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(Original Air Date 12/14/07) Dr. Phil’s guests call their loved ones on the carpet about their unusual behavior. Linda says her dog, Sasha, is more human than canine. She loves to dress Sasha in pearls when company comes and feed the pampered pooch off her fork. Linda’s future daughter-in-law, Jill, says Linda is going overboard with her doggie doting -- especially since Linda wants Sasha to host Jill’s bridal shower! Then, Mary says it’s time for her husband, Eric, to let go of his dream of being a rock star. He’s 50 years old, and she says it’s time for him to get a real job. Eric says she supported his passion for 27 years -- so why is it suddenly abnormal? Next, Amber says she’s concerned about her fiancé, Colin’s, unpredictable mood swings, because one minute he’s the nicest guy in the world, but the next minute he’s flying off the handle. Should she call off the wedding until he gets his temper under control? Plus, a picky eater says she wants to stop being a “food weirdo” and start enjoying meals like a normal person. And, a woman at odds with her husband over the dangerous hobby that left her with a fractured back. Should she pursue her passion even though it terrifies her spouse? Tell us what you think!

Find out what happened on the show.


 
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December 14, 2007, 4:10 pm PST

12/14 Is This Normal?

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Umm.. Thats not normal in any sense of the word... Dr.Phil should get LINDA professional help just like any other person with serious mental issues.

 

Linda says her DOG does not lick it's butt. Umm LINDA here's a GROOMING FACT in regards to cats/dogs/etc... All cats and dogs LICK their butt! Its in their nature! See Linda a DOG doesn't get up in the morning and turn on the shower and hop in and put on the shampoo/conditioner/bodywash etc LIKE HUMANS do... So therefore the one and ONLY thing a dog can do to get clean is like itself, IE: LICK ITS BUTT! and then you let the dog lick and eat off your damn fork! THAT'S SO DAMN SICK AND GROSS!!

 

Not only THAT, but Im assuming at even some point in your life someone comes over to your place and IF they do have something to eat.. Don't you think that you could be putting those people at RISK of getting some sick disease, infection, bug, worm, etc, etc cause she used the same fork/plate that the dog licked after the dog FIRST licked its own butt after going to the bathroom and after eating some dead bird/rat that got ran over on the highway.....

 

DOGS are DOGS and CATS are CATS! That's it, thats ALL it is.. Thats why they are ONLY pets.. They are extremely stupid and uneducated compared to a person... OMG is this show for real? Dr. Phil might have to replace/fire his Creative Writing Department.... I mean I just got home from work and always look forward to Dr.Phil and some supper.. But after watching this... I gotta hold off now..SICK.

 

There's reasons why DOGS get shots for heart worms, fleas, etc, etc... Its not cause they are clean and sparkling!

 

Linda its ok to have a dog as a PET but that's IT. If your very lonely maybe look into internet dating or speed dating. Heck go to the BAR if it comes to that. Drink alot and its dark in there...

 

Oh yea lastly, Dr.Phil: My pet cat likes to get massaged behind the ears and on the head BUT only with my food, nothing else, not the hand, not the nose, and not anything else (hanger, etc). He also has an attitude, like when hes stressed out or mad, he will pull his hair out and spit it on the floor or rug. So when I come home for example I can see this chunks or balls of hair....Umm does that mean I can come on todays show too??? Please.

 

Also Linda.. Umm come on here time to wake up and come back down to earth and join the rest of us. Thanks.

I am an animal lover and see her point, some people just go more overboard then others.   Dogs lick their butt because they have 2 glands located there.  If one or both glands are not working properly the dogs reacted by licking their butt to get the glands to excrete, do their job.   If the gland gets plugged it is very bothersome to the dog who is then trying to correct the problem. Some times they can get the glands to excrete  but if not the dog will need attention at the vet....BEEN THERE with a 126 pound german sherpard,   you know how much medicine costs for a 126 pound dog.   LOTS
 
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December 14, 2007, 4:10 pm PST

Even though I was grossed out...

