Topic : 03/21 Is This Normal?

Don't you think your over reacting?  Just because he yells at the kids when they don't do what they're told, doesn't mean he's going to beat them (or her).  Are you telling me you've never yelled at your kids?  If you haven't, then they must be the most spoiled kids in the neighborhood.

I tell my kids to do something and then let it go.  Later, if they still haven't done it I tell them again.  The third times a charm... then they probably get yelled at... it doesn't mean I'm going to beat them.  In fact they would laugh if you asked them if they were worried about me beating them.

Yelling at someone does not equal beating them up.

Too bad you missed the whole point.  *rolls eyes*

Jagger is a rockstar, hello, he has  JOB, the 50 yr old DOESN'T!  Its cool to play drums at 50, but contribute to the household, also!!

• Linda,Linda,Linda- I have dogs too. I pretend like my dogs can talk also. All of my dogs are butt lickers and crotch sniffers. When I say "I love you " to my shih-tzu, it sounds like he says "I love you". When my dog Sammie was young, I had a hard time house training him. I would get up first thing in the morning and take him out. For about 20 minutes. Then we would come back inside and he would proceed to pee in the floor. One morning, I said "Sammie why in the world don't you pee outside? It sounded like he said "Rhyo Ro"-translation "I don't know". For years, before he got deaf, Sammie would "sing" along with me and the radio when they play "The Star Spangled Banner" at 6:00a.m. on our local station. Sadly, he no longer does that. I think he can hear some sounds, but doesn't really know what he's hearing.( I have a video of me and him "singing". After the song was over I would always give him a treat and tell him he was a patriotic boy. I call my children my dogs' sister and brother. I call my husband thier daddy. My husband calls me thier mama. My son has never recognized himself as thier brother. But, Linda honey, they ARE dogs. I know how attached we get to them and how much we love them. But Linda honey, they ARE dogs. Even Sasha.
• Mary and Eric-Eric, you have a very understanding wife. A lot of women would not have stuck with you this long. My daughter had a boyfriend for 4 years(and that seemed like a VERY LONG time to me) who has a band. He concentrated on the band and she worked and went to school. She was very supportive for a long time. (We said NOTHING, because we knew how she felt about him) But, after 4 long years she began to feel different and eventually broke up with him because she got tired of the situation. Eric, you have a very understanding wife.
• Amber and Colin- I really hope you can turn things around, Colin. If not, whether it's with Amber or someone else, I think you will have a hard time in a relationship. Colin, I have 2 grown children and I had to tell them things over and over and over and over....That's life. The only time things may be the way you have tried to make them be, is in boot camp. Good luck and try really hard to change . Ya hear?
• Picky eater- I have known people with this problem. They just never came right out and talked about it the way you have today. They are still scraping thier food around on thier plate and examining it. And I am still ignoring them while they do it.
• Skydiver-Maybe you can convince your husband to relax and go with the skydiving. Who knows?
• One last thing, the reason I am able to give so much "good" advice is because I have a PhD-which is a Phantom Degree which exists only in my mind. I have obtained this degree since I have been on these messageboards. It has armed me with all kinds of wisdom and advice. I never knew just how intelligent and wise I truly am until coming on these boards and getting my PhD!

Dr. Phil, you need to have my in-laws on your show.  My mother and father in law are both 84 years old, in great health and excellent physical condition and are very active.  My 52 year old sister in law has lived with her parents her entire life.  She has not worked in 25 years.  My sister in law receives an allowance each month from her parents.  Her parents recently bought her a new truck (the 3rd vehicle they've bought her) and a pop up camper so she'll have somewhere to stay when she travels to participate in her hobby, Kite Carting.  They all live on my father in law's retirement from an oil refinery plus my mother and father in laws' social security.

I think my 52 year old sister in law, who is in excellent physical shape and is very athletic, should get off her BUTT and go get a job.  I don't think she has worked enough quarters to quality for social security when she turns 62.  She has never been married.

My sister in law does not cook, so she can't cook her parents' meals.  The home they live in, they had built 25 years ago, and my sister in law was supposed to finish the inside of the home so it would save construction costs for her parents.  Guess what?  Decades later, the inside of this house is STILL NOT FINISHED.  My mother in law and sister in law are pack rats, so the whole entire inside of the house is packed with crap, and dust is piled up on everything everywhere.  I don't know how my father in law can live like that.

They should all be on Dr. Phil--I'd like to see him tear my sister in law a NEW ONE.

I think he should get a job as a drum teacher in a high school or giving personal lessons for a fee. He shouldnt have to give up his passion completely, but at the same time he should be contributing to his family's income.  He can still find a way to drum and make money without being a "rockstar".