Topic : 10/17 Sexual Predators?

When Dr. Phil spoke to the mother of this little girl she stated that she was a single mother working two jobs.  Where is this girl's father? Why isn't he helping raise his daughter? Why was this mother coping alone? Where is her support system?

I completely agree with your posting. A "Live in" boyfriend is NOT family. They are outside of the inner circle.

I personally think that ALL rapists and  child molesters should be shot. The prisons wouldn't be so overcrowded and we wouldn't be spending all that money to house somebody for the rest of their lives. For people who don't believe they should be put to death, then find a deserted island and put all of them on that island and let them have at each other!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  My daughter was molested by her father from the time she was a few months old.  I did not see the signs and blame myself everday.  We did not have it confirmed until he got unsupervised visits and her whole personality changed.  Then she started verbalizing.  This all happened in Hawaii.  He was a local boy from a powerful family.  Only now do I realize how powerful.  No investigations were done.  On Maui the Island I was on, there was only one therapist who could see a child that young.  She didn't take my insurance and was too booked when offered cash!  I was then told by Child Family Services that my child was too young.  That only children 3 and older could be represented! The legal system did nothing, my own lawyer never even told me the father's "Aunty" was her best friend. A total conflict of interest!  The corrupiton goes on and on, even when a retired Judge stepped in to handle the jurisdiction case and found in favor of the father.  We had lived in another state 11 months.  The same retired court Judge then appointed himself as our mediator and charged us $200.00 an hour.  He spent most of his time threatening me and defending the father --  no surprise there!  I have all of this taped and documented -  but no one will take the time to get involved.  The  father has now won unsupervised visits in Hawaii.  I have to pay half and all other costs myself.  This is a man that never even wanted this child until I got away!  He doens't pay Support a lot of the time and is an on again off again ice (meth) user!  The only criteria he has to meet is that he not use drugs in front of my child!  How does this happen.  In the end because we let it.  This man was so good at his trade and had perfected over time with his own family members, who are too afraid to come forward.  His own mother has lied and covered for him.  He ingrained the fear into my child from the day of birth.  He was molesting her right in front of us and we did not realize it.  He did it by the way he carried my child.  He always carried my child with his hand between the legs.  He was manipulating the child the whole time he would carry my child.  She now does not want to be held or carried and this started way back!  My child's whole personality changed.  You can not tell me that you never know something is wrong.  I knew I just couldn't confirm it or catch him at it.  When I did I was so sick and angry at myself.  I will continue my fight no matter the cost.  It does cost everyone especially the child.  There are eating problems, constipation, fears, anger, discipline problems, etc.  If you know your child you know there is something wrong -- believe it!  I have no hope in sight but try to find it daily.  I die a little more everyday as I watch my child work through fears, anger, anxiety, countless obsessive / compulsive disorders.  The endless line of counselors who are too busy  and say they can do nothing but teach the child to deal with all the other issues while never dealing with the main issue -- the abuse!  The father who is allowed all the benefits while being allowed to continue victimizing the victims.  The problem is that no one wants to do anything.  These individuals need to be stopped as thay will never change or stop.  That's the joy for them - the adrenaline rush.  Pushing the envelope and getting away with it.  Society refuses to see this as crime punishable by capitol punishment.  They are no good to society and never will be.  I always believed people could change because I did.  I came out of drugs and a bad scene.  I now realize that this is a permanent defect and can not be couseled out or medicated away.  We are seeing more and more of this because we have not dealt with it as it needs to be dealt with.  I am not sure what that is but I do believe it involves death as the only option!

--A Mother Who Never Wanted This For her Child, Herself, Or Anyone Else!

I am very concerned about the statements that the mom may have known about this horrible crime. My daughter was molested when she was 6 years old by manager of the duplex my husband and I rented when we first moved to florida. I did not know that this had occurred until my son (5 years old at the time) made a comment that set my daughter off. She started screaming and yelling at him to shut up and that he knew they were not allowed to say what he said. To this day I still do not know what he said, but it was enough to set off alarm bells with me. When I finally got the whole story, this man had at first told my children, that I had given him permission to do those horrible things, and when he was worried that the threat was not working anymore, he told them that if they said anything about it, he would kill us. This man had a history of this, however, had never been sent to prision because the other parents would not testify or allow their children testify. This was years ago, before the laws were changed.

I feel that the molesters should be charged with murder, because they have murder our children's innocense. The man who molested my daughter was given jail time and was set free before the entire sentence was served for his "good time". My daughter has a lifetime sentence without the chance for "good time" early release.

Here's a poem I wrote. I hope it helps someone.

Judgement Day

would  you want him living next door to you? Especially if you didn't know the things you do.

He may be the man or woman living next door, It could be the young man working at the local store.

It could be a trusted friend, who wishes to keep the secret til the bitter end.

And it's very possible that it may be one of your kin, That upon your child has committed a terrible sin.

And if that be the case, How could you look your lovely child in the face.

How can we teach our children not to do wrong, if the crimminals rights stay so strong.

We try to teach them that crime doesn't pay, that there will be heavy dues come judgement day.

What do we teach them, when after the punishment has been set, not all of it do they get.

Please don't place anymore guilt on the mother than she already feels. Keep the blame on the right person. This mother needs all the support she can get, not more guilty feelings. She will have those for the rest of her life.