Topic : 06/06 Suing for Love

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Created on : Friday, October 12, 2007, 02:56:16 pm
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(Original Air Date: 10/19/07) Have you ever been so devastated after a breakup that you wanted someone to literally pay for your broken heart? When Bonnie and her ex, Charles, broke up, she says he went to an unexpected low. He wrote and distributed The Bonnie Chronicles -- a diary that she says is all vicious lies. He claims she has AIDS, seasonal bipolar disorder and is promiscuous. She took him to court and won a monetary settlement, but he maintains that the book is truthful and says he's not paying her a dime! Bonnie says she's ready to move on, but is she really done with Charles? Then, Dawn unknowingly had an affair with a married man and was sued for her crime of passion. You won't believe who sued her, and what she has to pay. And, DrPhil.com viewers weigh in with their thoughts about suing over a lost love. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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October 20, 2007, 9:14 pm PDT

A Single Woman Isn't An Adultress

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She was married still, just separated. And separation doesnt free you from a marriage nor does divorce, only adultery. So they broke their commitment of marriage, when they did what they did.
No, I was talking about myself. when I got involved with a married man and I am single, I'm not committing adultry, I've never been married. He's married and cheating, not me. Then, after he calms the wife down, after she's been hitting him and screeming at him for a month, and he says she's going through a hard time, he still asking me to be with him, wants to hurt her all over again. as he's watching her suffer. she's screeming at me to take STD tests cause her husband cheated on her, brings him to my front door, she's pounding on the door and trying to open my front door. I'm on disability for anxiety attacks and post-traumatic stress, and all of this negative stuff for two weeks in my 50 years of life being involved with a married man. I am so sick from it, I've never let anyone in my apartment since this happened, and I would never date anyone in this town ever again. I've been sick over it for two years.
 
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October 20, 2007, 9:49 pm PDT

Wow..........some people are seriously bored

     The first guy who actually took the time to write a book about his ex, only to try and destroy her reputation, is CRAZY!!!!!!!!!  His other ex wife is nuts too!! These people need to get a life.  
 
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October 20, 2007, 11:48 pm PDT

Alienation of Affection

The  woman who was sued by the wife.  Well the wife was actually on the Oprah show this past week doing "The Other Woman" show.

 

 

 
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October 20, 2007, 11:54 pm PDT

Alienation of Affection

The woman who sued the lady for Alienation of Affection was on the Oprah Show yesterday (Friday).  The show was called "I"m The Other Woman".  If featured the mistresses and also the wives.
 
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October 21, 2007, 4:08 am PDT

10/19 Suing for Love

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I think it is absolutely ridiculous that someone would want to sue a spouse's lover for breaking up a marriage (talk about not accepting accountability for ones actions).  First and foremost, it is the "cheating spouse" that you should blame, because they had a "choice" not to cheat - they could have  ALWAYS said "NO" or better yet, they should NOT have put themselves in a position that would lead them to cheat.  When you choose the action, you choose the "consequence".  Most of the time the cheating LIAR doesn't even tell the person they are cheating with that they are married and/or have a boyfriend/girlfriend. 

 

The problem is, the person who has been cheated on is WAY TOO forgiving & is "too quick" to let the cheater come back home.  I DON'T THINK SO!!!!   You have to make it VERY CLEAR to your spouse and/or significant other that if you find out that they are cheating and/or have cheated, they BETTER make sure the person they cheated with was worth it, because the relationship is OVER & they are GONE.  There would be NO coming back to me EVER again.  That way, they have a FULL under-standing of the consequences BEFORE they choose to cheat.  

 

If is a situation where a man is leaving a woman who is a homemaker with children & she hasn't worked in a while, you SQUEEZE every single dime you can get out of him for alimony & child support.  I wouldn't give a crap who said I was the "bitter ex-wife, etc.".  There is a lot of truth in the statement "YOU PLAY, YOU PAY".  If my husband was the cheater and left me stuck in the above situation, you can bet your sweet ass he would be paying "BIG" time.   