...by Christine's food selections, her problem (to a much lesser degree) is one I understand on a personal level. I am a "mild" picky eater, due to a complicated birth that resulted in mild brain injury. This is a much more common problem than most people realize. It is often NOT psychological but NEUROLOGICAL in nature and can't always be "fixed." I suggest to her that she see about getting a comprehensive neurological exam to see if a cause can be found.

 

 

LIZARD :)
 
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December 14, 2007, 4:28 pm PST

Dog Clothes

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I always feel sorry for dogs when I see them dressed in human clothes or Halloween costumes.  Poor dogs, they must be so embarrassed!
I take offense to the comment that dogs must be embarrassed in clothes. I have yorkies and mine are dressed most of the time in the cooler months. Yorkies do not have a double coat (with an undercoat) like most dogs. They have a single coat that is hair just like our hair. So they lose much body heat without clothes. Mine wear them and I know hundreds of others who do as well. In fact, my "crockpot" yorkie (figure that one out (as opposed to "teapot")) LOVES clothes so much I have to practically fight her to take them off. They wear jammies at night. It gets very cold and if I don't put their jammies on, they shiver all night.
 
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December 14, 2007, 5:15 pm PST

I can't believe you keep saying it Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil I can't believe that you basicly told Colin that he needs to lower his expectations. Maybe he is going a little over the top with the way he is handling the situation,but don't you think that society as a whole has lowered it's expectations enough? I can not tell you how many times that i have went in to a resturant and received horrible service. Or went in to a store and needed to ask an employee a question and they were talking to another employee and they made sure they finished their conversation before they even acknowledged me being there. Also when I was a kid I'm sure there were a lot of times that I had to be told more than once but by no means did my parents have to tell me the same thing every single day for six months. It would not have been tolerated. I think that maybe we should raise our expectations up a little, hold people a little bit more accountable for their actions, and maybe everybody might start feeling a little bit more self worth and have a little bit more self respect from a job well done. Just my opinion.
 
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December 14, 2007, 5:52 pm PST

Are you kidding??!

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 I'll start with Jill. Your marrying the son not the mother! I would never consider telling my mother in law how to do things! She was doing them long before me and who an I to try to change her? I love my in-laws even though they do some things I may not, I love them for who they are as part of my husband's and now part of my life. If she wants to be nice enough to have her dog through you a bridal shower enjoy it. You can have more than one! Smile, laugh, joke about it with your friends later but appreciate it!!!  She loves you enough to offer it! You should love her enough to accept her and Sasha!

 Now Mary I can understand your feelings on this but you married him just the way he is! It's obviously not a financial problem after 27 years. So why now would you want to take a dream away from a man you loved enough the way he is to marry? At 50 I would support my husband and his dreams for another 27 years as he would mine.

Most important Amber!!!!!! Do not marry some one that is in any way violent!!!!! It's nice he's a wonderful fiance, it's the sometimes thing thats a problem!!!! If he has a violent streak now just imagine how it will be once your married and he keeps getting worse and worse and you don't want to leave your husband, and it gets worse and you feel you can't leave, and it gets worse and your afraid to leave.  Why do this to you or him? Get him help work with him and when the temper is resolved if it resolves move in the direction that makes you happy. 

 

 

I can agree with you about Amber, but certainly not the other two.

" If she wants to be nice enough to have her dog through you a bridal shower enjoy it. You can have more than one! "  If her future mother-in-law was as sensitive to peoples feelings as she is to her dog - she wouldn't even SUGGEST it - as Dr. Phil said "It's not about her" - wanting the 'dog to throw a shower' is really abotu HER getting attention. 

The drummer husband - well, she should have insisted long ago that he get off his hiney and get a job.  However - maybe he could make a decent contribution by giving lessons....
 
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December 14, 2007, 5:57 pm PST

High expectations are great! Rudeness isn't.

