 2007, 10:45 am CDT

GREAT JOB DR.PHIL & ROBIN

DR.PHIL

I WISH U COULD HAD MAN CAMP FEW YEARS AGO,OUR MARRIAGE WAS IN SERIOUS TURMOIL ON FROM START,ABOUT 6MO'S INTO MARRIAGE THINGS JUST WEN FROM BAD TO WORSE.WE WENT TO MARRIAGE COUSELING,TALKED TO OUR PASTURE,NOTHING SEEMED TO HELP.I WAITED LONGTIME TO GET MARRIED,I THINK LIVING ON MY OWN TOO LONG AND BEING INDEPENDENT WAS ONE MY PROBLEMS.MY WIFE WAS TOO YOUNG TO GET MARRIED REALLY,SHE WAS FROM A BIG ADOPTION FAMILY THAT DIDNT LOVE HER ,JUST THE MONEY THEY GOT FROM STATE FROM WHICH SHE WAS BORN IN.SHE WAS 1 OF 32 KIDS IN THAT HOUSE,SO UNO SHE WAS STARVED FOR INDIVIDUAL LOVE THAT EVERY CHILD SEEKS FROM THEIR PARENTS. MY DAD STARVED ME FOR LOVE,ALL HE WANTED DO WAS WORK AND TAKE NO TIME FOR US KIDS. HE WAS ALCOHOLIC FOR MANY YEARS, WHEN HE DRANK WHISKEY ,HE WAS SO MEAN. I WAS TERRIFIED OF HIM FOR YRS,UNTIL ONE NITE HE HIT MY MOM IN CHEST COS SHE WAS TRYING STOP HIM FROM LEAVING DRUNK,I GOT RITE IN HIS FACE TOLD HIM DONT EVER HIT HER AGAIN.HE RARED HIS BIG FIST BACK AND W/EVIL EYE ASKED ME IF I WANTED SUM,TOLD HIM GO AHEAD IF MAKE U FEEL GOOD,BUT IT WILL B THE LAST TIME U DO IT.I THINK PPL UNDER 25, IT SHOULD BE MANDATORY TO GO THRU PRE MARRITAL THERAPY,INO IN MY CASE IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BEST THING 4ME ,I KNOW IT WOULDNT HAVE HURT MY WIFE EITHER, SHE HAD A AWFUL CHILDHOOD,THATS Y I LET HER GET BY WITH SO MUCH CRAP I THINK.I REALIZE NOW I WAS ENABLING HER, NOT HELPING HER.SHE WOULD DO NE THING GET MY ATTENTION,NO MATTER WHAT THE CONSEQUENCES WERE (GOOD OR BAD), USUALLY BAD COS SHE NEVER KNEW WHEN JUST WALK AWAY COOL OFF, IF I TRIED SHE WOULD LITERALLY PHISICALLY STOP ME IF IT MEANT RIPPING MY SHIRT OFF OR JUST THROWING MY STUFF OUT THE DOOR. I WAS LIVING IN PURE HELL IN THEM DAYS,AND ALL THINGS SHE KEPT SAYING I WANT A BABY.HELL SHE WASNT GROWN UP HERSELF YET,SHE CERTAINLY DIDNT NEED A CHILD IN THIS UNSTABLE MARRIAGE.WELL LATER ON SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS PREGNANT, I WAS SHOCKED,THEN WORRY SET IN, THEN I TRIED B HAPPY ABOUT IT,BUT IN BACK OF MIND I KNEW IT WASNT GOOD IDEA TO BRING CHILD INTO OUR LIFE W/ALL THE ISSUES WE BOTH HAD,IT WAS TOXIC,AND THAT SHOULD NOT INCLUDE KIDS AND KNEW THAT,BUT HER THINKING WAS GONNA B LIKE BARBIE DOLL THING, BOY WAS SHE SURPRISED HOW MUCH WORK AND TIME TAKES TO CARE PROPERLY FOR AN INFANT,WE BOTH WERE SO NOT READY FOR KIDS THEN,BUT HEY IT HAPPEN LETS PUT OUR FEET DOWN AND B GOOD PARENTS.THERE LOT OF THINGS I DONE WRONG AS HUSBAND AND FATHER, BUT I ALWAYS LOVED MY KIDS,HELL B4 OUR FIRST SON WAS BORN WE HAD VIDEO TALKING TO HIM WHEN WIFE WAS PREGNANT FROM 3-9 MO'S EACH MONTH WE MADE SHORT VIDEO OF WHAT WAS GOING ON AND HOW MUCH HE HAD GROWN AND PROGRESS.JUST LIKE PRE-MARRITAL COUSELING, I THINK ALL PARENTS SHOULD HAVE PARENTING CLASSES,I BELIEVE IT WOULD HAVE HELPED US,INO IT WOULD HAVE HER FOR SURE,SHE WAS IN MAJOR DENIAL.SHE THOT BABY WOULD SOLVE ALL OF OUR PROBLEMS, LOL BAD PHYSCOLOGY ON HER PART.KIDS CANT FIXED BROKEN AND TOXIC MARRIAGES OR RELATIONSHIPS. THE WORLD IS NOT LIKE IT WAS 30YRS AGO SO MUCH HAS CHANGED IN SOCIETY, AND MOST OF IT IS BAD.WELL I HOPE ALL THAT READS THIS WILL SHARE AND TRY TO HELP SUM 1 THEY KNOW WITH THE ISSUES I MENTIONED HERE.INO DR.PHIL HAS INSPIRED ME TO BETTER MAN AND A GOOD LOVING DAD,NE MALE CAN B CALLED FATHER WITH A KID,BUT IT TAKES SPECIAL MAN B CALLED DAD.I THANK GOD EVERYDAY FOR THAT TITLE,TELL MY SON EVERY MORNING AND NITE I LOVE HIM,SOMETHING I NEVER RECEIVED FROM MY FATHER.I HOPE I HAVE INSPIRED OTHERS TO B BETTER PARENTS AND JUST BETTER PERSON. LIFES TOO SHORT,FOR PETTY CRAP, (LIVE TODAY FULLY,TOMORROW IS NEVER PROMISED)