So you would sue him for not loving you anymore....it that right???? See the real problem is that  obviously most people have a false since of intitlement. Although people promise to love you for the rest of their life they may not. Love is an emotion just like all the other emotions and your intentions may be to love that person forever but do you really have that control??? Whether to love someone or  not? First of all women need to quit playing to victim. Stop letting your husband take care of the home, finances, etc. Stop trying to be a "HOMEMAKER." Get out and make your our income and do something to secure your future if things don't go right. People always say that "Tomorrow isn't promised" well neither is love and at some point us as women need to learn to take care of ourselves instead of letting a man always lead the way. If your husband cheats....let him go. He wasnt the man you thought he was and you should be happy not bitter that you got away from him before you put more time in a relationship and a person that really wasnt worth it.
 

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October 21, 2007, 8:54 am PDT

Your judement is in question!

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This Bonnie is a nut- I don't believe her.. surprised Dr. Phil said "you don't seem the type to whore around".. Can Dr. Phil be that blind?  I could see right through her- it's always the ones that don't look the type ... you can see it in her eyes, she's nuts.. why did she quit her job as a teacher if she had nothing to hide?  So what if she had to be investigated- if she had nothing to hide, she should have just done what the school wanted, instead- she quit.. that shows me guilt.

Another thing, I think she's jealous over him getting back with his ex. I believe she swung that baseball bat around- I know people like this...  they look so innocent.. but they are master manipulators.. am I going to be sued now? heh

Yeah the guy's quirky.. but I believe him- he had every right to tape record her phone conversations.. if she had nothing to hide this wouldn't be a problem- she's a psycho.

Bonnie is not a "psycho or a nutcase"  Charles recording Bonnie's or anyone conversations without their permission cannot be used in court.  "You can see right through Bonnie?" And Dr. Phil is "Blind."  You can see what in her eyes?  Whose the Nutcase?  If you listen carefully -- the allegation was Bonnie swung  Whiffaball bat in the grocery store.  A Whiffaball bat is not a "baseball bat." It's soft plastic [harmless]. bat.  However, this action was denied by Bonnie.  I know people too, who will make up stories without any validity to whatever they tell others.  Charles for one!

 

Our Constitution and its laws protect everyone from being maliciously Slandered by liars whose intent is ruin someone's reputation by deformation of their character.  The only defense to Slander is proof that any statements made are the truth.  None of Charles statements were found to be true but lies, at trial.

 

As an example to the damage that can be done by Slander to anyone who has been falsely accused is  there are always those people, who will continue to judge an innocent person, because they can "see quilt in their eyes" that proves they are guilty"  and also calls them a "psycho and nutcase." And this is after a jury has found the defendant  [Charles]-- guilty of making false-statements and guilty of Slander,  The  Court awarded damages to Bonnie due Charles lies and actions.  Charles continued to Slander Bonnie -- on this show.  Didn't you see or hear these same lies repeated by Charles to millions of viewers on this show.

 

As for your opinions "that Bonnie is jealous, etc.  And so what if she was investigated, etc.," if she is innocent she has nothing to hide. "  I'm sure every allegation Charles made against Bonnie -- was investigated as part of Discovery Process by Bonnie's Attorney and Charles attorney before the trial, and found to be false and untrue at trial.  By Charles own admission his attorney withdrew their representation. In sum -- his attorney dumped him.  Attorneys are also officers of the Court.  No attorney is going to represent or defend anyone whose guilty of Perjury, for starters.

 

Dr. Phil is not blind.  I suggest you get your eyes and hearing check. Next, thankfully you weren't a juror.  The law doesn't operate on someone being able to "see guilt in anyone eyes". It operates on facts and evidence, only.  If Bonnie was blind and eyes were covered by dark glasses -- then you would have found her creditable because you couldn't see her eyes? By the way -- What do "guilty eyes" look like?  Are they orange and yellow and  blinking off-and-on "I'm guilty" like a traffic light!  Your logic used here is totally absurd.

