Topic : 10/17 Sexual Predators?

I think one thing must be addressed with regards to why more hasn't been done to keep these preditors off the street and away from society is the way our entire world looks at women and children in general. Women are looked upon as burdons and something that should be either sold, beaten, tortured or just tossed aside if they do not appeal to the needs of a man. Children are looked as the same. Look how our laws protect men. From letting them off  from not paying child support to rape, murder, and molestation. My reasoning is because most law makers are men and feel if they change the laws, the same laws that they pass may be what brings them down. The women that are in politics think they need to be a man in order to become a politian and have to appeal to the male vote. Look also to how we all, men and women, just stand there and say, oh, that is a shame; THEY should do something about this. But as individulas wedo nothing.  Look at what is protrayed on TV. Men are strong hold the money and power. Women are there for their pleasure and sport. Look how the laws hurt women who try to make it on their own. Look at the workplace, the descrimination, the harrassment, the lower pay, just because that person is a woman. What we need to change besides the laws is that attitude towards women and children. And the most important people to do this is women themsleves. This is not about us vs them, this is about making this world a better place, because right now the way it is; it's not a pleasant place.

     I am not sure why people think that they can hurt someone like that and not get caught.  This poor child will be haunted with this for a very long time.  I think that men and women that seduce and hurt innocent children should be sentenced to jail for a very long time if not life so that they do not do it again! SICK~

 You have to wonder how many other children this guy has done this too also.  Just makes me sick.  Why they don't get life in prison is beyond me because it damages the child for life!  I am very concered they are saying on the news the little girl doesn't remember the abuse...that means she was so tramaized she has blocked it out...her mind unable to deal with it.  Sadly I know about this first hand as I suffered abuse as a young child also and also blocked it out.  While on the outside I appeared to be ok...I felt terrible on the inside and didn't know why.  I suffered years of depression, especially in my teen and early adult life and tried many times to kill myself...having no clue as to what was causing the depression and why I thought I had some terrible monster inside of me!  Children always think its their fault when something bad happens to them not understanding it wasn't their fault at all and they are not 'bad' and did not deserve this.  I hope the mom keeps a very close eye on her daughter because eventually it will start affecting her. Plus I am concern the public and other sex offenders like this will say..."See it didn't hurt her...she doesn't even remember it." And use that to justify abusing children. :(

For me, through the help of therapist and a hospital I put myself in because I hurt so badly I wanted to die, I started remembering the abuse.  It was like reliving it all over again and extremely painful.  I started having flashbacks, more nightmares then before...other 'triggers' but at least now I know why and eventually was able to get a handle on it and not let sights, sounds and even certain smells trigger a flashback or anxiety attack.  Even so, I know because of the abuse I am forever changed and it can't be undone. It does stay with a person forever no matter how young they were when it happened. 

I just heard on the news an ex-girl friend of this guy said that he had been sexually abused as a child himself...I can't say I am surprised. Most that abuse like this were abused as children themselves.  Its like a disease...a child is abused...grows up to abuse other children, those children grow up to abuse other children and it spreads and spreads and spreads like a virus.  MySpace just kicked off 29 THOUSAND sex offenders on their site...and that is only the ones dumb enough to use their real names.  How many are out there stalking our children? Its frightening.   I hardly know anyone anymore that hasn't been sexually abused!  Not everyone of course goes on to abuse others but far too many do.  What the answer is to this...I don't know...we need to find a way to better protect our children that is for sure.  This has to stop!

Hi,

We had a gentleman at our church  try to strike up a relationship with our two  adopted girls.  What we found out later was he had  touched other family members and other woman in the church inappropiately. The interesting part was the response we got from the church early on. The men in the church defended him like crazy. Woman in the church said, "it must of been the females fault" and "he would never do that because he is a leader of the church".

It was a huge mess. It finally came out when some of the new Elders finally looked into the situation more and more. What they realized was this had been going on for 20+ years. A younger girl came forward 20+ years ago and she went to the Elders of the church. She expressed her concerns and the Elders at the time did not believe her. That is where the problem started. Finally, 7 to 10  woman wrote letters and one of the pastors the letters in his desk drawer for about a year before anyone else read them.

