I, too cannot imagine the desire to have any form of sexual contact with a child. Honestly, until it happened to my younger two children, at the hands of a VERY MUCH LOVED AND TRUSTED family member, I did NOT believe it to be rampant, actually thought it to be very uncommon, and to be a crime committed by persons who looked crazy...or wild...acted wierd...something! I was wary of cars, the vans...obvious odd balls, all the things that I was taught in school. How naive I was, and how wrong. This is an unseeable mental disorder. It has degrees, some greater and going into other abuses, much like your father. Often. it is confined to acts with children that are purely sexual, not violent, or verbal. Sadly, these people are often very nice on the surface, to children...they appear to be supportive and very often emotionally connected to the child. Chester Stiles is like the stage 4 cancer of the disease....he has gone so far out of control that if he's not put away, I fear he will kill someone. They don't all get like that. Whatever is in the brain chemistry is the mis-fire that sets them off. It doesn't help that there is a Pedophile friendly website...NAMBLA, The North American Man Boy Love Association,,,taken to court to be shut down, only to win the right to exist under the First Amendment. Until our tragedy, I had no idea of NAMBLA....my daughter did a paper for her sociology class, the professor also, knew nothing of them. That makes me sick! I always was active in the school's P.T.A....we had speakers on drugs, alcohal, AIDS, dealing with a Gay child...yet not one mention of NAMBLA.. All parents and educators should be made aware of this, although you can't shut them down, you will learn where anyone having such an urge can turn to feel normal....it's like a negative support group. Take A.A. it helps to lead alcoholics to recovery, this group promotes the act...they LOVE children, would never hurt them! It really threw me to learn what depravity is influencing our society. Very scary, very wrong.
There is good coming from victims opening up...talking helps, but it is unfair that only the victims and their families have taken the proper steps to deal with this totally abnormal condition. There is reaearch into this, that does hold hope for a recovery, thereby refuting the negative absolutes that all will offend again...some will, some won't. The victims should not be held to the old notions, as if their rapist never offends again, will they be discredited? The research contrary to the old, is often seen as being pro-pedophile, when nothing is further from the truth. If it were given more note, than more victims may be believed, and a greater scope could be warned....they are not all alike. They do not have to re-offend, yet once a person offends, the crime is as great to the victim...you don't need numbers to be a pedophile.
I wish that since we, the victims and families who stand beside them, were joined in our progression, by the laws, the release of newer scientific findings, and an public exposure of NAMBLA. Good that the intenet predators are being publicized, and also, the disgusting kiddie porn rings...yet, it's not enough. These are all in the Stage 4.....there is a better chance to catch them. The more discreet, more intelligent pedophiles don't go near these arenas for fear of exposure...but they have NAMBLA...legal and a "how to" manual for pedophiles to be successful!
Why aren't we better informed, and what is keeping the low profile of the" quiet "predators? This is NOT normal....it cannot be conceived in a healthy mind....My opinion is that we are entitled to ALL of the information that is out there...whether one agrees with the research is not important...that is up to the individual. It's hard to understand, but the more publicized all information, we may begin to get a better handle on it. So many of them get off because they do not fit the profiles, and it is only now that we are being told, moreso by victims, that this is in families, done by people we know, love and could not suspect, until it is too late. Sociopaths, they come in degrees, some hide it well, but you cannot grow a conscience. I believe that is also a part of there sick minds. Will it ever END?
You've read the headlines, now watch the story about a crime so heinous some would rather see the suspect dead than in jail. The manhunt for the nation's most wanted alleged pedophile ended last night as fugitive Chester Stiles, accused in the videotaped molestation of a three-year-old girl, was arrested outside Las Vegas. Stiles had been wanted since October 5 on warrants issued for 21 felony charges in connection with acts seen on the videotape. Could you spot a child predator? Is your family at risk? Be there when Dr. Phil tells you the warning signs to watch for -- you'll be shocked! Plus, the reported victim's mother breaks her silence in an exclusive interview with Dr. Phil. Then, hear what Stiles' ex-girlfriend's son has to say, and what the victim remembers about the attack. If it's happening now, Dr. Phil is going to deal with it now! Don't miss this breaking news Dr. Phil Now. Join the discussion.