 

 
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October 21, 2007, 8:56 am PDT

Embarrassed? You are Way Off!

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You should be embarrassed....Apparently he doesnt love you anymore....Thats a part of life and you can't sue for that. She has no responsibility....She doesnt owe you anything
I am shocked that you would tell this woman to be embarrassed when she has done nothing wrong!  She can hold her head high while her exhusband and new mistress look stupid.  He most certainly did love his wife, even begged her to let him come back.  He is only with this other woman because he has no where else to go and she is threatening him with a law suit over her injuries.  I am sure this man regrets his foolish decision to mess around and he realizes now that it was not worth it.  As for the other woman, she is responsible for her part in this devastating triangle and will have to live with knowing that.  You are correct that the "other woman" did not make any committments or take any vows of faithfulness to the wife, but she did cross the lines of simple right and wrong.   She was wrong, she knows that and it can't feel too good.  I would say that this is a win-lose situation.  The winner is the EX-WIFE to be rid of her foosish husband and his wrong mistress, and if she can recover some financially then GO FOR IT!
 
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October 21, 2007, 9:09 am PDT

I agree

I would love to sue my husband's mistress.  She is a manipulative, evil person.  She said that she was my "friend" and actually called to talk to me the night I lost my baby in the hospital.  I helped her when her dad was sick and when her friend had a brain tumor.  How does she repay me?  By sleeping with my husband when I went away on vacation to deal with losing my baby.  She has a history of sleeping with married men, the only problem was that they didn't leave their wives and children for her.  She finally found someone who would.  She was sleeping with one of the groomsmen in our wedding and would stalk him and threaten to tell his wife if he didn't come over.  She is absolutely crazy!  My husband has developed significant mental health problems and she took advantage of him.  She knows that we tried to have a baby for over 2 years and when we found out we were pregnant, it was the happiest day of our lives.  Needless to say, we were devastated by the news that it was ectopic and I was very depressed.  She is now trying to get pregnant in order to hurt me even more.  If I lived in a state where alienation of affection was a law, I would be in court RIGHT NOW!  I can't believe how one person can destroy a family and then laugh and enjoy it so much. 
 
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October 21, 2007, 9:10 am PDT

leave first

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Are you kidding me????? Everyone has been cheating on at one time or another...No one really owes you anything...not even your husband. If you doesn't want you anymore that is his right. He can change his about you. Maybe he loved you in the beginning but he stopped...GET OVER IT!
Well I guess in your mind that since everyone has been cheated on blah blah blah--it appears to make too much sense to you to just leave first. Who cared if he so called stopped loving me--that explains why he begged and begged for me to stay huh. Have some class about yourself and discuss it with your spouse and then LEAVE. What it is too much fun to put children though a nightmare instead. Too much fun to put a spouse through a nightmare instead. Because of YOUR selfish needs. I have no problem with the marriage dissolving..I do have a problem with crybaby,poor me my spouse is so bad cheaters that show no sense of value to anyone but themselves. Amazing you think nobody owes you  anything. I bet if the laws stated" If you commit adultery, you lose all money, possessions and rights to childred" you sure would be singing a different tune. Adulterers usually cry out that they shouldn't be punished. Just like any other person doing wrong cries--oh I should not be punished. It wasn't that bad...Tell my little kids that who have lost their family unit because of selfish ignorance
 
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October 21, 2007, 9:33 am PDT

I Agree

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     The first guy who actually took the time to write a book about his ex, only to try and destroy her reputation, is CRAZY!!!!!!!!!  His other ex wife is nuts too!! These people need to get a life.  
Can you imagine someone writing down every day of their life with a woman, imagining she has a boyfriend and that she has AIDS and then publishing a book about everyday of her life with him, like that's not nuts. Who would have the energy to write all of that stuff down? They said that he has no family and had no support in his life, so he saw her leaving him as he has to get her fired and ruin her life back. I think that is obsession to focus that much on one other person and publish a book. I would get a restraining order and sue him forever until he's in jail.
 

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