It was like the pastor or church was covering it up. I think a lot of churches do not know how to deal with this properly and that is why some predators head to the church grounds. People want to forgive first even before someone admits they have a serious problem. Men at the church would tell me that he was sorry for what he did. The problem was he never said he was sorry for anything. I think he was upset that someone called him on the carpet about it.

Now he is not at the church anymore but his wife still shows up. She is in total denial and continues to just pretend nothing happened. I counted 15 woman so far have made reference to this man and his wife thinks it is all the other woman's fault. The church does not discuss it under the guidelines of "gossip". It is a real mess and the christian churches needs to get a real handle on this before it keeps getting out of control.

Believe me I would know...sexual predators are everywhere.  That little girl's mother should not feel at all guilty!  A sexual predator doesn't have to be a degenerant or a carny, and they certainly don't wear a name tag or hold up a sign announcing their intentions.  My sister and I were both molested by our dad.  He was a lawyer and a probate judge.  He removed children from their homes for the same thing he was doing to us!  We never told our mother, and as far as I know she never knew for sure until the day she died.  In fact, my sister and I never discussed it until I was a teenager and she was an adult.  It happened to me again as a teenager, by a man who was a family friend.  He was a well respected dentist!  It's scary, because it's way to common, and about impossible to prevent, because you can't guess at people's intentions, no matter how well you think you know them.  The day you put your child in the hands of a daycare, put them on the bus, drop them off at girl/boy scouts, dance, sports, etc. you are putting them at risk.  I've just tried to foster an open relationship with my children and teach them right from wrong...I know that won't prevent them from being hurt, but hopefully they know if something inappropriate happens, they can come to me and we'll deal with it. 

 

I agree with Dr. Phil one hundred percent when he says that predators like this should be put UNDER the jail!!! Boils on the butt of society like this should not be given a second chance to hurt another innocent EVER!!

I was three also when i was molested, i remebered it in my teens through memory and acting out being molested is bedded in the soul and you dont ever forget some how some way it will surfuce.. I am 47 now and that defining moment i will never forget, i was just a baby as this child to was and many many other children. I have received therapy in my 20's but no amount of therapy can or will ever take it or remove it from my life.

REPORT HIM AND YOUR MOM! SHE IS IRRESPONSIBLE AND YOU SHARE THAT TO A LESSER EXTENT I GUESS. WHY HAVE YOU NOT REPORTED BOTH OF THEM?

GOOD ON YOU FOR KEEPING YOUR CHILDREN AWAY FROM THEM BOTH!

Nothing angers me more than a predator preying on a child and/or women. This man should not be allowed euthanasia. He should be skinned like a catfish. He should have to die an excruciating death. He should not get off so easy as to die a peaceful death. The children that these people prey upon must live the rest of their lives with what someone else has done to them against their will. They steal the innocence from each child. This will never go away for the victim. This is a predator that is very difficult to recognize. I had a friend that was imprisoned for being a sexual predator. That totally floored me knowing he was around my children. Fortunately my children were not left alone with him. There were pieces of a puzzle that were missing. Now that I have  the missing pieces to the puzzle the picture is very clear that he is a preditor.

HI I LIVE IN WESTERN AUSTRALIA AND HERE WE HAVE CRIMINAL INJURIES MONIES FOR VICTIMS OF CRIME.

I DON'T HAVE ANY KNOWLEDGE OF THE LAWS IN YOUR STATE OF USA, BUT SINCE YOU MENTIONED THE PSYCHOLOGICAL DAMAGE TO YOUR DAUGHTER AND THE BILLS INCURRED AS A RESULT OF THIS CRIME COMMITTED AGAINST HER, PERHAPS YOU COULD APPLY FOR CRIMINAL INJURIES MONEY FOR HER. PUT IT INTO TRUST FOR HER SO SHE MAY USE IT WHEN SHE IS OLDER TO HELP HER ALONG HER WAY.

JUST A THOUGHT.

WESTERN AUSTRALIA