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Created on : Friday, October 12, 2007, 02:57:45 pm
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(Original Air Date 12/14/07) Dr. Phil’s guests call their loved ones on the carpet about their unusual behavior. Linda says her dog, Sasha, is more human than canine. She loves to dress Sasha in pearls when company comes and feed the pampered pooch off her fork. Linda’s future daughter-in-law, Jill, says Linda is going overboard with her doggie doting -- especially since Linda wants Sasha to host Jill’s bridal shower! Then, Mary says it’s time for her husband, Eric, to let go of his dream of being a rock star. He’s 50 years old, and she says it’s time for him to get a real job. Eric says she supported his passion for 27 years -- so why is it suddenly abnormal? Next, Amber says she’s concerned about her fiancé, Colin’s, unpredictable mood swings, because one minute he’s the nicest guy in the world, but the next minute he’s flying off the handle. Should she call off the wedding until he gets his temper under control? Plus, a picky eater says she wants to stop being a “food weirdo” and start enjoying meals like a normal person. And, a woman at odds with her husband over the dangerous hobby that left her with a fractured back. Should she pursue her passion even though it terrifies her spouse? Tell us what you think!

Find out what happened on the show.


 
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December 14, 2007, 12:54 pm PST

Linda, the dog lady

This woman is out of her mind!  How dare she try and steal her future daughter-in-law's thunder on one of the most important days of her life by trying to make a DOG the center of attention!  Jill needs to heed the warning flags now and get out now while she can!  How does Linda's son feel about his mother wanting to pull this kind of a stunt on a day that should be just as important to him?  To me....this is just the tip of the iceberg.  This woman (Linda) is showing symptoms of a deeper problem that will only spill over into Jill's relationship with her new husband.  I think Jill and Linda's son should talk to his mom and let her know exactly what effect this could have on their wedding day.  Let her know that they are drawing the line now and there are limits to what will and will not be accepted from her. 
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:05 pm PST

Eating Disorder?

This is my first time participating in the message board. I am very upset by the "food weirdo" segment. Couldn't this be a serious eating disorder? A friend of mine has eaten like this for years and although she doesn't look anorexic, she eats nothing healthy, eats the coating off things, the crusts off bread and condiments, that's about it.  I am very concerned about her. Is there a specific name for this problem?
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:06 pm PST

12/14 Is This Normal?

hi. Dr.Phil needs to lookup the definition of compromise again. telling the sky jumping wife she needs to address her husbands safety concerns so she can just go ahead and jump again isn't a compromise. his level of fear might come down but, that's not really two people meeting on even ground.
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:07 pm PST

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You cannot make anyone do anything and Amber cannot make Colin seek help never mind make him take the help.  If they're at the point where they're coming on *national television* to see "is this normal?"  then to me it means that Colin does not want to seek help.  If he fly's off the handle and doesn't see that as a problem & the *idea that he might lose Amber* doesn't make him seek help then he *doesn't want to* or he just doesn't care.  If he loved her enough and didn't want to see her hurt he would have sought help long ago to get his problem under control.  Actions speak much louder than words and his inaction says he *does not care*.  You cannot love someone & *not care*.
Watching the show was very interesting, as my husband is the same way.  We have been married for almost 20 years have four children together.  I recognized this before we were married, but put it to  the back not listening to my intuition.  He can be a wonderful person and I know he loves me, but he can't change unless they want to.  Living with someone like that is like walking on egg shells.  You are always waiting to "fall through".  Not good for stress.  It has made me physcially ill for 6 years (diagnosed with MS intially but had at least 10 other symptoms).  I have just admitted to the problem over the past year and it is hard to unstuff it. all.  He is still in denial and won't go for help.  Have been to marriage counseling but still won't admit the problem.  Will say that he is wrong but won't get help.  Think hard before you act.  It is much harder to get out of a situation when it is more long term.   Truly listen to your gut and follow it-it won't let you down.  It is there for a reason.
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:36 pm PST

To: My Dog is a Person Lady

I have a truly wonderful DOG. But, he's a dog.

 

 I also have a 28 yr old daughter that was born severely brain damaged. I am so saddened for this beautiful girl whose mother is so obcessive about this stupid dog that she is oblivious about her daughter's wonderful, joyous milestone in life.

 

Lady, do you have ANY idea what I would give to have the opportunity to help plan my daughter's wedding and give her the shower of her dreams?! You are absurd. That dog is NINE years old - getting old for a dog. What in the world will they do with you when "wonder dog" dies soon? Will you have enough sense to beg your daughter's forgiveness? Will she be more mature and selfless than you, and forgive you?
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:38 pm PST

Colin's behavior

Colin sounds like a spoiled little child - 1st why doesn't Dr. Phil address his horrible language, not only to adults, but especially to children.  THEY ARE HUMAN BEINGS!  She says she is on the verge of leaving.  LEAVE! - no one deserves to live in that atmosphere & DOES NOT HAVE TO.  As a great-great grandmother, I can not imagine ANYONE talking that way to any of my loved ones.

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December 14, 2007, 1:42 pm PST

What a dumb woman to put up with Colin

OMG Amber needs to run away from Colin and not look back.  If he stays he will make those children's lives a living hell.  I don't care if he wants help or wants to change - he is not worth that families' time!  My father was just like that a-hole and my mother divorcing him was the best thing that has happened to my family.  We are A LOT happier and my self-confidence is showing more and more.  If Amber stays with Colin then she is one of the dumbest women on earth and she would then deserve the abuse that she gets.
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:45 pm PST

Amber & Colin

Beware be very AWARE, Amber he may do as you ask to get married but a lepord does not change it's spots.  I know.  Amber do not marry him.  I did marry the father of my children with conditions, he changed until I do.  Now I am 2 years away from their graduation and I can say I don't.  Please for yourself and children DON'T
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:51 pm PST

12/14 Is This Normal?

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I love my two dogs.  You have to keep things in perspective though.  Looking at your dog as if she were human is just creepy.
Same here.  I have 5 Boston Terriers, all of whom do have their own cute personalities.  I also feel like I do have a connection with my dogs xD.  However, I do KNOW that my dogs are not human.  Thus, they should not be treated as such.  Having a dog as the center of attention at a shower or wedding???  This woman is tooooo obsessed.  Maybe she needs a good man.....or woman in her life.  Or just to get out more - without the dog ><
 
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December 14, 2007, 1:52 pm PST

12/14 Is This Normal?

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Watching the show was very interesting, as my husband is the same way.  We have been married for almost 20 years have four children together.  I recognized this before we were married, but put it to  the back not listening to my intuition.  He can be a wonderful person and I know he loves me, but he can't change unless they want to.  Living with someone like that is like walking on egg shells.  You are always waiting to "fall through".  Not good for stress.  It has made me physcially ill for 6 years (diagnosed with MS intially but had at least 10 other symptoms).  I have just admitted to the problem over the past year and it is hard to unstuff it. all.  He is still in denial and won't go for help.  Have been to marriage counseling but still won't admit the problem.  Will say that he is wrong but won't get help.  Think hard before you act.  It is much harder to get out of a situation when it is more long term.   Truly listen to your gut and follow it-it won't let you down.  It is there for a reason.
My girls and I about hit the floor, we could have swore that this was my husband/their father. My husband gets so mad and swears when things are not done the way he thinks they should be, its to the point that he cant not control his self with our middle child anymore. He also gets mad when we go out to eat if things are not done just like he thinks etc. And here I thought they broke the mold with mine! I sure would not get married if I was her, just think of the kids and what he is teaching them I know I see it in my kids.
 
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