 
October 29, 2007, 3:27 pm CDT

10/16 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp Newlyweds, Part 5

Quote From: lilybean850

I hope that all three couples do well in the future. 

Marriage is full of hills and valleys, but if you can learn to lean on each other in the valleys it makes things so much easier. I have been married to my husband for 30 years and I can honestly say that when I'm in a room with 1,000 other women, I know that I'm the luckiest woman there.  He's just simply the best.  We have had our times of tragedy and trouble, but we seem to have always leaned on each other and loved each other through everything. 

We NEVER called each other names.  When we were newlyweds, we were discussing things that can happen during an arguement.  One of the things was calling each other bad names.  We decided right then to call each other every bad thing we could think of so that if we were in an argument and one of us called the other a bad name, we wouldn't be surprised.  I have to say that we laughed hysterically through the entire thing.  When my husband got to "Bullwinkle nose", the discussion was OVER!  I was laughing too hard to even speak. 

I think that being each other's best friends and laughing ALOT has always helped us.  We never hid things from each other, nor did we throw things back at each other. 

You have all been blessed to have this incredible experience with Dr. Phil and Robin.  I sincerely hope that you will all continue to do well and just get better and better.  I will keep praying for all of you.

Please remember that the most important thing (after the laughter) is that you put each other first above everyone and everything else.  Being there for each other and supporting each other through all situations will bring you home safe every time.

God bless all of you and good luck.
 I appreciate your entry & liked your story..."bullwinkle nose"...clever!

I, too, feel like I am the luckiest gal in the world although we have not been married quite as long... working on 10 this upcoming year & striving for MANY more years. After seeing these "Man Camps", it just reminds me of just how blessed I am. No, we are not perfect & do have our ups & downs, but he is my greatest ally. When we met, he just put me at ease & I always felt like I could be myself around him. We have no secrets & trust each other.

It is encouraging to know that there are still people out there who have been married for 30+ years & still are in love & happy, etc. May you have many more years together!!
 
October 31, 2007, 3:09 am CDT

good on ya dr

These people you are entertaining us with really do need to grow up. they need t stop blaming others for the poor hoices they make, it really is a sad state of affars, i 'm not sure if any of them deserve your help BUT there children do .Sadly there are so many sad bitter borish manchild bullies and to many spinless bitter woman who set the bar to low. Stop re-acting nd start acting like a responsible human being stop being cowards life keeps on going it never stops
 
November 1, 2007, 6:38 pm CDT

Thank you

Hey Dr Phil,

 

My husband and I loved man camp.  It gave us some insights into our own marriage.  Any chance of a man camp in australia?!!! We would be interested

 
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