Peaple wonder how a child ends up like this. Well, I can tell you. All children are born with a clean slate. Each looking to be loved, tought, and formed. Then things happed to these children that confuse, hurt, and fustrate them. Here is a picture of how a child end up this way:
At birth
Mother leave Brant with 3 different families before he is 2 months old
Long week-end (2 weeks old) with Daddy at farm house
(3 other young man living there as well)
Second week-end with Grandma and Grandpa
Third week-end with Brother
Forth week he was left with Grandma and Grandpa while
Mom went to Myrtle beach
Firth week left with Daddy and Mom couldn’t be found when
Sunday night and Daddy had to take son to work with him.
Mother moves 9 times in next few months.
Brant was brought to Grandma’s house because a sitter was
Needed while Mom went to hospital for dying Aunt. Brant
Was crying when we was brought, Crying continued for 2 hours
And doctor was called. He wanted to see baby. I called Mother
And told her I was going to doctor and I would pick her up on
Way. Mother said no, dying Aunt needed her. Doctor put
Baby in hospital and couldn’t find Mother for 6 hours. She was
Not were she said she would be (same hospital as dying Aunt)
Social Service was called in.
Brant gets ear infection. In lots of pain. Doctor gives anti
Biotic. Mother does not give it because she says it is making
His vomit. Ear infection comes back. New antibiotic. Mother
Forgets to put it in refrigerator and then pitches it. Ear infection
Comes back again and this time Daddy will not let her take him
Back until ear has cleared.
(Continuation of same behavior for next 18 months)
Child is still a Baby (18 months old) and is expected to be a perfect
Mother Marries and has son stand up for her. Things go bad.
Mother takes child back and tries to form a family, but Brant
Cried and wanted Daddy. Mother tells Brant that her new
Husband is Daddy too. Brant gets confused.
Mother starts cheating on new husband and starts leaving
Brant at Grandma and Grandpa’s house. (Mother has shared
Custody and goes to her house every other week-end, but now
Weekends are being missed so she can spend time with new boy
Friend and telling husband that Brant is sick and she doesn’t
Want to tear him away from here. All time telling us that she
Is sick and doesn’t want to expose Brant, so she is leaving him
With us.
Brant spends next 3 years (86% of the time over next 2 years) at Grandma’s and Grandpa’s house with Daddy (Daddy moved back in to be closer to son). I loved him as my own - knowing that I would Have to give him up when son found a wife.
Brant is 3 years old
Son finds a wife. Marries and moves son into wife’s apt.
Family mores into new house
Brant is 5 years old
Family expects new baby. Step mother makes promise
Nothing will change. She will still love him the same
Things start to change very much. (Step mother finds
Fault with step son. He is 5, but mother makes him
Clean his own bathroom because he missed toilet. He’s
Not clean enough for Step mother. Son wants to go home to
Grandma and Grandpa’s (Son’s words). Step Mother if he
Doesn’t stop asking for Grandma he will never see her again.
Brant is 6 years old (April)
Brant starts 1st grade. It’s hard for Brant to remember all the
Things that he is suppose to. (Normal) But he is made to feel
Abnormal. Mom doesn’t want to be the Mom (thinks like
Making sure he does the things he should like do homework, get bed on time, go up with him to take a bath and make sure thing
Like picking up clothes and towels are done. She felt that at 5
He should do these things on his own. ‘He’s been told’ was
One thing she said to me.
Brant is 6 ½ years old
New baby is born in . Grandma asked to NOT come to hospital,
But to keep first son with her. Grandma concerned that grand-
Son should be a part of birth asked if grandson can come to see
New brother. He is allowed, but at the hospital grandma is
Asked to keep first son for a week so that new mother can
Acclimate with new baby. Grandma feels it is a big mistake,
But has no choice. Brant cries to go back home to be with
New baby. Finally is allowed home a week later.
Brant is never clean enough to even touch baby on his head,
While new mother kissed baby on lips. Step grandmother
Moves in with family to help care for new baby, but also
Treat Brant as if he was a big germ. Step mother with family
For 2 months. Daddy asks her to go home.
Step grand mother leaves. Mom goes to her parents home next
Day because she can’t coup. Mother bounces back and forth
For weeks, spending more time at her mother’s house then
At home.
Brant is 7 years old
Baby is now 10 months old, crawling on floor, but Brant still no
Clean enough to touch. Brant not allowed to touch baby toys,
But baby most be allow to play with Brant’s toys.
Brant is blamed for all things that go wrong at home. Brant is
Offered back to Grandma in front of him. Grandma has to tell
Mother that it would not be a good idea. (Grandma faced with
Undermining Dad or making Brant feel unwanted by Grandma
As well (Grandma feels she made a mistake and should have
Said yes)
(Hear say only) Mother becomes physical with Brant saying that
Brant became physical first. (not sure if Brant didn’t become
Physical first, but feel the adult should be the “the adult”)
Brant is sent to a lock down facility for children because mother
Says she is afraid of child. Brant spends 5 day in hospital and
Doctor’s find nothing wrong with child except deep depression.
Only problem is “family dynamic” and they need counseling
Brant allowed to come home from hospital put mother leaves
Until more counseling can be done. Mother moves out with
Baby. Mother tells Brant that she is moving out because Brant
Is such a bad child and will not move back until he is good.
Counseling started. Brant has his own counselor. Mom has her
Counselor Dad and Brant go to Family counselor (different one)
Brant has physiatrist he sees once a month. Family counselor
Felt that it was time to bring it together, so Dad and Mom meet
First. In first meeting, Mother is told she has to be an adult,
And walks out of meeting to never return.
Brant is 9 years old
Family is fractured. No divorce yet. Daddy is kept
from youngest son. Grand-parents are allow to see baby once in year and ½ . Daddy Waits to give Christmas presents to baby for 5 months. Grandma and Grandpa are still waiting.
Dad looses job because he is unable to do jobs as he was be-
Fore Mother leaves. (Some jobs start at 5 or 6 in morning and
Dad needs to get son on bus at 8) Dad still out 4 months later.
Bankruptcy and home is up for sell.
Brant no longer trusts anyone. Brant is full of fear, anger, and
Mistrust. Now he is on medications for Hyper activity, ADD, OCD, and ODD. Grandma cries at night for Brant and baby.
Now what do we do to repair this child.
(Original Air Date: 10/18/07) What if you feared your own child? Dr. Phil's guests say they worry that one day they may die at the hands of their offspring. Steven and Tori say Steven's 9-year-old son, Donovan, poisoned his siblings and then laced Tori's drink with aquarium cleaner. They say he laughed after his family members went to the hospital and has not shown remorse for his sinister acts. He's now in a treatment facility, but should Tori and Steven allow him back into their home once he's released? Then, Susie narrowly escaped death after her stepson tried to brutally kill her with a gun and then a knife. He's now behind bars, so why does she fear he will try to finish the job? And, Carrie and Lance fear their son, Michael, will be the next shocking murder headline. They say he threatened to cut his teacher's eyes out with a knife and kill his younger sister. When Michael becomes enraged, Carrie locks herself in the bedroom for fear of what he might do. Find out what Dr. Phil cameras caught on tape while at Carrie and Lance's house. And, why do the parents feel their son's behavior is influencing their daughter? What does Dr. Phil think is at the root of Michael's rage? Talk about the show here.
