Topic : 06/06 Suing for Love

Has this country just totally lost its mind?  Does anyone have to take responsibility for their own actions anymore?  Funny how the woman has to pay money but what about the husband cheating?  How can anyone justify blaming someone for "stealing" their husband?  If your husband is going to cheat he's going to find someone to cheat with.  Blame that idiot!  Sure your mad if the other person new he was married but if it isn't them then it's going to be someone else.  Wake up people, take a good hard look at yourself before you start pointing fingers at other people.  We've all done things in our lives that are small and big mistakes but you take the responsibility for it, not blame the rest of the world. 

What's to stop people from pulling scams using this law?  Anyone think of that?  I could tell my husband to go find some unsuspecting woman with a bit of money and on our way we would be.  Watch out that this doesn't  come back to bite you in rear!!!

Excuse me while I go spill some hot coffee on my lap and sue for millions. 

The woman who filed a lawsuit against her husband's lover, sued the wrong person. She should have sued her husband. He's the one who entered into a contract with her and broke it, not the other woman.

David S.

Bklyn, NY

     Alienation of Affection is a ridiculous, time consuming and money wasting law.  This law has expanded to seven states and I hope it does not continue to go on to further states.  This law is ridiculous because it is a law that I can not believe it is a law.  Take the first guest whose ex boyfriend was threatening her, instead of using Alienation of Affection law to sue the ex boyfriend, why not have court orders to make the ex boyfriend stay 1000 feet away from her?  Why not sue him for harassment?  Why not sue him for making threats?!  There are other alternatives to sue the ex boyfriend. 

The second show was about a woman who did not know she was seeing a married man even though the man claimed he was separated from his wife.  The wife sues this woman under the Alienation of Affection law claiming the woman had ruined their marriage and that is why they are going through a divorce.  I believe the Alienation of Affection law shouldn't have been use against the woman, it was the wife's husband fault.  So, blame the man, not the woman.  The woman did not know he was still married, why is she to blame? 

The law is time consuming as well.  Going to the court, hiring an attorney or a lawyer, going through legal papers, this is what i called wasting time.  Instead of doing that, why not enjoy life by putting the things into the past and moving forward.  What's happened, happened already.  Instead of wasting your money to get revenge by going to the courts, go take a vacation.  Live life happy.  Give up the grudge.

I'm decided...It's an ignorant law, and needs to come off the books.  It's also a sexist law, most probably created by men to take all blame off their shoulders.  This law basically says that a person can't help themselves when they cheat.  They have absolutely no power over their emotions or actions.  Was this thing written during the Salem witch hunts, or what?  Why can't you sue the spouse instead of the other person involved. What if he or she didn't know the person was married? 

I've been in that situation.  In my mind, I was in a very committed, monogomous, long-term relationship with who I thought to be the love of my life.  When we met, I asked if he was in a committed relationship.  I never asked if he was married, because he wasn't wearing a ring.  He said, "no."  He lived in Washington D.C., which created a long distance relationship.  His career had him traveling everywhere.  At first we could only see eachother twice a month.  After four months, he arranged something at work, where he could come more often.  A year later, we were living together.  We lived together for several months.  Of course, he traveled, but the majority of the time he was with me.  Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought he was married.  Then, he asked me to marry him.  He began introducing me to his friends and family.  I think it was at this point that his family told him he had to be honest, or else they would say something.  His brother stood there and watched when Ben finally said, "I love you so much Olivia, but I can't marry you.  I can't marry you right now, because I'm already married.  I'm going to see a lawyer tomorrow morning.  I'm getting a divorce."  I just gave back the ring right there.  What was the point in going on.  My heart would never be the same.  I would never feel the same way about him.  I never spoke to him again.  He tried to get back into my life.  A year later, when he heard I was engaged to be married, he actually had a physical altercation with my now husband.  I was soooo embarrassed!  If his wife would have sued me, I probably would have shot him.  I would have truly lost it! 

If the state in question just has to keep their precious "alienation of affection" law, then it should just be for the people residing in that state.  How many people really know about this law?  I didn't know about this law.  Now that I know, I can honestly say I would never have need for it.  If my husband cheated on me, he broke HIS promise.  I would be more upset with HIM than the other woman.  If it wasn't her, I'm sure it would have been someone else. 

I know of women who focus on the other woman's actions.  To me, they're just making excuses for their husbands.  They don't want to believe their husand made a conscious decision to lie and cheat.  It's so much easier to blame the other woman.  I've actually heard one close friend call the other woman a WITCH.  No, she's not a witch, she's a human being, and even if she was the first one to make a move, he could have walked away.  People walk away every day.