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Dr. Phil I can't believe that you basicly told Colin that he needs to lower his expectations. Maybe he is going a little over the top with the way he is handling the situation,but don't you think that society as a whole has lowered it's expectations enough? I can not tell you how many times that i have went in to a resturant and received horrible service. Or went in to a store and needed to ask an employee a question and they were talking to another employee and they made sure they finished their conversation before they even acknowledged me being there. Also when I was a kid I'm sure there were a lot of times that I had to be told more than once but by no means did my parents have to tell me the same thing every single day for six months. It would not have been tolerated. I think that maybe we should raise our expectations up a little, hold people a little bit more accountable for their actions, and maybe everybody might start feeling a little bit more self worth and have a little bit more self respect from a job well done. Just my opinion.
 Being rude to waiters and other service personnel is NOT a good sign.  If they aren't meeting your expectations - say it with your feet and leave - or use a voice of reason, not anger to make your point.

Trying to motivate someone to do better by swearing at them and berating them doesn't work - period.
 
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December 14, 2007, 5:58 pm PST

Me too!

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I always feel sorry for dogs when I see them dressed in human clothes or Halloween costumes.  Poor dogs, they must be so embarrassed!
I think its bizarre.
 
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December 14, 2007, 8:30 pm PST

Normal people with abnormal problems....

I could relate with the guy with the low threshold of impatience. I have always been this way. I wish Dr. Phil had given more details on reading material. I know he mentioned lowering your expectations. I would have liked more info. I could relate to the guy, only I do not use such ugly language, or down people like that!!  I do find my self getting flustrated when things don't go perfectly. I use to end up doing everything myself.... I have had to learn to talk to myself,  and give others the opportunity to grow by letting them do a job THEIR way, and to back off, even if it is different than my way. Calm myself down, by talking to myself.   I still have those feelings, though. Wish I didn't. I want everything to go smoothly...... I am better with age.... but, there is still room for improvement..... So, I can relate to the guy.....I heard Dr. Phil say there was a simple solution-----so, Dr. Phil, what is it????? I have been struggling with this for years....

 

 The lady and her dog? I will admit I love my dogs, but eating after them and hosting a shower in their honor? Wacko. The lady who picks through her food? I am too much of a vulture for that! .
 
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December 14, 2007, 8:52 pm PST

Linda and Sasha

Linda,

Dr Phil is right!  Feeding only human food can be dangerous for Sasha.  She's a cute, smart little dog (not human), and I think it's great that you love her so much.  I have 2 dogs myself, and I call myself their 'mommy' and talk to them every day.   However, they are dogs, and they eat mostly dog food, with occasional healthy human foods as a treat.   If you are feeding only human food,  unless the diet is carefully balanced, she most likely is not getting the proper amounts of carbohydrate, protein, fat and vitamins and minerals.   Only a veterinary nutritionist can properly balance a human food -only diet for pets.  Feeding a little bit of whatever you happen to be eating is not sufficient.  

 I could not help but notice that Sasha looks overweight.   This is definately harmful to her, and some studies show that being overweight can take 2 years off their life expectancy.  I cannot give you advice about her diet since she is not my patient, but please talk to your vet about her diet.   There are many varieties of quality dog food.  Dogs WILL eat dog food if you don't give in and feed human food every time they turn their nose up at dog food.    Again, you will need to talk to your vet about how long it is safe for her to go without eating while you remove the human food and leave her no choice but to eat the dog food.   This is a lot like feeding kids that only want to eat ice cream or candy.  Take away the ice cream and offer then whatever you want them to eat.  They may skip a few meals, but will eat what you are offering when they realize no ice cream and candy is coming!
 
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December 14, 2007, 9:38 pm PST

I Agree

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This woman is out of her mind!  How dare she try and steal her future daughter-in-law's thunder on one of the most important days of her life by trying to make a DOG the center of attention!  Jill needs to heed the warning flags now and get out now while she can!  How does Linda's son feel about his mother wanting to pull this kind of a stunt on a day that should be just as important to him?  To me....this is just the tip of the iceberg.  This woman (Linda) is showing symptoms of a deeper problem that will only spill over into Jill's relationship with her new husband.  I think Jill and Linda's son should talk to his mom and let her know exactly what effect this could have on their wedding day.  Let her know that they are drawing the line now and there are limits to what will and will not be accepted from her. 
 
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