Topic : 10/17 Sexual Predators?

to the person who said they all should be castrated that has proven not to work whatsoever.  It is not all about the sex it is about the control.  A man who has been castrated may not be able to perform with his genetalia but he sure can with other parts of his body!  It is from the brain and you cannot change the pedophiles brain.  Studies have shown that over and over again...  Once a predator always a predator.  I believe that since the internets conception it has brought out more and more pedophiles due to right in your face images and online groups which condone this type of behavior  which just confirm their wants and needs.  A pedophile is a coward in every other aspect of their lives.   They are usually very immature and narcistic .  People wake up know what your children are doing  be involved and stay involved. 

I would have to say that being a victim myself of child sexual abuse I have to agree with you...  I too was a young child when it happened to me and although I can not remember just how long it went on for I still can not forget it... 

I was only 7. My parents let someone with their girlfriend stay on our couch. I never said anything about it to anyone until I was a teenager living away from my mom. I wrote her a letter about and she responded back but that is the time that the step mom decided she wanted to read the letter.  I was then asked questions about it and she basically did not believe me that it happened.  But she however did not remember that sometime shortly after these two people stayed on the couch for only a couple or few days that I then had started to pee the bed in my sleep...

Even when getting hit with the belt or paddle I did not say a word to them about the abuse..  I was too afraid to. 

I was too afraid to get up in the middle of the night to get to the bathroom in fear that the person would be there waiting in the dark.  For the longest time and even into my early adult hood I had to have a light on in the bathroom or in the house to have light incase I had to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.  Also ever since that had happened to me, I have not had a decent nights sleep... I sleep but if I hear a sound I am wide awake. 

I let it go after that but then when I had my first child and my baby being a girl.. I could not help but have everything come back to me....I had not slept good at all. I would dream of someone breaking into the home and doing aweful things to her and me then killing my boyfriend after making him watch it all.  I even day dreamed of the things happening... I could not sleep til I thought and knew that the doors were all locked and that was not before checking them over and over again about 10 times.  I got tired of it and had to go to counciling for it... For the fact that the step mom never believed me when she was told I never told my father.  I know now that he knows because he is up there in Heaven.  I know that he is watching over me and my 3 children. 

I have never really got over it all.  I still today can not sleep if my children are not in the same area as me as we sleep.  If they are in the next room I have to get up in the middle of the night to check on them and make sure they are still there. 

Ok I am now glad that they caught that sick person and hope that they never let him out on the streets again. I pray that he has not harmed anyone else these years on the run.

I always say that if anyone ever touched my children in any way they would get their private cut off and stuffed down their throat so that they could never harm another child in their life...  I hardly ever let my children go anywhere...I sometimes fear for them while they are in school. 

If society decided to inflict punishment on this person's body, cutting off the arms would be more fitting than castration. This is not a crime of the sexual equipment. This crime reflects an evil desire to exert control over another person by using violence.

I don't really care what happened to a criminal in his or her childhood.  I will allow God to  take mercy on his or her soul and  leave it to the courts to determine the difference between life and death to satisfy the bleeding hearts when worried about an abused person becoming the abuser..

As adults, in spite of a tramatic up bringing, we are responsible for our actions.  At some point we have to take control and do whatever we have to do ,for our own sake as well as for the sake of society, to heal the wounds and learn to live a happier, productive live.  You can never convince me that a pediphile is not aware of the damage he or she is doing to a child or for that matter any victum that they happen to chose to rape, rob, kill or harm in anyway.  WE are not animal without conscience. 

 

I was molested at 10 years old by my very own biological father.  He was drunk as usual.  Then go into the future, my daughter was molested at 10 years old by her step-father.  I lost my mind for awhile. 

This is something you never get over.  Yes you can move on but every once in a while it will come back to you.  Something usually triggers it.  Dr. Phil's show on  the sexual predator triggered it in me.  Sometimes I can watch a show of this nature but most times I cannot.  I am going to be 55 October 22 and still it is here after 45 years.  My daughter and I do not speak - her choice - because she says the dysfunctional family stops with her.  I didn't ask to be born into a dysfunctional family. 
She has hurt me very badly.  I live on my own in an assisted living facility and she just doesn't care about me anymore.  I cannot see my grandchildren.  Everyone in my family has decided everything is my fault.  That is why I don't have anything to do with any of them.  Yes, I have had mental problems who wouldn't. 

 

I have had awful things done to me.  I don't wish to relive.  I choose to try not to remember them all.  What hurts the most is I did none of these things - they were done to me yet I am blamed.

 

I read this pillow once and it said, "God gives people families and then sits back and laughs." That is so true in my family.  I usually tell people I am an orphan.  That seems more safe somehow. 

 

The pain in my life has caused other pains.  Physical diseases that I am sure is from stress and aging.

 

But not being able to see my grandchildren is just wrong.  My daughter will reap what she sows. 

 

Barbara

I believe that all child predators should be put to death because if they have violated a child once there is always that possibility that they will do it again.  Just like this guy has violated more than one child & each time their acts gets more sick until they finally kill a child.  Even if a child is not killed it will take years to get over what was done to them if they ever can get over it.  If all these sex offenders were given a death sentence there would be no need for them to register as a sex offender, no ankle monitors & no parent left to wonder who they have living in their neighborhood or in their schools.  One thing is for sure if these animals are dead they will never harm another child.

 Go to Deuteronomy 22:25-26  rape of any woman carries the same penalty as a murderer-death. God considers what they have done as bad a sin as murder.  I am sure rape of a child would carry the same penalty as of the rape of a woman.

I can't understand why the mother in this story did not notice anything when her 3 year old was raped. Either it was not a true rape but only made to look like it on the videotape, or the mother did notice and was afraid to say anything at the time. Shame on her if that is true!

 

We have to try to protect the innocent and guys like the one in this story should definitely be taken out of circulation for ever. No leniency here, because he will do it again when he gets out of jail.

It is costly to keep people in jail but there would be a lot more space for serious and dangerous criminals if they didn't incarcerate people for things like smoking dope or possession. Fine them yes, but keep them out of jail.

 

Mitzisweets

 

 My boyfriend molested my daughter for 5 years. She never told. We talked about bad touching and she kept silent. At 15 (4 years after I left him) she told me. Our lives will never be the same. She is not the person she wants to be and is too young to realize she needs help. It's been 4 years since she told me.
I will never forgive myself for not seeing, not knowing.  I wanted to kill him. I called the police and they swore out 12 felony warrants against him. They could not find him. I was forced to watch her fear for a month while they cold not find him, fearing for our lives and I finally had enough. I left work and went to find him. It took alot but I found him, called the police and watched him be arrested. I went to every court date, my child was forced to testify in front of him in court. My whole family was wounded by this man, my daughter blames me. Our relationship is not good but I hope deep down she knows I would have never LET this happen. I did not know, you may not believe me but it is the truth. He is in jail for 14 years, no early release, no good time....14 years. Not enough, I only hope he is getting his in prison. I want to go see him, confront him, maybe get some peace in my life but I know I never will. I most want my daughter to be better, to be happy and to know how much I love her and would in no way let this happen. I am sorry. There were no signs. He was a coward and a horrible man. If only I had known. Dr. Phil is right about how they get into your life. I was in a bad place, he zeroed in on me and was HELPING. I am so sick. I am a ghost of who I was and can only imagine how my daughter feels...she bottles it up, never speaks about it and is very angry and depressed. I know she needs help but don't know how to make her get it.